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Ladies, Be Honest. Do You Get Jealous When......?

So one of my really close friends just pinged me, she actually didn't say much. Just sent the picture of her left hand with a sparkling ring which she captioned "today" with five of the bbm surprised face smileys. I who was immersing herself in a bottle of VSOP and coke (it's one of those nights) was suddenly very awake, aware and lucid. I actually screamed and started jumping on my bed. You see I've waited for this moment for sometime now. I pinged her for details but it took her sometime to reply. I couldn't contain my excitement and just had to share this news with someone so I called a mutual close friend and informed her of what I just learnt. I'd expected her to share my excitement
but her reaction surprised me. She was so unenthusiastic that she almost killed my buzz, she went o
on and on about something or the other about what was wrong with life or men or something (I'm really not sure) and how she's been a very good girl and has nothing to show for it, yet some not so good ones were......, next thing she blurted "please when does MFM do their deliverance programme?". Let's just say that this girl wasn't very enthusiastic.

Ladies, both single and married (before you got married) what is your IMMEDIATE reaction when you hear someone you know just got proposed to? I mean that first reaction. The one you have no control of, the one that comes before what's socially and morally acceptable registers in your brain. 

What's your first thought/reaction and why? 

If it's someone I'm close to I'm usually happy but there was this once that one of my good friends just got proposed to and I would be honest I felt sad. I felt so sad that I actually cried. I mean, I was happy for her, I meant and mean well for her, I even saw it coming, everyone did. Yet on that night that she called me to tell me he had just proposed I just had this unexplainable feeling of sadness. I was so depressed that I pinged a much older friend who got married quite late and asked "is this what it feels like to watch all your friends get married?"....

Anyways, what emotions run through you. Let's talk! 


  1. In a nutshell,E dey happen...

  2. My first reaction have always been joy,happy one of my friends is getting married. Then when am more calm and alone I always do some thinking and end with a silent prayer of "God please do for me what you are doing for others" then its a wrap. I snap out of the depressing mood.

  3. Hmmmm last night was d height. 6 people on my BBM contact got engaged... this very funny, inexplicable feeling over took me. I was actually with my BF who loves me silly but we can't end up 2geda cos of genotype issue.
    So I won't lie, last night I felt bad for myself, I was happy for the engaged but I still felt bad. I felt old ( I am 25) and I felt that everybody I know will soon be married. I actually cried...
    I actually thought I was d only one that felt this way, it's really not a pleasant feeling I tell you.
    I thank God all d same for all his wonderful gifts to me( a job, a car, a great fam and frnd) but this PARTICULAR issue really bothers me. Am still believing God for d best.
    Thanks Thelma for this post.

  4. When I was younger I always used to be excited when a friend got engaged but as I got older, I became a little sadder and kept asking when it would be my turn.

  5. It happens, jealousy is a natural reaction to something like that, especially when your single and desperate.

  6. I feel alwaz happy cos I know my turn sef dey com

  7. Sometimes happy, sometimes the bitch in me is like "whatever " and at other times I'm indifferent. Note. There's a bitch in every lady and a beast in every man. It's our ability to control them that makes the difference. Don't judge me.

  8. I am always happy when someone close to me gets engaged. But recently, one of my mom's friends daughter got engaged to a Nigerian guy who lives in America. I felt sad, firstly cos she's too young to get married (she's 2 years younger than me), and then secondly cos I am older than her, and I don't even have a bf sef... really saddening


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