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Midnight Musings.

This shouldn't be a post but what the heck.....
You guys are going to have to bear with me, I'm the sort of person that just has to say something when it's on my mind, otherwise I feel like it would "hook" me in the throat. So, here goes.

       Sometime last night I spoke with a friend and she complained that I had put up only two posts,
and before I used to have as many as four or five posts a day and now I have just one or two, and my blog is getting dry. Just in case you feel this way too, no vex o! If I was doing Gossip or Entertainment blogging I would have ten or twenty posts a day but seeing as I'm not doing any of that, you would just have to "manage" me the way I am. I will always do the best I can to keep you interested, but on the days I have nothing to post, then there's really no magic I can perform. Also, it's sort of a "quality not quantity" thing. I'm not going to "feed" you with stuff you'll find when you visit the next two or three blogs. I also accept that this blog is not for everyone; not everybody has the time/energy/interest for this kind of blog, completely understandable. 

        Secondly, I'm going to have to take down my second memoir. The last person that commented said this "the abused poster is not Thelma, please. Thelma, tell them to stop pitying you unnecessarily." Unfortunately it's me, but what you said about the pity was true. I didn't post that to get anyone's pity or sympathy and seeing the way some of you were feeling sorry for me made me feel uncomfortable. Also, it became one of the most popular posts which meant that everytime I opened the blog it was right there staring at me. That made me very uneasy. I also started getting calls and messages from people asking me questions. If you know me you'll know that while I like to write, I'm not much of a talker so these calls were almost giving me palpitations (I joke.) My siblings read it and they were furious. My brothers in particular want to know who this *Dafe is so that they can "tidy his f*** ups". Lol. So.... I shall delete immediately. I would still do memoirs but they will be of a "kinder" nature. 

Feel free to mail me if you've got ideas for posts or anything you might want to share (stories, poems, musings, opinions, questions, problems etc). 

Also is Fidelia the only beautiful blog visitor we have? We need more beauties of the day! And please any guys with errm, six-pack and a cute face, please share your pictures with us. Also if you share your pictures and you're open to being contacted by other blog visitors, that's ok too. We could add your contact details. (You never know when or how you might meet "The One" or one of The Ones. Lol)

My email address remains

God bless.....


  1. Yay! six packs coming soon *dancing azonto*. Thelma I really appreciate your efforts, I know its not easy. Get some sleep ok?

  2. Lady T, I've have to say your blog is sooo matured and visited by matured minds. I like it here. Keep up the good work. Be Blessed.

  3. hmmm. i get the part about pity and totally understand. if you were a close friend, i might, just ''might'' be able to discuss some of my sad past relationship tales with you and even recent, but i dont even have the nerve to boast of a possibility of discussing them, ever! yet u wrote yours. i do not pity you dear, i admire you. :) i hope that's better. will be sending my pictures soon. ;;).

  4. I just have to comment on this. I totally love this blog and I connect with it on so many levels. I read the said memoir and I was like wow!! This girl is amazingly awesome. You see,this is a society where a lot of people pretend. We all want to be seen as "saints" and we want to paint a picture of a "perfect" life. So many people are fake and to see someone as honest and as open as you is as rare as they come. I want to be your friend (I've never said that to anyone). You inspire me soo much ur trully trully amazing. Continue this beautiful work, you will definitely go place. XoXo

  5. I open this blog like 20times a day, that's how much I love it not because your my good friend but because I'm able to relate and learn from most of the things you put up soooooo pls feel free to put up what ever u like...after all the blog is for matured minds if some peeps can't cope with it thats their problem...keeep up the good work darlingggggg.....

    1. Thelma so this beauty of the day is your good friend. Do the intro naaa

  6. On the contary,you are putting up more posts than I expected.Any smart person will appreciate the fact you don't put up "copy and paste" posts.Like you said, maintaining the quality of posts we see is not beans....but in all Thelma when you start getting haters be happy o you are doing something worth while.just do your thing jare.

  7. I dunno if taking that memoir down is a good idea but I respect your choice and you for opening up, I know it wasn't easy especially as some of the readers know you personally. Maintaining the quality of this blog was never gonna be easy but somehow you're still doing that, please do not compromise your standard, if you don't post anything we'll understand that it's because there's nothing worthwhile. You can count on my continued support. I wish I could send my pics o but seeing as some of your readers hate my guts I'd rather remain faceless before somebody will pour me acid outside. More grease to your elbows T

  8. hi thelma, ur blog is amazing and inspiring. I read ur blog ang get strength. And yes quality matters more than quantity as its not a news blog. Keep it up. Iyanu

  9. hello Thelma, i love your blog. And please please please don't take down that post. It inspired me, and made me love myself a little more. Funny enough, I didn't pity you, I was so pissed at you. i wondered how you could allow a man do all that to you, and you still loved him... mbanu! Anyways, I am happy you are healing and way past that stage.
    You SHOULD love again. True Love is BEAUTIFUL :*

  10. Ok ma'am. Noted.

  11. Put back the post!!!! *crying*


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