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Drop That Baggage in 2013!

I'm going to give you a list of people you should not take into the new year with you. Most of them may actually be your friends. As usual I allow past experiences in my life and others' lives to inspire me. 

NEGATIVE PEOPLE : Please drop these ones like a plate of hot shit! Those people who never have anything positive to say, who never think, see, speak good. Those ones who you tell your plans and they easily give you a thousand reasons it would fail in one breathe. These people are taking up space in your life that they do not deserve. Kick them out!

PERPETUAL TAKERS : These ones remind me of that line in Bruno Mars' Grenade.  Take take take it all but you never give. Those people who only remember you when they need something. And are constantly in need of something. Most people who fall under this category are never able to reciprocate when they're supposed to. They are parasites. Dump them. 

THOSE WHO ADD NO VALUE: a guy once asked me years ago, "what kind of friends do you have, do you have friends that would call you and 'say hey, Nwando, there's this job opening in my office, send me your CV ASAP. Or friends that only remember you when there's groove'?". This is so real. Back then in uni I had this particular friend who made my room her first port of call whenever she heard there was a party. Once there was activity, she would run to me. One evening though, I saw her walk pass my room, holding her books. I called out to her and asked where she was going. She said she had tutorials in a discussion group. It was in that moment I had clarity and I asked her "onyinye, how come you must call me every Friday and Saturday night for parties, but not once have you ever come to call me when you're going for tutorials?". She had no answer. That day I knew that one was no good. 

THOSE WHO HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER: This sounds mean and selfish but trust me, it's very necessary. Look, we are getting older. There's just no time. Everyone in your life should have at least one role that they play. Be it emotional, financial, academic, spiritual, psychological , sexual or whatever. Regardless of what it is, they should serve a purpose. Someone once told me that he didn't have friends he could not gain something from. At the time I thought the guy was a selfish bastard but now I see the wisdom in his words. Don't let people live rent free in your life. You're a valuable being. They should earn the privilege of being in your life. If they play no part they should move out and make room for someone who will. 

THE JEALOUS : There are those people who always want what you have and are never happy when something good happens to you. Please kick them out and let them watch from the sidelines as God continues to bless you. Keep them far away from you. 

TIME WASTERS: Now these ones deserve to be made a prayer point at MFM. These are the worst people to have in your life. Worst if they're members of the opposite sex promising you things they have no plans of fulfilling. You know what, you'll need God's intervention to spot them because you may not always know. They're good pretenders! In all fairness, a few of them do not actually set out to waste your time, which is also why divine intervention is needed to flush them out.

THE RECKLESS: Those who talk anyhow and act anyhow. People who think only after they've talked, and think after they've already done. These ones are always bringers of bad and evil. See, there's just no time to allow these kinds of people in your life. Kick them out!

THE UNCONSCIENTIOUS: These ones are selfish, hard-hearted, stingy and unfeeling. I don't need to explain why they should not be a part of your lives. 

These kind of people are unnecessary baggage. They're weighty and there's no reason for them to have a seat on the ride of your life. Dump them!

Of course this list is not exhaustive. I look forward to reading yours. 


  1. Nice list Thelma. Noted.

  2. I have decided to ride solo in

  3. Well, as long as you don't alienate the whole world sha... but some people are just that, baggage.

  4. Reminds me of a friend that only calls to gist me me of how the club rocked the previous night and how he has a nasty hangover or how he banged some girl's brains out. I should really do something about him


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