Thelma please help me cos i need answers. met this guy through his cousin that I've known since childhood last June. I live in the UK while he lives in lagos. i travelled last November to see him. I'm thinking of going in June this year but I've got a double mind. should i go or not as I'm spending Xmas with the family in Naija this year (my family and I live in the UK). is going to naija twice a year too much? Ive been thinking - I know he doesn't have the resources to come but would he come if he had the resources? should i invite him to come instead? of course he will have to pay for his flight. also, should he pay for my flight in June if he really wants me to come - i really want to see him. If he doesn't have themoney to pay and I've got the money, should i travel to see him? PLS HELP THELMA. I NEED ANSWERS THANKS
Dear poster, what you haven't said, and probably the most important thing you should have said is the relationship between the both of you. What's the relationship between you and this guy? Are you guys friends that like each other, or are you in a defined relationship? If you're not then I don't think we should even be having this conversation.
I'll advice you as I would a close friend, if he "really" wants you to come then he should foot the bills. If he cannot afford to then frankly speaking I think you should wait till December. Sweetheart you travelled last November to see him, I'm guessing you paid for your flights. And you want to go again in June. Hmmm. Ask yourself what he has done for you to deserve these (expensive) gestures you're making. I'm not necessarily referring to material things. If you answer this and you still think he's worth it then.... Go ahead. But in all things be honest with yourself.
Please people, what's your opinion on this matter? I'm also curious to hear your thoughts. In my mind I'm worried for this chic that this time next year she'll be commenting on a blog about stupid things she's done for love.
Steele, Rasputin and all the other men folk in the house, I'm going to need you to weigh in on this.