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About Tonight. The Ex's Friend.

Hey people!
I hope your day is going great. 
So I have a question, somthing I'd like to hear your opinions on. 
Some time last week while taking my long walk I ran into one of the closest friends of an ex-boyfriend. He and I were actually really cool while I was dating said ex. They used to spend a lot of time together so inevitably he and I spent quite some time together, and would run a few errands together. He was one of his few friends I could actually be friends with. But that notwithstanding it was always very innocent and harmless. After the break up we chatted occasionally but about nothing serious, those chats were very few and far between.. 
So anyways I ran into him last week and we gisted on the spot for well over an hour as we hadn't seen since the break up. We've been talking and chatting quite a lot since then. Yesterday he suggested we see a movie later tonight and hang out afterwards, after all it's a Friday. I asked him if it's a date and he said yes.…
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