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Driven By Desperation? (How Far Can You Go?)

What length are you willing to go to for something you want? 

While some just sit back and watch things happen, and some of us are willing to do the occasional week-long prayers and dry fasting, others who believe that their problems are bigger than that take a different route. 

How hopeless can one's situation be that you become foolish enough to believe that your problems 
end when the pastor's penis is inside of you? I watched a video a while back that happened somewhere in nigeria, the south-south I think, of a full grown woman who's at least 35 years old, sleeping with about three emaciated, depraved-looking men posing as pastors, in the name of getting pregnant. Now, these men asked her to close her eyes and continue praying while they took turns with her. While her eyes were closed they made faces and laughed at her. And honestly, I had to laugh at her too. Pathetic as the situation was, the woman's foolishness was just too funny to look at. 

It's not only "Men of God" that get visits from desperate people. Of course there are always alternative methods. I've heard of someone who had done it all in the search of a husband, and by all, I mean ALL. This includes sleeping naked in a graveyard for three nights.

Some People, including a few daring young girls, are equally desperate to make money and would go to some unimaginable lengths. Quite frankly, I don't want to talk about that. But you know what I'm referring to though, I remember those "runs chics" back then in Uni who would get paid 2.5M for a 
night of sex by the same man who paid a girl just like her 15k the previous night, for the same sex. And everyone would wonder if she's made of gold down there or if God just loves her more. 

These are all extreme measures but almost everyone has, at least at one point in their lives, had to do something they aren't proud of, for something they wanted. This ranges from sex or sexual favours for money, grades, a job/promotion, etc.... Going to that "pastor" that you know isn't really a pastor so that he could "tie" Francis to you so that Francis would propose.... Sleeping with that woman old enough to be your mother so that you can afford to pay for your house rent..... All sorts. 

How far are you willing to go for something you desperately desire?


  1. lol @ the runs chic analogy. those of us who went to nigerian universities can relate.

  2. I think it depends on what one perceives as being very important, for some people living flashy lives is very important, for some its getting a hubby or a child so such people will do anything to achieve their 'dream life'.
    I live a very simple life so I never find myself in these desperate situations

  3. To sleep in a graveyard tho? Lord have mercy.

  4. yeah, I've heard about that whole tying a guy to you. SMH. that's really messed up. People need to be patient and wait on God.

  5. Is using kayan mata to hold down a man not due to desperation? Educate me, Thelma.

  6. Patience is a virtue

  7. @Steele, not anymore in Nigeria. Most people hardly wait for "God's time is the best " anymore. Only those with a very strong faith do.

  8. Had a friend I met in camp. She concealed her true identity from her rich bf just to hang on to his money. Among her many lies were the fact that she told him she was still in university where as she was serving and she said the guy wants to marry her. I hailed her o. Itz not easy being on one's guard per second per second.


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