"Talking about stressing a guy out. Hmmmm.Anyway, I need advice thelma, my husband calls to inform me dat he will be travelling for his vacation next week. We together wth our daughter were supposed to go together since he comes home every other weekend and doesn't have time for us. But he informed me last week that the vacation wasn't certain anymore, now he has informed me that he needs to travel since he needs rest and doesn't think he can get that rest at home. He's also claiming that I won't be chanced since I'm busy at work. I feel angry and hurt. I just don't knw how to react as I won't want to pass the wrong message. Pls advise me. Thanks "
So basically he's still making a trip but without you and your daughter... I'm not in a position to advice a married person so I would call on others in the house, especially the married ones. Do you think she should stand her grounds; demand she and the child take the trip with him? Let him know how she really feels about him not taking them anymore? Demand to know why he doesn't want to take them along anymore? OR should she stay back home, let him go and let it slide?
What I THINK I would do in your shoes is this, if I'm not busy at work (like he said) I would point that out and state in clear terms that I want to go on that trip with him. I would make him understand and we miss spending time with him and I in particular need to have some quality time with him. I would wonder if there are reasons (a mistress?) that's behind this decision to take this trip alone BUT I will not mention that to him since I have nothing to go by. And pushing the "mistress" possibility out if my mind, I would wonder and try to find out if there's something else bothering him at work/business that's making him feel he needs to take time away and see how I can make him feel better. But basically, I will simply let him know how I feel and what I want. (Which is that we ALL take the trip together.)