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What Would You Never Compromise On In Your Relationship?

My friends and I had a round table discussion and I threw this question open and the answers I got were very interesting, to say the least. Basically, what is the (one) thing that MUST be present in the person you're with? The one thing that the absence of is an absolute deal breaker?

Yes, everyone will say he/she must be God-fearing, so let's get that out of the way. Let's be very real here. 
Below are a list of things I would never compromise on.

- A (good) Conscience; Trust me, I've met so many men that have none and have no qualms screwing you over (pardon my French). But when a man has a conscience, he will think twice before he acts. He will also put into consideration how his actions would affect you. That's not to say that he will not still go ahead and do whatever, but at least, he will exercise caution. 
-Friendship; My man must be my friend. I don't use that word "friend" lightly. We must be able to talk, communicate, joke, laugh, argue, quarrel and love like friends. 

-Generosity; No he's not my meal ticket but I detest stinginess. A stingy man is the worst kind of man there is, in my opinion.

-Good Sex; Because life is just too long, and too short to have it any other way!

-Steady source of income/potential; I've seen enough of lack in my life. I need to know that a man has the ability to cater for me and his children. Even the Bible said one who does not is worse than an 

There are others but I've said enough. I want to hear yours. From both the guys and the ladies. What is it that you just won't compromise on in a relationship?

If you have none then wahala dey. Like they say, if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything. It is very important, particularly for the ladies. In these times when some men are beginning to think that they are God's special gift to women and can therefore act in whatever way they please, it has become imperative to know what you can and cannot compromise on in a relationship. 


  1. loool. Bad girl @ good sex. I feel u jare. I don't think I can handle an unfaithful guy. I'm surprised that's not on ur list.

  2. As for me, three things. God-fearing, Money and Commitment. Money is very important. even if sex is not good I can always buy sex toys.

  3. you've mentioned most of it. I must TRUST you to be committed to our relationship. If theres no trust, how can we build a healthy relationship ?, we have to be friends, just because you are older (i prefer dating older guys) that doesn't give you free pass to talk to me or treat me like I'm your child.. we have to be comfortable around each other, and good sex! if there's no sexual chemistry I'l be out the door.

  4. A good conscience...yea!that settles it!one of the most important though

  5. I think you've covered it. but I would add faithfulness, also he must not be a mummy's boy. because MIL issues can be hell. If a man can stand on his own and face his mother fair and square then he is a real man.

  6. everything you've said covers it. I will include long term goals. he must have those in his career.

  7. 1. He must be able to make me laugh at myself 'cos a sense of humour lasts long after everything else has gone.
    2. I must be able to put up with his irritating habits. Lol!
    3. He should CARE for me in every sense.
    4. We should have the same shared goals.
    adding to what Thelma had said.

  8. To add on your list I like a mature man, and someone who with an open mind too.

  9. They said one thing and here we are making list of things. For me above everything my man should be selfless.

  10. She must be able to advice me when she sees I'm going the wrong way. She must have respect for the people "below" her. She must be down to earth. She must not be overly materialistic. She must be humble. She must be catholic. I must love her more than I love myself. I must feel butterflies in my tummy whenever I look at her. I must be very attracted to her!

  11. At Anon 8.57pm, E concern u? No be Jamb question be this. U fit answer am anyhow. Cut them some slack.

  12. The babe must be God fearing and family oriented. #Dazzall

  13. @steele u rock.

  14. @steele u rock.


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