To make myself clearer, I'll give examples with two comments made by two anonymous blog visitors on my post Being Single Sucks Read Here.
See comments below:
"BEING PART OF A COUPLE CAN BE OVERRATED SHA!!! YOU GUYS KNOW YOU CAN BE married and lonely as fuck right? I'm married with kids and i live in the same house with my hubby but for Christmas, the only company i had was my children....i could write an epistle on being married yet lonely....so my dears, enjoy your lives as single where you still have so many options, and fashi all these married people most of them are so unhappy....as a matter of fact most of them only get taken out by their hubbys at Christmas for the benefit if the kids and the outside eye....that's why at Christmas it seems they've multiplied (the couples).....truth is they've been home all year long with only their kids and fellow mml(miserable married ladies) for company....and at Christmas time they are brought out like trophies from an abandoned cupboard, shone and put on display got the world to see...after all its Christmas a holiday for families.....some of the idiotic men still sneak out at night to be with their mistresses sef....but thats story for another day...xxx"
And below was a reply to the comment above.
"Didn't know I was not the only one at least you get taken out on Christmas. I don't get that luxury. The best I get is being called names. All pple think is that am enjoying but believe me I was betta off single than married."
Something that caught my attention in the first comment was the acronym MML (Miserable Married Ladies). To my thinking its a term that's commonly in use among some married women. From the moment I read these comments I've been asking myself Is Marriage Really That Bad?
I've got some unhappily married friends and acquaintances, both male and female and when I do a little research some frequent words come up like cheating, boredom, change, money matters, spousal neglect (just coined that) and so on. But besides these reasons, one thing that's so real is the unhappiness that some are experiencing as a result of their marriages.
I'm hoping someone can help shed light on something for me. It truly plagues me. Most married couples were once in love. Most were in love before and after the wedding. (I know of a few who weren't though.). My questions are as follows:
-At what point do things begin to change?
-How do two people who were once besties, bestos, lovers, everything, suddenly become two strangers, or worst, enemies?
It baffles and scares me, honestly.
The rate at which some married people "beg" me to stay single and not be in such a hurry to get married, because; marriage is overrated, being single is better, marriage is too difficult, etc, is very worrisome.
That said, I'm convinced that there are good marriages out there. What ingredients do these good marriages contain that the ones on the other end don't?