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Dear Men, So What If I Don't Know How To Cook?

"Ehn, I don't know how to cook. Sue me"

That's what my friend blurted out some nights ago. She explains that she has tried but it just doesn't werk for her. "I've already said that my husband must be ready to hire a cook or live on take-out". 

A couple of weeks back I went on a date with ...... a guy. Lol. He told me that one of the reasons things ended with his Ex was her refusal or inability (he's not sure which) to cook. They'd dated for four years and baby girl never cooked, not even once. He said what worried him was that she didn't cook for herself either. She lived on take-outs and pastry

        I've heard guys say that they can't marry a woman who can't cook. You'll hear stuff like top 3 requirements for wifey: God-fearing, a good cook, great in bed. 

Yet, there are some fantastic women who don't or can't cook. One told me of how her husband first tasted her food after the wedding. She refused to cook or do any domestic chore for him beforehand. Yet, he married her regardless. This also got me thinking. 

I guess some of us don't bother to show men all our skills anymore because we've played the domestic goddess before and it got us nowhere! You remember that Ex whose room you cleaned daily, whose laundry you did, whose food you cooked slavishly after swatting away flies at the market for the last two hours.... Yeah, so some have vowed never to do all that till he puts a ring on it. 

Question is, if she doesn't want to cook till he puts a ring on it, and he doesn't want to put a ring on it till she cooks, what's the way forward?

Men, how important is it for your woman to (know how to) cook?

 And which would you rather. Great in bed or Great in the kitchen???


  1. I totally agree. Playing wifey when you're not yet wifey can be risky business and a waste of time and energy sometimes.

  2. Thelma biko kwa, nothing like "great in bed OR great in the kitchen". It's "great in bed AND in the kitchen". LOL. I can manage the kitchen aspect; if my wife can't cook, no much wahala. We'll learn it together and make it fun-filled. It won't be appropriate eating take-outs or mama put when you start having kids, would it? I mean...your kids eating *foreign* three square meals. How weird does that sound? Mbanu. We'll learn together, no problem.

    But that BEDROOM aspect. *cough....that's a serious issue my dear. If that aspect doesn't make sense the marriage will not make sense. HO HA. Unless there's an appropriate way to school her in the rudiments of love-making, that aspect MUST be above 60% adequate for a good marriage.

    1. Memphis your comment made me laugh.
      I think if your spouse isnt good in bed you can teach her

  3. It's funny when people say they can't cook cos it takes nothn to learn.its more like I can't cook and don't have interest .knowing how to cook is important cos you can't eat out all your life.

    1. I can't cook and I don't have the interest. I would rather spend my time doing something more productive.

  4. I Can cook very well but I aint cooking for no man uintil he puts a ring on it.Am always quick to point out to any man I meet that Yes I can cook buh I aint his cook,he wnts good food as a bachelor, he either cooks it himself,hire a cook or live on take-out.I assure you this business of playing wifey b4 u say I do doesn't pay.Sadly I see men these days meet a woman and they expect her to prove she's wifey material with her Culinary skills.
    Thelma, as for the way forward, I dunno but I am not cooking for any man except my husband!

  5. I think all women can cook its just that some people lack the interest.
    On the point of whether to cook for your boyfriend or not it depends on the guy if he is a great guy I can do it once in a while, but other household chores I can't do.

  6. Nawa o..I think one of te ways to get to a mans heart is through cooking,why won't a woman know how to cook...wetin u dey do if your mum or guardian is cooking..jussaying..#sigh#


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