We all know who/what a gold-digger is. I'm using Go-Getter in the context of a lady who has really high standards of her ideal man and would neither settle for less nor apologize for it.
Late last year while on my way to the mall with a friend we began to have a very interesting conversation. This friend of mine is one of the very conservative ones, she's quiet, more introverted than I am and very reserved. So when she blurted out "Nwando I can never marry a poor man, in fact I cannot marry a man who isn't rich, or who I'm richer than" I was surprised to say the least.
I chatted with a friend sometime ago, she's been dating her boo for over a year and at our age, you would expect her to be complaining that he hadn't proposed. I asked her about it and in her words "abeg, he does business.... I don't want a business man, I want a corporate executive, preferably in the oil sector. I want oyel (oil) money".
I remember reading someone's comment on Bella Naija where she said, that she was done dating (broke) guys that she had to take care of. She said she was doing very well in her career and was very comfortable, and she would only date someone who is higher up on the ladder and who is making even more than her. She said with their combined incomes they would have a great life, the kind of life she wants to live.
I have to ask, is there anything wrong in knowing what you want out of a relationship or marriage? I have a friend who won't date someone who's not in the upper class and who doesn't belong to elite social circles. He must know the "right" people, have the "right" friends and belong to the "right" social/country clubs. She doesn't date these men for money, but because she knows that they're her ticket into the life she wants for herself, her children and her future; high society.
One thing that's noteworthy is that all these ladies are very career-driven women who are doing very well in their various fields. The first friend has worked with one of the top accounting firms in Ikoyi for over six years and just recently joined another firm in VI as an auditor. The other works with one of the multinational oil companies which affords her a lifestyle that would make some salivate. And the last one who some might call a social-climber is very successful at what she does, she runs her own business and is very independent.
These young women among some others I've spoken to have very set (high) standards. They have pointed out in very clear terms the type of men they want and intend to marry and they do not apologise for it. And, they have said the will NOT settle for less, they will not compromise on the type of lifestyle they want to have.
I've had this conversation with someone and in his opinion they are GOLD-DIGGERS. According to him they do not intend to marry for love but for money and social status. He thinks that they view, and will essentially treat marriage as a business transaction. In his words they are "Classy Prostitutes".
Do you think these ladies are gold-diggers, or do you agree that they are smart go-getters?