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Stupid In Love!

I know, right? 

OMG! Thinking about this makes me cringe and if you think about it, you'll cringe too. So many of us have been totally stupid all in the name of love. I mean, you know how it is when you're "in love". You become blind to so many things. Love shuts down that part of your brain that you use in analytical and logical reasoning. I can't blame anyone. I've been stupid in love several times. 

I can't tell you some things I did in the name of love when I was younger. Well, I can but I won't. 
But I've seen people do things in the name of love.
I had a friend, a medical student who told her dad that she needed 350k because they said they all had to buy their own Cadaver. Daddy gave her the money and the money went straight to the boo's account for his house rent.

I had a friend back then in uni who was schooling in the UK. Boo was in Lagos. Every vacation, said friend would come to Lagos and spend about a month with the boyfriend. Now the stupid part? She paid for all the flights. To and fro. (More than 12 in total). And the one month in Lagos was spent in a hotel with her boo, which she always paid for from her own pocket! Now, said boo never went to the UK to see her except once. And guess what, she sorted out his visa and paid for his flight tickets. But that's not the amazing part. Here it is, bobo said he couldn't fly economy. So yeah, my friend got him two business class tickets. Hehe. Chai. Love! Allow me to add that after university when she 
relocated back to Nigeria, the guy wasted no time in dumping her ass! 

I can tell you more stories but instead, I'll share some comments with you. 


The guy is mean o!

That's 1000 pounds not naira btw. 

LAND??? Then he said she must be dreaming. Oh hell no! (I'm laughing so hard right now!)

(Sorry for all the cancellations, had to blot out names that were mentioned). 

So people! You're not alone. Oya share your stories too. And I would like to hear from guys also because guys can also be stupid in love. So many actually are!


  1. Ok. She bought land for her boyfriend? Hian! that's a whole new level of love.

  2. Me ke,whch money I get wey I wan give guy? Am not saying I can't be stupid in love bt damn!I will take my brain along,not wilth all d stuffs I read online about guys..olorun maje,I go run as far as my leg can take me

  3. Thelma please help me cos i need answers. met this guy through his cousin that I've known since childhood last June. I live in the UK while he lives in lagos. i travelled last November to see him. I'm thinking of going in June this year but I've got a double mind. should i go or not as I'm spending Xmas with the family (my family and I live in the UK). is going to naija twice a year too much? Ive been thinkkngy - I know he doesn't have the resources to come but would he come if he had the resources? should i invite him to come instead? of course he will have to pay for his flight. also, should he pay for my flight in June if he really wants me to come - i really want to see him. If he doesn't have themoney to pay and I've got the money, should i travel to see him? PLS HELP THELMA. I NEED ANSWERS THANKS

    1. my family and I are spending Xmas in naija this year

    2. Never pay for your trip to visit any guy cos he will take you for granted. If he likes you enough he will move mountains to get you to where he is. I'm a guy and I'm speaking from experience, your trip isn't the only thing you will pay for

  4. now singing in Rihanna's voice *i may be dumb but I'm not stupid in love*. lol. Its only normal, no one is beyond it

  5. In university I made a down payment for my boyfriend's room for two year. less than a year later he broke up with me. I wished I could get a refund but of course it wasn't possible. I was pained o!

  6. but that chic that bought land for her boyfriend must really have been dreaming. that is a new level of stupid!

  7. Wow! Ihe na-eme...wisdom is profitable to direct sha. How could u be giving when the other party ain't reciprocating? It beats me. Then, what do I know?

  8. Really stupid. She couldn't be blamed tho. She was in wot she tot was love. Mide.

  9. D most stupid thing I ve ever done 4 love was changing the sim card I was using for 8yrs...cos he felt I had a lot of suitors. Guess wat? He dumped me after a year.

  10. if these mundane, banal, unromantic sounding things aren't gestures of love, what the hell are they? What else was the point of doing them?

  11. None of these things were done out of love, they were done out of infatuation, obsession, fear and high stupidity. True love isn't really blind, all the above named qualities are. Fortunately I've been in love but never stupid.

  12. @Steele, if u were never "stupid" in love then u weren't in love. QED

  13. It's stupid now 'cos it backfired. What of people whose stupid tales of love paid off in the end? What would u then say? @Steele

  14. Anything outside Recharge Card of 200 for a man, count me OUT!!! BUT, i have a good man now who appreciates every little thing i do for him, not like the bonkoms i used to date, but i used to be stupid ooo, chei! God delivered me from bondage sha.


  15. Me and my partner broke up at the end of last year. He wanted to go on a break, I didn’t want to but I eventually agreed. He said he needs time away for a while and be single. He said he would contact me when he was ready to speak to me again but its approaching eight months. I don’t know how long he’s going to take but I was willing to gave him as much time he needs to think things through. I can’ wait much longer, so I search whole web and I found very powerful magic person. He has this website , I buy from his love spell, and it worked after one month. I ‘m happy again.


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