My friends and I had a round table discussion and I threw this question open and the answers I got were very interesting, to say the least. Basically, what is the (one) thing that MUST be present in the person you're with? The one thing that the absence of is an absolute deal breaker?
Yes, everyone will say he/she must be God-fearing, so let's get that out of the way. Let's be very real here.
Below are a list of things I would never compromise on.
- A (good) Conscience; Trust me, I've met so many men that have none and have no qualms screwing you over (pardon my French). But when a man has a conscience, he will think twice before he acts. He will also put into consideration how his actions would affect you. That's not to say that he will not still go ahead and do whatever, but at least, he will exercise caution.
-Friendship; My man must be my friend. I don't use that word "friend" lightly. We must be able to talk, communicate, joke, laugh, argue, quarrel and love like friends.
-Generosity; No he's not my meal ticket but I detest stinginess. A stingy man is the worst kind of man there is, in my opinion.
-Good Sex; Because life is just too long, and too short to have it any other way!
-Steady source of income/potential; I've seen enough of lack in my life. I need to know that a man has the ability to cater for me and his children. Even the Bible said one who does not is worse than an
There are others but I've said enough. I want to hear yours. From both the guys and the ladies. What is it that you just won't compromise on in a relationship?
If you have none then wahala dey. Like they say, if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything. It is very important, particularly for the ladies. In these times when some men are beginning to think that they are God's special gift to women and can therefore act in whatever way they please, it has become imperative to know what you can and cannot compromise on in a relationship.