I got this message from a blog visitor.
To cut the longstory short, we exchanged digits and had a date for friday evening for 5:30pm.we started chatting on whatsapp and then alarm bells started going off in my head with the kind of questions and comments I kept getting from him,he was asking hope I don't mind getting married this year.....dnt get me wrong Nwando.....I do want to get married BUT not to a stranger.I mean here's this dude that I just met today and he's already talking marriage.Plus he kept saying a pastor told him that he would know when he sees his wife and he just knew when he saw me...."Iike seriously?
I wasn't able to make the date for 5:30pm and this dude had called me like 4times,I just kept wondering at his over-eagerness as I told him I would let him know when am ready.Finally I go for the date and he kept on with stories of how he had told all his family members about me(b4 I forget he initially wanted the date to be at his house before I said no).I really didn't enjoy myself at that date 'cuz all I felt was pressure to commit to someone who I didn't even know.After trying to keep a lid on it, I didn't know when I snapped at him to shut it, that I didn't wanna hear, would u marry me?would you give birth to twins for me? Again...
And he wanted us to see yesterday, I tell this dude I have a meeting and I would let him know when am through.Next thing he said he would come to my house and I would cook for him....anyone who knows me knows that's an extremely bad move cuz I totally value my privacy and dnt let in just anybody into my house esp. A stranger....
Anyways, I see a female friend yesterday and I gisted her.Guess what, she told me another of her friends gist who had the same thing happen to her.The friend in question was so desperate to marry and some one introduced her to a guy in her church and the dude kept shouting 'marriage'. She got pregnant(dude refused to you a condom) for the 'church guy', aborted the baby and the guy still dumped her ass claiming he could not marry a murderess.same dude that was not willing to take responsibility for the child. Later when I got home, I call my mum and give her the full gist(my mum
and I are very close) and the first thing she says is ahhh, the dude is a deciever
Basically, Nwando am saying women of marriageable age especially need to be extra careful and prayerful 'cuz there are many wolves in sheep clothing out there now and their major line is "I want to marry you" when all they wanna do is sleep with the girl.
I can't agree with you more. Men are really feeding off the desperation of women these days. And some women JUST DON'T THINK! Well that's not news.
But I sometimes wonder, what is the off chance that the guy is actually genuine? This is very very rare but there's a tiny chance that it's possible.
I'll tell you a short story. About six years ago I had a neighbour, Janet. One day her friend Ogo came to visit and as Janet was seeing her off they ran into our other neighbour Chuma. Right there and then Chuma told Ogo he was going to marry her. She obviously rolled her eyes and laughed it off. But seven months later they got married and now have three beautiful kids.
But like I said, this is very rare. 99% of the time you meet a man and he immediately mentions marriage it's a "format".
There's one more thing I absolutely detest. Telling me to cook for you when we've just met. WTF? Men should stop thinking that every woman above the age of 25 is desperate as well as stupid. Please, you insult our intelligence. So you add the word "cook" so that she can immediately think you're trying her out for "wife material" and give her hope so that it can speed up the sex process? SHAME ON YOU if you're guilty of this.