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Dear Thelma, He Only Says "I Love You" During Sex...

Hi Thelma, 
I started dating my boyfriend in October last year. Things are quite ok and I really like him. Tbh I'm in love with him but I don't know if he feels the same. He says he loves me, but only when we're having sex. I don't know what that means. He has never says it other than that before. Do you think he really loves me? Also Valentine is around the corner and I'm planning something that might be quite expensive but I don't know if it's wise if he doesn't really love me. Please what do you think, and help me post it on your blog too but pls dnt disclose my name. 


      When someone loves you, you know it by their actions and not necessarily by those words. Does he show you love? Does he love you? If you're sure he does then just convince him that you need to hear it at other times besides when he's in the "throes of passion". 
      If on the other hand he doesn't say it, and he doesn't show it, then it's because he doesn't feel it. Oh yeah, he does feel it when you're shagging his brains out, and no, that's not love. So talk to him, listen to your instincts, evaluate your relationship and do the needful. 

      On the other hand, suggest you guys put off sex for sometime and work on building and strengthening  other parts of your relationship. 

Blog visitors over to you, please help out a sister. 

*by the way this came into my mail box on Tuesday but I only just saw it last night, my apologies.*


  1. no sweetie. he doesn't love you!

  2. I don't think he does, sorry.

  3. Nah he doesn't love u honie just ye borrrrrry

  4. hmmm. he loves your sex. that's all. better don't waste your time and money.

  5. I don't think he loves you, stop having sex that way you will be able to determine what your true feelings for each other are.

  6. ha! he is a weist.

  7. i agree with thelma's advice.....

  8. honestly not everybody is comfortable saying those words. i'd say you should talk to him

  9. My darling,your waist,your waist,all he loves is your waist..

  10. I once said on one of thelma's post that wen I read stories like this, I can't help but thank God I'm married after all having all these sad experiences. I had dis exact same experience, the guy only used d word love in d heat of passion. I won't lie I enjoyed hearing him saying it.
    Buh guess wat? d guy turned out to be a PLAYA. So my dear be wise!

  11. Lol....I disagree with you guys....there is a possibility he loves just emboldens him and he can let go of his shyness and say it to her he could have told her he loved what she was doing to him and not that he loves abeg poster, heed ThelmA s advice..let him know how you feel...and take it from for the expensive Valentine stuff,I strongly advice against it...there will be enough time for you guys to do that when you are married..don't go spending your money when you are not sure about your future with the guy....God help you...

  12. i agree with thelma and gelo, you gotta talk to him and do not just assume, share your concerns with him, see his reaction.....then you can take it from there. but my dear chill till valentine is over,LOL. also hold on giving him the expensive in case he disappoints you, u don't loose on both ends. which you luck dear.


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