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Thursday, 8 December 2016

Beneath Her Fair Skin and Full Lips...

It's not often I think about the past and I don't think about her in it. She was never a part of my life, not even on the periphery. But she was there, conspicuous, maybe it's just one of those things that happen when you're very light skinned, you're noticed, whether you want to be or not. 

But it went beyond her skin. She had the kind of grace that 15 year old girls couldn't fake or even be taught. It was innate. She had a quiet elegance to her. I'd see her walk gracefully along the corridors, faint smile on her lush pink lips, a thousand thoughts in her eyes. She intrigued me. 

Comparison is the theif of joy. I'd often wonder how it would feel to be her. To have skin so fair it was nearly transclusent. To have slender arms and beautifully shaped legs, and all the right friends. And of course she came from money too! She looked like it. 

But the one time I was the most impressed by her, the most impressed I'd ever been in all my teenage life, was when we were progressing up the ladder of seniorhood and they were choosing Class Supervisors who would in time be made Prefects, a status coveted by many. I remember how some of us who heard we'd be chosen had had to fight for it one way or the other. Either simply by desiring it, or sucking up to the current prefects, what we called chonkorizing in QC back then. 

But then this demure lass who was on her own, enviably nonchalant, had her name added to that list and was told that she would be made a prefect and she quietly turned it down. Many of us were gobsmacked, it just didn't make sense! That was the highest honor you could be given, something that many were ready to cry, beg, starve for, but this person was given it on a platter and she said "No thank you" and kept walking. I was in awe. 

But just last Sunday, her sister was a speaker at Do It Afraid and she told us how her family lost their wealth. In her words "Many of you here know this, how my family used to be rich. Not even rich, wealthy. Not small wealth o! Like Dangote type wealth, that's the kind of wealth my father's family had. And then one day, all of a sudden, poof. It was gone!"  

She then went on to share with us how this disaster, the sudden loss of that kind of monstrous wealth in the blink of an eyes, led to her father being extremely abusive, the trauma was too much to deal with that he began to take in out on his wife in the form of daily beatings. She said "I came from a violent home. It wasn't even ordinary domestic violence because most times my mother would fight back and they will turn our house into wrestling ring". She said these fights and the beatings became so horrific that at some point she just stopped to acknowledge a father whom she once loved so much, this led to daddy issues and it was only normal that the first relationship she went into in the university was a very abusive one. 

So I listened and thought about how all these were happening during that period I was looking at the light skinned beauty and envying her and wishing I could be her and have her life. 

I didn't know that she was probably so quiet and seemingly gracious because of the pains her witnessed everyday at home. Or that she walked in that trance-like state which I considered classy and graceful, because she was shellshocked from watching everything she had suddenly snatched away from her. Or that that light skin which I so envied was something she didn't even notice because when you cannot feel beautiful inside you simply cannot feel beautiful outside. 

And so on Sunday, among the many things I learnt, I was reminded how many of us see the glossy surfaces of people's lives and we begin to wish and long, sometimes we feel insecure or inadequate and sometimes we even depressed, yet beneath that gloss and finesse are horrors that we can only imagine. You might be shocked to learn that the people you're so envious of would gladly trade lives with you in a second. 

So basically the lesson behind all this long talk is _________________?

Oya answer. 


The TTB Meet

Hey people!

Who would like to meet up?

Some blog readers are meeting up Sunday the 11th of December at the Ikeja City Mall and anyone can join in. Present those who have RSVP'd yes include Favourite, Uyi, Kabuoy, Tiwa, Iyanu, Mabel and a few others. 

The idea behind the meet up is simply to meet up, basically. We just get to talk, laugh, share, hangout, make new contacts, exchange contacts, share ideas, eat, drink and be merry all in a very relaxed environment. OR, those coming get to decide whatever happens on that day.

The last hangout was far away in the lekki-Ajah axis. This one is in the heart of the mainland and is much more accessible to more people. 

It's really nothing serious, just a relaxing Sunday shared by blog readers and friends.

If you're interested in attending or sponsoring the meet, please send an email to so that I can add you to the group chat, or connect you to the group admin if you're not on whatsapp. 

Who's In??? ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜


Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Events You Could Attend This Week.


Date: Saturday, December 10th, 2016.
Time: 8:30AM
Venue: Guiding Light Assembly (GLA), Layi Ajayi Ibembe Street, Parkview Estate, Ikoyi, Lagos.

Plans are in place for the 4th and biggest edition of the Mind the Gap X series billed for the 10th of December 2016. In the celebratory spirit of Christmas, the December series has been aptly themed: LOVE, SEX and MUSIC – finding the Spark to make it Last. A powerful lineup of speakers have been announced and they include; Leke Alder, Joke Silva, Olu Jacobs, Tara & Fela Durotoye, Alibaba & Mary Akpobome, Bolaji & Omowunmi Idowu. Mind The Gap X is a specialized marriage and relationship masterclass created by Wale Adefarasin and Lanre Olusola for single, divorced, engaged and married people.

Topics range from an exposรฉ on the Mistakes and Errors that lead to divorce and Separation, Practical Tips on what it takes to Get it Right in marriage and relationship to a breakout session on Sex Straight –Talk in specially segmented classes for men and women.

This segment will be anchored by TV Personality, Marcy Dolapo Oni and Brand Consultant, Tomilayo Aluko who both co-host hit radio show, The Uncensored Talk with host, Lanre Olusola.

AFTER PARTY!!! There will be an after party with live performances from Gaise Baba and Isaac Geralds, to be anchored by The Merchant of Romance herself, Oyinkansola Alabi. There will be couple bonding games and activities, Barbecue, Music by DJ, Finger foods and Mocktails where everybody can have fun. The best part is, the whole event is completely FREE!

How to Register . Send an email to: with full name and phone number for confirmation and pre-registration.

Relationships 2.0: The Unfinished Business 
December 11, 2016

Sunday   3:30 PM

SWORTE (Stories Worth Telling) presents Relationships 2.0: The Unfinished Business a sequel to SWORTE talks most popular talk "Relationships: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly." This year features 4 excellent and compelling speakers who are not afraid to speak their minds and share the RAW and honest truth on relationships "the unfinished business" that others might shy away from. Our awesome speakers include: 1. Noble Igwe of and stylevitae.come2. Daddy Freeze OAP at Cool FM3. Charly Boy Nigerian singer/songwriter, television presenter, publisher, producer and one of Nigeria's most controversial entertainers4. Joke Silva Legendary Nollywood Actress And will be anchored/moderated by Aderonke of SMOOTH FM 98.1 RSVP today before the event sells out!!! Only 200 seats available.

Early Stage Angel Investing Masterclass
December 10, 2016

Saturday   9:00 AM

The RisingTide Lagos Early Stage Angel Investing Masterclass will take place at the Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi, on December 10th, 2016. You received this exclusive invite based on your affiliation with ABAN, VC4A, Work in Progress Alliance, LAN or Rising Tide Africa. - SATURDAY PROGRAM WITH EBAN, ABAN, RISING TIDE AFRICA Location: Wheatbaker Hotel, Ikoyi Doors Open: 9am Networking & Registration till 10.30am - 10.30 - 1.30PM: MASTERCLASS SESSION I Introductions Expert: Candace Johnson, President European Business Angels Network/ Rising Tide Europe Master Class: 1. Introduction to Early Stage Angel & Impact Investing 2. Start Up Factories: the rise of Accelerator Programs 3. The A to Z of Investing in Early Stage Companies 4. Investment Principles & Early Stage Investors Manifesto 5. Preparing for an Exit   -   LUNCH 1.30pm - 2.30pm   -   2.30PM - 4.30PM MASTERCLASS SESSION II  Introductions Experts: Candace Johnson, President European Business Angels Network/ Rising Tide Europe & Tomi Davies, President African Business Angels Network Master Class: 1: Early Stage Innovation & Investment Guidelines 2. Venture Academy Coaching Days 3. Due Diligence Templates and Guidelines 4. Termsheets 5. Shareholders Agreement - 6.30PM - 8.30PM FOCUSED MASTERCLASS SESSION III: FOR RISING TIDE & LAN MEMBERS To hold at the Meeting Rooms, George Hotel, 30 Lugard Avenue, Ikoyi Expert: Brigitte Baumann, CEO & Founder Go BeyOnd Early Stage Investing The Due Diligence Master Class will be supported by Aoife Hegarty (Rising Tide Europe) & Rising Tide Lagos Due Diligence Team Members: Folusho Fadayomi, Barbara Iyayi, Yemi Keri. The session will be moderated by Dr Ndidi Nnoli, Rising Tide Africa. - Host/ Moderator:Dr Ndidi Nnoli, President, Rising Tide Africa

Unusual Praise
Join us for A Night of Unusual Praise on Saturday, 10th of December 2016 from 7pm till dawn @ Church Grounds, Catholic Church of Divine Mercy, Admiralty Way, Lekki Phase 1, Lagos. Free entry for all...!
Gospel artists Ron Kenoly, Don Moen, Chioma Jesus, Lara George, Chee, Obiwon and many others will be there. 
Let Everything That Has Breath Praise The Lord!

Plein Air Lagos- Exploring & Painting Lagos in Lagos

December 11, 2016

Sunday  12:00 PM

Providence street, Marwa roundabout , Lekki eye expressway

Come watch your favorite Artists paint , attend the Drawing & Painting workshops and Exhibition.  A week of Art, Fun, Workshops, Live sessions and Exhibition! Plein Air Lagos accepts any 2-dimensional media or mixed-media applied to a canvas/board/paper embracing drawing, pastels, oils, watercolour, gouache, acrylic, pen and ink, and even screen-printing. Innovation and originality are encouraged alongside traditional art forms. Paint OutSunday, Dec 11,201612pm - 6pm Venue: Skyview, Lekki coliseum, providence street, Maria 2nd roundabout. Same street with former vis office)Free for allAll participants should bring their materials and easels. Drawing Workshop with Isimi Taiwo.c. Venue: Same as above Date: Sunday, December 11th3 - 5pmMaterials: N2500To register, text Drawing workshop to 09090390296Limited spaces available Deadline for registration: Dec 7th-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Lagos Freestyle & ContestSaturday, December 7 – 10, 2016Live painting of & from different parts of LagosSubmit by tagging #pleinairlagos(You only qualify for the contest and exhibition when you tag your live painting updates on Instagram #pleinairlagos)Best work will be determined by most likes. Cash & Art prizes to be won

Coffee meets Art Workshop with Ekene NgigePainting with CoffeeThursday, December 8, 20166 - 8pm Umutu Restaurant,(opposite yellow chilli)27A Oju Olobun close Off Bishop Oluwole street, Victoria IslandWorkshop is N2500. Text Coffee workshop to 09090390296 to register and pay before December 4th.Limited spaces available.
Artists include: Isimi Taiwo.c.| Madu John | Isio De-laVega D. Wanogho | Abiodun Badejo| Oresegun Olumide | Olufemi Oyewole | Adeleke Akeem | Abdulrazaq Ahmed | Icee Nweke | Stacey Okparavero | Akanimoh Umoh | Damola Adepoju | Join us!

Events I May Attend. 
Mind The GapX. I loved the way Dr Lanre talked about it on Monday at the GirlTalk conference but my reservation is that it might feel awkward for single persons. It's actually for singles and married, but I think this is a MUST ATTEND for the married. 

Unusual Praise.
I couldn't attend The Experience so I don't want to miss this. I would really love to be there. 

What events are you attending this week? There are a host of others. And please tell us of any you think we should attend. Thank you. 

LindI Ikeji Does Not Pay Tithes Or Do MMM. Be Like Linda Ikeji! (...says Daddy Freeze)

So yesterday Linda Ikeji's younger brother took to instagram to congratulate his big sister. According to his Instagram post, the media entrepreneur just purchased the 2016 Range Rover Autobiography which costs about $200,000 (over N90m using the black market rate), switching up from her white 2014 Range Rover. 

Well, Cool Fm OAP Freeze had this to say this morning;

I just got off the phone with Linda after congratulating her on yet another achievement inside this recession, a 70 million Naira Range Rover autobiography SUV. How did she do it? Did she invest in MMM? Of course not, did God bless her because she paid tithe to a Yahoo boy pastor? Hell no!!! So how did she do it??? SHE WORKED HARD!!! The key to success is hard work! Linda works 16 hours a day on the average and she empowers everyone around her, family, friends, widows, orphans and unemployed women that’s what God wants!
@officiallindaikeji I am so proud of you! You are hardworking, beautiful, sexy, intelligent, innovative, unstoppable, influential in fact Ifeoma, you are too much! 

Where angels fear to tread you go there and buy land. You are an avant-garde archetype and a paradigm shifter all in one and I’m so proud of you! Learn from Linda all u need is Hardwork, perseverance dedication and determination, money will surely come!
God said all the tithe belong to the Levites in Numbers 18: 21. Do you know that Levites are not even Christians?? They are JEWS and they practice Judaism!!! Never in the bible was the role of the Levites or the tithe transferred from the Levite to any apostle, bishop, deacon, disciple, prayer warrior, pastor, priest, prophet, choir master, minister or any Nigerian pastor.
None of the 12 disciples of JESUS collected tithe, so why are Nigerian pastors collecting it on their behalf?

Oh well... What do you think?


Tuesday, 6 December 2016

Instagram and Friends Who Don't Want Us To Be Great. Why?

In the real world likes don't matter, but on Instagram, likes is life! Like, what else is the point? 

Posting a seemingly good selfie and getting few or no likes can totally ruin your day and make you begin to question your very existence. 

And it's in the course of this questioning that you also ask, but even if instagram people couldn't like my picture, what about my friends?


You now lean back as realization dawns, that you have some friends who follow you on Instagram but never, like NEVER like your pictures. 

Such people don't want you to be great in life. Such people are NOT your friends. 

Seriously. I have a "close" friend who tags me on several videos or posts but has never liked one of my pictures, not ONE ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜จ.

Yes I checked ๐Ÿ™ˆ.

If you don't like my pictures on Instagram then you don't deserve my friendship in real life ๐Ÿšถ. 

But I always wondered, should I give them the benefit of doubt, like, maybe they just didn't see my post, maybe they missed it somehow...

But I attended an event on Sunday, and I was joined by a close friend. And I took a selfie. And I posted it. And it was getting likes. And at some point my eyes strayed towards my friend. And she was on Instagram. And at that very point she scrolled to my picture. And she stopped for a few seconds and looked at it. And then she just scrolled past, like ๐Ÿ˜. And I was sitting right there beside her! Ahn ahn ore mi! ๐Ÿ˜ฟ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ง๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

Fear God! ๐Ÿ˜•

If you cannot like my picture in my presence only God knows what you can do in my absence๐Ÿ˜ง๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ต. 

And I said to her "AH! Why didn't you like my picture?"

And she didn't now know what to say. 


*awkward silence* 

*clears throat*

"I will like it later". 

HUH? ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

LOL. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚


Hehehe. Who can relate? Just having fun, this sun wants to melt me, I need to leave this country ooo!

Meanwhile please follow our blog on Instagram on @thelmathinksblog 

Thank you. 


#GirlTalk & Things

    Leaving home to attend the GirlTalk conference

GIRL talk actually stands for God In Real Life. Her conference held yesterday the 5th at the Eko Hotel & Suites from 8am-5pm and it was a power packed day. 

The speakers for the days were Omilola Oshikoya of Do It Afraid, Life coach and Wellness expert; Dr Lanre Olusola, Bunmi George of Shredder Gang and Mrs Tara Durotoye. The host was the very beautiful Esther Longe. 

I'm not going to sermonize today. All I'll say is that people need to invest more time and money (if you can afford it) in these seminars and conferences. The last two days have enriched me in a way nothing else could have. My cousin was surprised that I attend paid conferences and said I should have invested the N20,000 I paid for #DoItAfraid in MMM instead. I laughed. 

We all have our different priorities. I know myself, I may do MMM and make hundreds of thousands and spend it all in one week, but these lectures enrich me and yield dividends that last for years. Oh that's not to say I have anything against MMM, I have friends who are cashing out from it big time, it's a saviour for many in this economy. While it may crash one day, MMM at the moment is doing more for the people than the Nigerian government has in years. 

But lemme stay not digress. Also remember also the words of Arese Ugwu; your network is your net-worth. True words. I'm already getting my 2017 jobs and I got one from yesterday's conference. 

I told my cousin not to vex for me o! I'm sponsoring 10 people for the Do It Afraid conference in December 2017 so I wonder what she will say to me then. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Yes, yesterday was very rich and also very different from Sunday's conference although it was almost the mix of the same people. 

A lot of you have asked me to inform you about such events and I would start to do that on the blog. There are several holding this month. Some are paid, some are free. I will inform you of the ones I know about. 

That said, not every event/conference is for you. Attend the ones you're sure that you will benefit from.

Esther Longe & Bunmi Olusola 

Omilola Oshikoya, Esther and Tara Durotoye. 

Lanre Olusola & Esther 

If you also know of any holding that you think I might like to attend, please inform me. Thank you!


#FranklySpeaking. Muscle Work vs Brain Work; Africa And The EsauMentality .

The news that the Nigerian customs intercepted a container of “READY TO EAT FOODS’’ like Egusi Soup, Jollof Rice, Ogbono, Yam Porridge imported from India should actually worry every African . What this simply means is that it was cheaper and easier to make egusi soup and package it in India than it is to make it Nigeria. 

It's not shameful enough that we produce crude oil and import petrol, we produce cocoa and import chocolate, diamonds are mined in Africa, but Switzerland is the diamond capital of the world, now we are importing cooked egusi, ogbono, jollof rice and yam porridge into Africa .

Proverbs 12:27 says "The lazy man roasteth not that which he took in hunting".  

Isn't this part of the bible a little bit of an oxymoron? I mean how can you say a man who went hunting is lazy? Hunting is a very physical activity which entails running after animals and killing them. Why does the book of Proverbs declare such person a lazy man? 

This bring to mind the popular story of Esau and Jacob. We recall that Esau was a man of the field , a hunter and an apparently hardworking man. Jacob was described as a mild man. Yet, we recall that Esau came back home one day and had to depend on Jacob for food. And of course Jacob made him pay a high price for the food. His birth right. 

In the second incident which is very significant, their father calls Esau to bring him food so that he can eat and bless him. While Esau heads to the forest to look for game, Jacob first of all employs the use of a consultant, the person who has constantly produced food for their father for many years. 

Her name was Rebecca, the wife of their father Isaac. So while Esau is running to the forest, Jacob is consulting and strategizing. Then he finds the answer, he produced one of his animals. Not from the bush, but from the backyard where he has been cultivating them. Isaac was blind. He will never know the difference between animal gotten from the bush and animal raised at the backyard . 

So while Esau was still in bush working hard, the strategist had produced the desired satisfaction for the client effortlessly. 

This is the difference between muscle work and brain work .  

There are two types of nations on earth. There are the Esau nations and the Jacob nations. The Esau nations produce all the resources and pass them onto the Jacob nations who transform and sell them back at a higher price to the Esau nations. 

This is the reason why a country like Belgium, with 11million people and 30,000 square kilometers, no mineral resources can have a GDP of 500 billion dollars and per capita income of 45,000 dollars, 21st in the global human development index.

On the other hand, a country like Democratic Republic of Congo, with a total size of 2.4million square kilometers and a population of 85million, has 70% of the world's coltan, a third of its cobalt, more than 30% of world diamond reserves, and a tenth of its copper. Congo is arguably the worlds richest country with an estimated minerals value of 24 trillion dollars. But, Congo pitiably has a GDP of 68 billion dollars and a per capita income of 816 dollars while sitting 176th on the global human development index rating . 

History shows how the British, a tiny island colonized almost half of the population of the entire world. From the United States to India, South America and The Caribbean, almost 70 nations and 2 billion people fell under the colony of a tiny island of less than 30 million people as at 1900. 

What did the British do that gave them edge over the world? Time management. The British people actually triggered off the industrial revolution when they began to use machines to make clothes and steam engines to run the machine. Jacob mentality .

Up till today, many African women still believe that pounded yam, pounded by hand in the mortar is sweeter and better than machine grounded powdered yam. I'm told that Egusi broken by hand is still more expensive in Nigeria than the ones broken by machines. Esau mentality . 

In Nigeria, we still attach value to things due to how difficult they are produced. That's why we still move files from table to table in our ministries and processes that will take few minutes through the intranet and iCloud will drag on for days at the ministries. This still happens despite the fact that the civil servants themselves all have internet enabled phones which they use for only Facebook, Instagram and chatting . 

It is this same mentality that made and elected President squander a whopping six months before he could form a cabinet while we are clearly seeing a Donald Trump appointing almost all his ministers and a 16 man economic advisory team almost two months to his inauguration. 

Until we begin to put efforts towards producing with ease and speed, reduce the bottlenecks and bureaucracy in government regulatory agencies, create an environment that will improve our ease of doing business and generally take the private sector more seriously, we'd continue to see manufacturing plants shut down in Nigeria, while they spring up abroad and manufacture our egusi soup which we'd gladly buy at a higher price . 


#FranklySpeaking is a friend of the blog who occasionally contributes to the blog under the pseudonym, #FranklySpeaking. 

See photos of the imported packaged foods below


Monday, 5 December 2016

Do It Afraid Nuggets & Fela Durotoye!

Me with my sister-friend Tonkabelle, learned colleague and CEO of Wura's Secret Hair. 

With my colleague, start up coach, consultant and Founder of CE Academic (the only vocational-business school in the South of Nigeria) Chidinma Eric. 

As you start your week I'd like to share a few simple nuggets I gathered from the Do It Afraid 2016 conference which held yesterday. 

The speakers were Deji Alli (former CEO of ARM Group, CEO of Mixta Africa SA), Adebola Williams (PR specialist, co-founder RED media etc), actress Ireti Doyle, Wunmi Williams (retail specialist and CEO of Nakenohs Boulevard), Modupe Fagbohungbe (of Salt Lagos), Oluwatoyin Olatunji-Daniel (COO of Atlantis by Eventecture) and Fela Durotoye. 

I will share a few of the things I learnt, some of these things may not be new to you, some may be enlightening, but either way I hope you're able to pick something from this. 

PRAISE. You see I'm just beginning to learn more about praise. Debola Williams is a very animated, actually very dramatic person. His gesticulations and mannerisms are exaggerated, but when he begins to talk about Praise, his theatrics reach a whole new level. I found this very interesting because I recently downloaded some of Bishop David Oyedepo's (audio) sermons on Praise and I'm learning afresh just how powerful it is. I'm someone who naturally has a spirit of gratitude and I'm always thankful but I'm just now learning how gratitude and praise take it up another notch. Bishop Oyedepo says we thank God for what He has done, we praise Him for who He is. Praise is very powerful because it's the one thing that God cannot do for Himself. 
    Bishop Oyedepo (and Debola) says praise is a lot more powerful than prayer. He says Praise qualifies you for God'd divine presence, and that's something that prayers, fasting and giving cannot do. He says prayers have conditions attached to it, God says when you pray "according to His will", and even at that He will answer you if He "hears" you etc. God does not benefit from our fasting and prayers, the only thing we can give God, the only thing that God can benefit from us is our Praise. 
    Prayer is us asking God to do something for us, giving might open doors for us, but Praise, Praise brings God down to us! It's very interesting watching Debola talk about praise, I tell you. He'd make you want to put on your dancing shoes and just start thanking God.     
    So people, praise (thanksgiving/gratitude) is more pleasing to God than our prayers. Our praise is a more effective way to accelerate our blessings. 

YOUR CIRCLE. It's important that you surround yourself with people who support your vision. It's important that the people on your team have a similar vision and dream as you do. For those who don't, you need to distance yourself from them. 

SACRIFICES. You're going to need to make a lot of those on your journey to success. 

PRAYER. Need I say more?... 

Do It Afraid. That thing that God has placed in your heart, that thing that you have in your hands, despite the fear in your mind, like NIKE says; just do it. LOL. 

Fela Durotoye had his own session and it was an indepth "lecture" on purpose and I would like to share a bit of it with you. 

He began by asking; What is stopping you? 

Now we all know that the actual problem many of us have is "What is my purpose?". So many people from this blog have expressed that uncertainty to me. Yesterday FD tried to answer that question. 
Ask yourself:
If I was guaranteed success and all that I need to succeed, what would I attempt to do? What would I try to do if I knew I wouldn't fail? 

And if you're not already doing that, ask yourself, What is stopping me?

He said that the most successful people have a great sense of these four things; Purpose, Mission, Vision and Values. 

Success comes when these four are aligned. 

Purpose answers Why? (Why were you created) 

Mission answers What? (What is it you do?)

Vision answers Where? (Where is it taking you?) 

Value answers how? (How do you get there?)

When you can align these 4, greatness is in alignment. 

When the purpose of a thing is unknown abuse is inevitable; Myles Munroe

Purpose is the reason for the creation of a thing. Meaning that the best way you can find purpose of something is to ask the manufacturer. 

God has given us 3 things to enable us accomplish our WHY (Purpose) 
TALENT; the grace of God upon your life given to you from heaven to accomplish excellence. Greatness can only be achieved from working with something you're naturally good at. 
PASSION; things you do differently from how you do other things. Something that the pain of not doing it, is much greater than the pain of doing it. It must be something that you NEED to do. Your passion is both an indicator and a reward. 
PERSONALITY; It's what helps you to fit into the environment that you were sent to occupy. 

So when you have a sense of purpose, when you have a mission, a vision and the right values, and when these four are aligned with each other, success is certain. It's important to know that we were all created with a purpose and the easiest way to know why God created us is by asking Him. There are also key indicators and one of them is your answer to the question below;

If you were guaranteed success and all that you need to succeed, what would you attempt to do? What would you try to do if I knew beyond every doubt that you wouldn't fail? 

Think about it and let's talk about it. 

I'm off to the Eko Hotel & Suites for the GirlTalk Conference now. The theme is RENEW, REFRESH & RECHARGE. Do It Afraid's Omilola Oshikoya is also a speaker at today's conference so I'm certain there'll be a few similarities with yesterday's, although this is just for women. I'm also very excited to hear Dr Lanre Olusola speak among the other great speakers slated to be there. Have a beautiful day people!


Saturday, 3 December 2016

What Might Have Been...

Do you ever wonder what might have been?

Almost 7 billion people in the world and hundred of them cross our paths daily. Do you ever wonder...

Today was a rather long day for me. It started out at the hairdressing salon, I only wanted to do something simple but my hairdresser kept me waiting for over an hour. From there I wove through the traffic to attend the Toastmasters meeting at The Eko Hotel & Suites, Victoria Island. Immediately after that I had a brief meeting with a new client not too far from them and after that I was suddenly struck by hunger so intense, I'd have died if I didn't eat right then! I immediately rushed down to Grand Square, grabbed moimoi and fish, drove to a small mall nearby, parked and ate my food (took a picture to show my sister just how famished I was). 

From there I headed to Ikoyi for a product launch. It wasn't really my scene as it was a hair product and I was the only non-Naturalista there and I felt like everyone was secretly judging me and would later openly judge me and it made me feel like a turtle without its shell. LOL. But I needed to be there because I was invited, and I also wanted some inspiration from the set-up, as an Events Cordinator concerned ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š.

That over, I had to catch up with a few old QC girls for drinks at Churchill's and then at about 8pm I headed towards Chevron. 

Sitting in the Jakande traffic, I began to feel a pair of eyes on me, after resisting the urge, I finally looked to my left and sure enough a pair of eye were trained on me, and when its owner saw that he'd gotten my attention, he smiled and waved. 

Very cute smile, I waved back. 

Unfortunately at the moment the cars in front of me began to move, I looked at his lane and saw that he's wasn't moving. I had to move, so move I did. Shortly after he was at my side again, and this time he had wound down and was beckoning me to do the same so that we could (talk?)

I tried to decide what to do but the lane began to move again, and this time, it was moving really fast. I'd never been so upset to see traffic ease up. Aaaaargh!

A few minutes later he was closing in on me again but my lane was really free and his was quite slow and I had to move and I'd hoped that he would catch up, but a few minutes later it was obvious that I had lost him. Forever. 

And as I drove on into the night I kept wondering about him and what could have been. Who is he? Where is he going? What's his name? What if he could have been that connection that I've been praying for? What if he could have been a business partner? What if he could have been a (the?) great love of my life? What if he could have brought so much chaos into my life that I'd curse the day I met him? What if what if what if???

On and on I wondered. 

Some people say we meet everyone one we're meant to meet in our lives but I don't believe that. There are almost 7 billion people in the world and I believe that we're meant to meet as many people as possible and a few among these would play very important roles in our lives...

Do you ever lock eyes with a stranger and move on, and wonder what could have been if either one of you said a simple "Hello"? 

Friday, 2 December 2016

Jumia Travel. 12+ Travel Gifts to get for your Loved Ones this Christmas

A great part of traveling, equally as wonderful as the entire experience, fun and adventure is the thrill of returning home. And perhaps what makes it as great, is the joy of having you back and the excitement of what you brought back for your loved ones. Let’s not even play, Oyoyo is not to be joked with around these parts. If you aren’t thinking about it broadly enough you are probably thinking what more is there to take back home aside from chocolates and biscuits? On the surface it seems great but then it is so clichรฉ and doesn’t well represent and bear memories of your travels and adventures. Chocolates and biscuits are too easily consumed and forgotten about. 

So what travel gifts can you get for your loved ones?

Before I ramble on about that I would also do well to reverse the positions and suggest gifts to get for your loved ones who love traveling.

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Gifts to Buy When You Travel

These could be a local piece of art, a hand-made craft, a framed picture, a t-shirt bearing tribute to the city or town you visited anything that serves as a memorabilia of your adventure.Paintings. Wood and metal work. Bronze work and a ton of others that your loved one would be excited to receive.

From a local author. Or a language book of the region. Even a recipe and cookery book too would be great. It carries the country or city you visited through those pages to the laps of who you gift them to.

As long as it is well preserved and won’t go bad before your arrival, local delicacies that are well packed and sealed can make great travel gifts. They are remarkably different from anything else that can be gotten from the local store and would tell the person more about the place of your visit than chocolates and biscuits would.

And paper currency if you would. But coin collecting is a hobby for many for a reason. A collection of coins from your several countries of visit from the Nigerian Kobo to the Russian Ruble.

There are still unrepentant romantics who fancy postcards. You can get them customized to add a personal touch and it would remain appreciated for a long time to come.

Your Travel Memoir
If it is robust and rich and filled with heroic stories of saving a baby deer from a marauding lioness in the Safari, a travel memoir could make a great gift.



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Gift Ideas for Travelers

If your significant other or sibling, friend or colleague absolutely loves to travel, any one of these gift items would be great for them.

All the memories they would create with every snapshot they take would be grateful to you

There is nothing that is as essential for the serial traveler as a backpack that can take in their most important items as they set off on another adventure. Get them something rugged well designed with lots of spaces. You would have their heart forever.

A little bit old school, especially with mobile devices coming equipped with maps and applications that give directions. But a compass is still a serious traveler gear and the Christopher Columbus in him would thank you.

Hotel Reservations
Hotel reservations can also make an amazing gift item for the perpetual traveler. If there is a loved one you want to surprise, book them into an all-expenses paid weekend at a resort near them. The Epe Resort and La Campagne Tropicana are a few in Lagos that you could take advantage of.

Travel Mug/Food Flask
To store water and food in, an essential travelers item that cannot be rated enough.

Power Bank
Surely they would need to power their mobile devices away from their hotel rooms or whatever accommodation they are in while on their adventure. Personally I would love this.


This list is by no means exhaustive. There are lots and lots of items a person can still get when coming back from a trip or for a loved one who loves to travel. Headsets, easy wear slippers, neck rests, traveling suitcase, bracelets and lockets, the list is endless. The trick might be to check the stores in and around the airport before departure as well as local markets, arts and museum centers, local online stores. If you are not buying you could make them. How? Let’s say you travel and visit the Coffee Bay, Wild Coast in South Africa, gather some sea shells, get some paint, do your best impression of Picasso and there, you have a collection of specially painted sea shells as gift for your friends.




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