Skip to main content

Sex: What's The Longest You Can Go Without It?

This is for the sexually active.

I keep seeing a particular excerpt from Dencia's interview where she said she hasn't had sex for two years. Nobody seems to believe it. I guess, maybe because the pictures above look like that of a woman who has sex for breakfast, brunch, lunch and dinner..... Just saying. 

But let's forget about Dencia for a moment and talk about you.

What's the longest you can go without sex? 

For some people it's like food and is very essential to their existence. I know someone who literally gets jittery and cranky if she has to go without, for over a month. 

Then there are those that use sex as de-stressers (if there's such a word).

There are those who are just plain frigid and would willingly, gladly live without sex. 

There are those (women) who find sex painful and unpleasant, so naturally, like the frigid, they would willingly go without. 

Then there are NORMAL people like Dencia and my humble self, who can easily go without sex for two years, (because sometimes it's just not worth the stress.). Yup! 

Then there are those who at the slightest arousal, be it visual stimulation, light stimulation ( a slight brush against their flesh), or whatever, just have to have it, immediately. 

Under which category do you belong?


  1. Thelma e bia kwa. I just love you babes but two years? both you and Dencia are lying.

  2. Replies
    1. Mariam is that your answer or a question? Feel free to come back and comment as Anonymous. Hehehe.

  3. Last time I had sex was 2011 May. Not even kissed since then. And I'm a guy

    1. Rasputin, I'm curious. Is this for religious/spiritual reasons or personal choice or due to certain circumstances? If you read this, please reply. Thanks.

    2. choiii pls can u be my boyfriend ?

  4. Rasputin is everything ok? are you sure? Hmmm. That's strange, especially for a guy. kudos to you all the same.

  5. The first & last time I had sex I was 18 due to peer pressure. 21 now and three yrs without sex is an achievement for me.

  6. Hmmm. I think I'm one of the normal ones. I won't say more. lol

  7. I haven't had sex since September last year and that's the longest I've gone without it since I lost my virginity in 1995, I think. Reason is that I let it control me too much, was making to many bad decisions and getting with the wrong kinds of girls all because I wanted to nack so I had to curb it. I dunno how long I plan to stay celibate but for now I've not met anyone that makes me wish I wasn't.
    I've got a friend who can have sex 3 times a day and after the 3rd he'll still masturbate, lol.

  8. I am d normal one ooo,depends on d situation 2yrs?like seriously

  9. Lol...steele your friend has a problem...that's not normal...

  10. Me, I like sex, no frontin. no sex for 2 years? what are you hoarding it for? life is too short o! better enjoy it while you can. abi is it in your old age you want to enjoy sex?


  12. The longest I've gone was 8 months and it wasn't funny at all.

  13. Its not spiritual, I broke up with someone(my fault sha) I really loved and I haven't been ready to embark on that journey ever since.

    1. If you can look into my head you'll laugh. I'm desperately trying to imagine the nature of the relationship and the break up, that three years on, you've pretty much been a monk. But then I just remembered that my friend broke up with his ex in 2007 and hasn't had sex with anyone since he broke up with her. You guys are strong men o!

  14. Men are reallay really strong with their decisions. Sometimes I wonder how they do it. the surprising part is that they could swear they don't masturbate on top. I'm like wow while hianing.

  15. Well that guy must be on serz crack. .Lol...

  16. I lost my virginity by. Mistake in an abusive relationship.@ 18,I dnt feel sex buh I can kiss,bt since den AV Neva sex nor kiss for ova 3yrs don't freak me.

    1. Julieta just take your time. Honestly there's no rush. When the time is right, hopefully things would be better. But sex is a beautiful thing, at the right time and with the right person. I'm sorry about your experience.

  17. Well, right now, my sex life couldn't be better... I can't get enough!! however, when I am pregnant, and breastfeeding, hmmm... I can go for 2yrs without it cos the urge goes away totally. but once I stop bf, the urge comes back full force.

  18. I love sex ..cant do without it for too long .a mth is d least i can do without it


Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Turia Pitt Suffered 65% Burns But Loved Conquered All...

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. 
Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:
"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…


Good morning people! 
Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

One More Post...


He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
See how you are serious dey read this story....!


A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…


I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Closed Chapter...

Hello everyone, yesterday a friend said to me, Thelma I love your blog, I've told so many people about your blog, I think you're a very good writer but I feel there's something you're not doing right"

This friend was the first person who won our beauty of the day contest back then in 2014. Then we had met just once through a mutual friend. I mentioned the blog to her and she became an instant reader. I wouldn't have exactly called her a friend then but yesterday as we sat down waiting for our Uber to come get us from Wal-Mart, she's definitely my friend and I knew she was coming from a good place when she said she had much higher expectations of my blog.

Me too.

But you see, in the last year or so, maybe even longer than that, I haven't felt much joy in blogging. It began to feel more and more of a laborious chore, one which I hardly reaped any fruits from.

I really love writing, I love sharing my life and my experiences with others and I've enjoy…

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 

Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.

Uyi & Tiwa