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"Hello I'm John, I Want To Marry You". (Pick Up Line Or DivineRevelation?)

I got this message from a blog visitor. 

So I met this man at work on friday and he launches into a story about how he saw me since last year and been wanting to talk to me,asked the security guard for my digits who then directed him to someone else who gave it to him.Apparently he kept trying the number but it would not connect,when he came back to the office he was told am on leave and bla bla bla.He sha prayed to God friday morning when he saw me and stuffs.

To cut the longstory short, we exchanged digits and had a date for friday evening for 5:30pm.we started chatting on whatsapp and then alarm bells started going off in my head with the kind of questions and comments I kept getting from him,he was asking hope I don't mind getting married this year.....dnt get me wrong Nwando.....I do want to get married BUT not to a stranger.I mean here's this dude that I just met today and he's already talking marriage.Plus he kept saying a pastor told him that he would know when he sees his wife and he just knew when he saw me...."Iike seriously?
I wasn't able to make the date for 5:30pm and this dude had called me like 4times,I just kept wondering at his over-eagerness as I told him I would let him know when am ready.Finally I go for the date and he kept on with stories of how he had told all his family members about me(b4 I forget he initially wanted the date to be at his house before I said no).I really didn't enjoy myself at that date 'cuz all I felt was pressure to commit to someone who I didn't even know.After trying to keep a lid on it, I didn't know when I snapped at him to shut it, that I didn't wanna hear, would u marry me?would you give birth to twins for me? Again...

And he wanted us to see yesterday, I tell this dude I have a meeting and I would let him know when am through.Next thing he said he would come to my house and I would cook for him....anyone who knows me knows that's an extremely bad move cuz I totally value my privacy and dnt let in just anybody into my house esp. A stranger....

Anyways, I see a female friend yesterday and I gisted her.Guess what, she told me another of her friends gist who had the same thing happen to her.The friend in question was so desperate to marry and some one introduced her to a guy in her church and the dude kept shouting 'marriage'. She got pregnant(dude refused to you a condom) for the 'church guy', aborted the baby and the guy still dumped her ass claiming he could not marry a murderess.same dude that was not willing to take responsibility for the child. Later when I got home, I call my mum and give her the full gist(my mum 
and I are very close) and the first thing she says is ahhh, the dude is a deciever

Basically, Nwando am saying women of marriageable age especially need to be extra careful and prayerful 'cuz there are many wolves in sheep clothing out there now and their major line is "I want to marry you" when all they wanna do is sleep with the girl.


I can't agree with you more. Men are really feeding off the desperation of women these days. And some women JUST DON'T THINK! Well that's not news. 

       But I sometimes wonder, what is the off chance that the guy is actually genuine? This is very very rare but there's a tiny chance that it's possible. 

       I'll tell you a short story. About six years ago I had a neighbour, Janet. One day her friend Ogo came to visit and as Janet was seeing her off they ran into our other neighbour Chuma. Right there and then Chuma told Ogo he was going to marry her. She obviously rolled her eyes and laughed it off. But seven months later they got married and now have three beautiful kids. 

But like I said, this is very rare. 99% of the time you meet a man and he immediately mentions marriage it's a "format". 

There's one more thing I absolutely detest. Telling me to cook for you when we've just met. WTF? Men should stop thinking that every woman above the age of 25 is desperate as well as stupid. Please, you insult our intelligence. So you add the word "cook" so that she can immediately think you're trying her out for "wife material" and give her hope so that it can speed up the sex process? SHAME ON YOU if you're guilty of this. 


  1. Lol @ divine revelation. This one na serious format.

  2. T, check this " She got pregnant(dude refused to you a condom) " I think u made a mistake.

    1. Thanks, but I didn't write this. I posted it the way it was sent to me.

  3. Sister thelma iya ibeji..lolz

  4. Men are really dealing with women these days. I guess the faster way to their pants is by flashing her a ring. Women need to be wise.

  5. Very funny. How can?! Requesting that you cook for him, I can imagine the irritation.

  6. Sounds very similar to a guy I went on a date with a few weeks ago.

    First day he met me, he asked if I could cook and that he needs to come and eat in my house.

    I asked him when did he start paying my salary as a cook.

    He proceeds to send me pictures of all his living family members.

    Asking me if I have a man cause he's my new "MAN".

    Then he asked that I meet him at Heathrow airport on the same day I returned from Amsterdam and landed at Gatwick, also fully knowing that I had a train to catch at Euston Station, topped up with the early morning meeting I had the next day at work.

    I had to tell him - No, I don't know you like that plus you are so selfish to ask me to meet you at Heathrow. Who does this? Are you 9 yrs old? Do you think I have no value for my time? Plus what is so important that you need to see? He says you wouldn't know until you come here, that he wants to spend time with me so he can tell his Mother all about me. I told him, if you want to see me holler at me when you return from your holiday but I'm not stressing myself.

    He returns from his holiday and I am sympathetic enough to go on a date with him.

    During the date he had audacity to laugh in my face cause I mentioned I don't speak Yoruba then went on to mock me cause I don't eat/make Nigerian food.

    He made the mistake of asking if I liked him at the end of the date.

    My response was not in the affirmative at all.


  7. D reaSon men re takin advantage of women dis day is bcox of Deir desperation to get married,peer preSsure,some go to any length just for a man to marry search for d right partner some will fuck different men in d process.d best thing iS to b urself hopE on God let him direct ur part.don't come desperate wen u meet a dude.

  8. Thank you very much Julieta, I'm so glad that comment came from a lady. Most men prey on weaknesses and the women have made this weakness very obvious. I have a friend that saw a girl I know and he said he liked her, I told him not to bother cause he wasn't a serious person and she needed someone serious cos she wasn't getting any younger. I didn't know that was a big mistake, he used that as bait for her and she swallowed hook, line and sinker. This happened on a Friday and by Tuesday she was already cooking in his house. I was actually very disappointed at both of them cos I didn't think she'd be that easy and I didn't expect him to use the marriage line. Needless to say the situationship didn't last very long cos she realized he wasn't even remotely ready to settle down. So ladies once you stop giving that desperate vibe, men will stop using that line, except the man is truly very desperate to get married.

  9. Lol....the thing is he may actually be serious....there's that slim chance...some men are actually that clueless and I dare say stupid

  10. Thelma face your work o! Dnt go and cook for any man o.. Lol


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