I'm so confused Thelma. My boyfriend tells me he loves me but he doesn't discuss me with his friends(he says he and d guys don't discuss girls), he always rambles on and on abt his female bestie tho he's told me countless times there's nothing between them. They often go out tho he claims that's because of their proximity. He's told me to trust him but my instincts tell me otherwise. Thelma pls give me advice. Xoxo
I don't know your boo but one thing I can tell you for certain is this, guys discuss girls. 70% percent of the time, at least. It's usually girls and soccer! And if you're not one of the girls your boo is talking about then it makes me wonder.
As per female bestie, that's a very dangerous situation. That is a red flag! I've been close to a lot of guys and when one who has a girlfriend has spent more time with me than her, talks about me more than her, talks to me more than her, then it's because he wants to be with me not her.
I'll also tell you something I've learnt from these same guys that I was besties with, when they got a girlfriend that they truly liked/loved, one that they were serious about, they reduced their communication with me, I stopped seeing them as often as I used to before and stopped hearing from them. I was made to understand that there's someone important in their lives. And even if they still wanted to spend time with me, out of respect for her, they didn't.
Now, I'm not asking you to break up with him, I'm just asking you to evaluate your relationship dispassionately, look at it as if you're judging someone else's. Then make your decisions and act accordingly.
I also remember something my friend said some years back, about a guy I was very close to when he got a girlfriend. She said "why are you and *Seun still so close, forming besties? If I was *Ella I would nip it (our friendship) in the bud". Ella was Seun's girlfriend (now his wife).
Blog Readers what would you advice her to do?