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Dear Men, Reverse Psychology Sucks!

I read in Cosmopolitan Magazine, years back ,when I was way too young to be reading Cosmo, that the best way to get a girl's attention is to flirt with her friend. I thought about it, Teenage me could see how that could work. But growing up, I never actually thought any real person would try it. But I never forgot that article. So for years while hanging out with a friend and a guy comes to chat her up, I secretly wondered if it was me he was interested in.
Don't blame me, that's what Cosmo said. I guess it was always my friend who was being chatted up that was indeed the person of interest.
      Until some months back when a friend's friend invited me to her birthday party at her boyfriend's place. It was the kind of get together where everyone could talk to everyone, very laid back. The boyfriend's younger brother, *Tony (who's smoking hot btw) kept on checking me out. But.... I wasn't so sure because he kept on flirting with my friend who was sitting beside me. At some point he walked up to the sofa where we sat, looking straight at me all along, but on getting to us he smiled at my friend seductively and asked if they could have a drink together on the balcony. So together they left, leaving something in me, (not sure what) deflated. Eventually the rabbit finally came to talk to me, and the first time we had drinks he admitted that yes, he tried using reverse psychology. Anyways that was the first and last time we went out. IMHO a guy who does that still has some growing up to do. Plus why are hot guys so narcissistic?? (Topic for another day). I digress. 
       Back to the matter, another guy actually did something similar after that. But this one went one step farther. I'll explain. He's a friend of a friend who owns a bar, one evening I went to have drinks (alone) at said bar and we got talking. Then he started telling me his "spec". For some reason he took the time to tell me in detail the kind of girl he likes. He was telling me about a lady someone was trying to hook him up with and was giving me reasons why he wasn't interested. So he proceeded to tell me what he liked. She had to be slim, he disliked fat/big girls. (What kind of idiot tells a fat/big girl that he dislikes fat/big girls?), smiling, I kept listening. He liked girls with big boobs, girls with small boobs didn't do it for him. He was completely indifferent about big hips and big butts, he liked girls who could really really dance. He preferred light skinned girls to dark skinned girls. He liked girls with naturally long hair and disliked girls who wore weaves, etc. EVERYTHING this guy said he liked was the exact opposite of what I am or have. So you can imagine my shock when a week later this guy asked my friend for my number and started disturbing my peaceful existence in the name of "I can't stop thinking about you". Hia! So was that weird chat the previous week supposed to make me want him? I mean, I know the unavailable is always seductive thus desirable but... It doesn't always work that way. At least not for me. 
Dear men, if you want something go for it and stop playing mind games. Life is already hard enough, as it is. 
 Ladies, does it make you more interested in someone that you normally would not want? Does it actually work? 


  1. It doesn't work for me,its a capital NO..a guy shuld have confidence in himself

  2. No it doesn't.going straight to the point works for me.

  3. sometimes sha, we women are more attracted to men who don't send us so..... but when they make it obvious then it just sucks!

  4. If a guy does that to me I'll feel he wants to "chop" me and my friend Oo°˚˚˚°! Reverse phsycology indeed. Mcheeeew!

    1. lol. you're so right. and that could actually be his plan o!

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  6. Different strokes for different folks, I've met girls that it's worked on, plenty. Not that I'm the one that does it or that the people that do it do so deliberately but it's been known to attract girls. Meanwhile I can't wait for the narcissistic article, il tell u why then. Both are actually very related.

    1. The narcissistic article? Will you help me with that one please....?


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