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I Love Her... I Hate What She Does For A Living.

Are who we are and what we do the same thing?

So I chatted with my good friend last night. Last time we chatted he told me he met someone and they'd been talking and he was almost sure that she was "The One". However last night his story had changed.

I asked about "our wife" and his response wasn't at all what I had expected. In his words "Wando I just don't know anymore jare".
       I asked him what the problem was and it was obvious he was struggling but he eventually let it out. When they met she said she does "business", as in buying and selling. But he just recently discovered that it wasn't what he had in mind. He had thought she sold things like clothes, shoes, hair etc, so he was shocked when he found out that his potential future baby-mama sells Sex Toys! Since he found out he's been very confused. 
      As far as he's concerned no decent girl would be engaged in that kind of business. He says its a sin and that God would not forgive her. I asked if it would make him feel better if she only sold to married couples but he doesn't care who she sells to. As long as that's what she sells, she's "tainted". 
 By the way, my friend isn't exactly born-again but he sees that business as taking immorality to a whole new level. 
      The lady in question is a graduate and is doing really well in her business. She is also very decent, the type that doesn't go out at night, religious and very homely. But my friend is now having "double mind" about her. 

What do you think about this? Guys, would you "take home to mama" a lady who sells sex toys for a living?
Generally, Is there anything wrong in being a sex toy vendor?

Let's talk. 


  1. personally, i dont think dere's anything wrong wt sex toys in as much as its used in marriage. Even the bible says marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled. And he says d girl is a good girl......hmm.... He's dulling himself jare.

  2. No big deal, if you ask me. I'm a lady, I could sell it too, I'm sure it sells more than clothes or hair which almost everyone sells already. But different strokes for different folks.

  3. I don't feel there's anytin wrong in what she sells..

  4. Nigerians are just hypocritical. I'm sure the guy is not a virgin either. There's profit in that business so he better support her hustle.

  5. I'm indifferent but let's be honest, Most guys would patronize her and not take her home to mama unless they are mature enough to keep it a secret between themselves knowing how judgemental most African mothers can be or rather are...

  6. He's not serious. Would he leave someone if they sold condoms?

  7. Some guys hate masturbating and don't like girls who masturbate, and a lady who sells sex toys is in effect promoting masturbation. Well, I just think he's being too judgmental; he should sit down with his fiance and discuss her line of business while letting her air her own dislikes about him. Because I'm pretty sure there are things she doesn't like about him but she's been mute probably out of respect. Unless his love is *cooli-cooli* love, I don't really see why he's fussing over an issue that isn't an issue.

  8. Funny thing is I just had this discussion with my hubby....I want to sell sex toys and since he has more friends than I do,I asked him to help me should have seen the look on his face....he said I should go and tell his eldest brother and his father what I want to start selling first....and if I can do that,I can go ahead....I really don't see anything wrong in selling sex toys...but that's me and I guess everybody is allowed to have their own opinions...

  9. Lol, very dicey issue. I don't think it has anything to do with being hypocritical. When you sin on its one thing, when you cause others to sin it's another. Reminds me of something that happened a while back, a friend of mine said we should get some girls and have a sex party aka orgy, so I asked him if he ever thought of that when he was broke and he said no, so I said, now that God has blessed you, you want to use that same blessing to make others commit a very foul act. That's the last I heard of the matter.
    Back to the issue at hand, selling sex toys is promoting masturbation and other perverse sexual acts, you can't claim to be a Christian and sell sex toys, masturbation is a terrible sin. If you don't believe in God then by all means go ahead and hammer!


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