My dear, I have been with my husband for 14years married for 8years by Gods Grace, we have 2 very active boys and I tell you it takes a toll on us but I realize that these boys will definitely grow up have their own relationships and leave us, so I made up my mind to make my husband my priority. First I make sure my boys are in bed by 7.30pm. He gets home at 6pm spends sometime with them and they go to bed, that leaves us with a couple of hours before we get tired to just hang out. Also I consciously make it a point of duty to send him a text every day during lunch time, if he replies fine if he doesn't I don't sweat it. I also try to read up on whatever he is passionate about at the moment so that we can have something to talk about apart from the boys and and I am a whore in the bedroom. He married me a virgin but thanks to the internet I invent so many things for us to do in the bedroom. Last night I told him we will not have penetrating sex but we must make each other reach orgasm, he ended up begging for it because the foreplay was out of this world. What an I saying marriage is hard work, harder than any other work you get paid for. I have no help with the kids but I make sure I try my best to spice things up for me and for him. Above all pray, I was getting bored the first year of our marriage but I prayed and God showed me how to work to keep my marriage.
I find it helpful especially for the married ones. Her last sentence caught my attention because I hear a lot of newly weds complain about boredom, unpleasant surprises etc in that first year of marriage. I've also heard older married couples advice that the first year or two, although difficult, is just a phase and in good time the couple strikes a balance and things return to normal. So if you're in this phase right now, don't be discouraged, continue to pray. This too shall pass.