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Igbo Men Is This True???

This comment was lifted off a post on infidelity in marriage.

The Comment reads: 

And for crying out loud, where do you lock all the Yoruba men ? Cos frankly speaking , it is not worth it for a Yoruba woman to marry an Igbo man, check history. Igbos are hot tempered, unforgiving and heartless when it comes to Yorubas and Hausas, like it or hate it. I am a victim, and I have testimonies. But I can tell you that many Igbo women married to Yoruba men are enjoying their marriage... But just doesn't work vice versa. Igbo men always feel big, always feel they are the ones helping... I just give you a little time, he will impregnate someone from his tribe!

Do you guys agree with this? 
And why is there still so much tribalism? Is there anyone in an inter-tribal marriage here, have you had any bad experiences as a result of your spouse's tribe?

Let's talk.


  1. I'm an igbo man, and I have to agree with her to an extent because I have these kind of Igbo *species* in my family, unfortunately. Igbo men generally want to be *oga* over anything within their reach, that's why most of the married ones are comfortable having full-time house wives (baby-making-machines). Even the jobless ones can carry their shoulders irritatingly. Wetin de their pocket na coins, yet their chest fit make Dangote cringe. Shallow. Thank goodness it's easy to spot the good ones...LIKE ME. hehehehe

  2. I don't agree with you, although I'm not a man. Can't you at least cover our tribe's ass outside?

    1. Cover what ass? I'm 1st and foremost a Nigerian before being recognized as an Igbo man. Truth is bitter, whether you agree or not. When you travel to a foreign land they treat you the way they'll treat an Hausa or a Yoruba person, because your passports are Green. Live with that reality my dear and stop segregation. Be Blessed.

  3. God bless you Memphis.....Bless you real good....

  4. Hiannnn see discouraging yarnsssss Igbo men ain't good no abi its the uneducated ones or all in general?????? I need ans in oooooo

  5. T, I think you made a mistake. It's lock not luck. Please read through again.

  6. Anonymous....Thelma was quoting someone else.....this you would have noticed if you had paid a little more attention....

  7. I'm Igbo and honestly, it all depends on the man you have chosen to be with and how he has been raised. Surely there are also many Igbo/Yoruba marriages that are happy?

  8. I love this blog BTW! :)
    It really depends on the type of man you marry. Im married to an igbo man and he is the gentlest and sweetest man ever. All these generalisations do not help anyone at all.

    1. God bless you for this comment.

  9. i forgot to mention that i'm Yoruba!

  10. my dad called my an my sis once and told us expressively dat we were forbidden from getting married to igbo guys. But i've heard that igbo guys are very attentive and loving. I'm yoruba. So whats d deal.......

  11. Haha. It is true though, i have a mix of Igbo and Yoruba in my family and my parents are begging me not to marry an Igbo man for those reasons stated above in the quote, but i have met some well educated Igbo men that do not display those traits, maybe until i am married to one of them. sigh!

  12. I was just thinking sometime ago, how I have never been asked out by an Igbo man, or really fallen in love with any one of them, yet I am Igbo. When I was growing, I always wanted to marry an Igbo man, because I felt my children should understand and speak my language just like my parents taught us.
    But as I have grown older, I realize I tend to like yoruba men the more. A lot of Igbo men are so proud and full of themselves, and so it is hard for me to even want to talk to them

  13. Its not all igbo men but the ones that have igbo mentality, and that's about 95% of igbos. Then there are those of us that fall into the other 5%, when we love the woman comes first, her tribe is irrelevant

  14. Steele....very soon all the girls on this blog will fall in love with you...Seriously ooo...

  15. On the contrary, Ibo men tend to their family more than all other tribes combined. They value the institution of marriage. An ibo man will readily spend his last kobo just to make sure his wife looks good and is happy. In my family, it is an abomination to either hit your wife, neglect your responsibilities as a husband and the big No is divorce. I am Ibo and my kith & kin are the kindest lovers i know.

  16. I think it boils down 2 how u want 2 be seen. As Steele said, there is that 5% (which btw is so elusive...In fact Steele wats ur phone number, lemme start chasing dis my igbo ewu oji b4 dark! *wink) Anyways I think wen u enter a mixed tribe relationship as 1st a Nigerian b4 ur region, we wld lose a lot of d tribalism cos d mind is d weirdest thing: if u go in expecting to b marginalized cos of ur tribe, guess wat?! U will! Dats cos u'll exude a thinly veiled, hostile 'let me see wat crap dey want 2 try, lemme show dem wat I'm made of' vibe, dat sooner or later, would give u the same!

  17. Enter your comment...his name is Chinedu and he is an igbo man who is deeply in love with me he pays attention to detail when it comes to makin me happy and i genuinely love this guy.

    1. Chinedu you a silver cruz..beard ? Balded headed..calls himself a reporter for fast..hes stalking me now.And is married in nigeria.


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