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"Finally, we meet!"

My eyelids felt raw. It was the fourth shade of eyeshadow I had tried in five minutes. Make up unsatisfactorily done, I put my dress on. Looking in the mirror, my reflection wasn't as I had imagined it in my mind. I looked unusually "large". In panic I ran to my already chaotic wardrobe and mindlessly threw clothes out looking for something halfway decent to wear. I eventually settled for jeans and a top. Taking one last look in the mirror and a deep breathe, I stepped out of my house and into the unknown.
*Yomi and I had been talking/ chatting for almost two months. He seemed like a really cool guy. He was a great conversationalist and I just loved hearing his voice, it was too sexy. Plus he knew how to make me laugh. My heart skipped a beat a couple of times as I drove to the Chinese restaurant somewhere in Surulere. He was already waiting when I got there. He wasn't alone. He came with a friend! That put me off a little, we're meeting for the first time, our first date, and you bring a friend. What are you? Twelve? We placed our orders and tried to make conversation but our attempts were pathetic. Was this the same guy I spent hours chatting with on bb, the one who called me every evening as he drove home from work? The one who often sent me encouraging quotes to help me get through the day? I seriously doubted it. I mean, he was just as cute as he was in pictures, but in pictures, you don't catch a whiff of dragon breathe. Eeewwww. We tried to get through the "date", half the time he was gisting with his friend while I fiddled with my phone. We finally finished our meals and they couldn't get up fast enough. Me neither. We both walked to our cars knowing with all certainty that that was the last time we would see, or speak.

Have you been in that situation where you're yet to meet someone in person but you already have a relationship of sorts with that person? What was it like the first time you met?  I've been there a number of times. First was in secondary school. I had a boyfriend back then in QC. We dated for five years, from my JS 3 to SS 3. We met for the first time when I was in SS2, four years after we started dating. LOL. I still remember that day we met like it was yesterday. He used to live at Ikoyi and I spent the weekend at my classmate's house, she didn't live too far from him. That fateful afternoon we took a stroll to his place and with each step,q my heart beat faster. I wasn't sure what to expect. I didn't even know for certain what he looked like, (no Internet/smart phones/camera phones etc then), all I had to go by was a description of him I was given four years ago. My friend, who did the introduction said he was fine, but of course she had to, otherwise teenage Thelma would have said "thanks, but no thanks". I kept thinking, was he fine? Ugly? Short? Skinny? Fat? Crippled?. More importantly, what would he think of me? Would he be disappointed? Would I be too tall for him? (I was pretty much taller than most guys my age), would my clothes not meet his taste? will he still like me when he sees me? On and on I worried my teenage head till we got to the house. 
      Now, more than ten years later I find I still have these same concerns. I've been in similar situations  several times between then and now, some went amazingly well, some were just plain disastrous!
      Tell me your stories. What happened when you met someone you had been talking to, chatting with, mailing etc for the first time. Was the person just what you expected? better than your expectations? Below your expectations? Did you guys become the best thing in each others lives or you (both) ran for cover, like Yomi and I? Let's talk. 


  1. I remember the first time I met my ex. we had been talking on the phone for almost a year, when we finally met sparks flew. we dated for over two years and broke up cos we're both AS.

  2. the last time something like this happened to me, we became "just friends". nothing fantastic. he had a girlfriend already

  3. Was this the day you we got catch out in the rain?

    I don't think I've experienced being disappointed by the other person.

    I guess I might have low expectations, plus meeting for the first time could be a whole load of pressure.

    In present times, viber, skype and face time make it hard to be pen pals with guy.

    However I used to fuss over the bits about him liking what he sees. For example would he prefer me in a weave or in cornrows; does it bother him that I'm wearing Toms instead of heels; is my lack of make up appropriate?

    Now, I don't stress myself - Ain't nobody got time for that.

    No more game face, just ME face.



  4. Aww...Sorry bout that Anonymous!!!

  5. It's happened to me plenty but one time stands out, she was way hotter in person and I thought that we really hit it off but after that first meeting she asked if I had any friends like me but taller cos she told her friend about me and she said she'll like to her up. So I introduced her to a friend of mine, that's when I found out that the friend was for her not a friend. They dated for two years and are still na king till now. Lol


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