I know that COMPROMISE is one of the most important factors in marriage and relationships but what happens when your partner wants you to do something that you would normally never compromise on. An example that easily comes to mind is SEX.
How many of us lost our virginities to guys because we willingly wanted to? Because we couldn't wait to experience the pleasures of sex? Or, How many of us had sex because of the pressure they put on us, because we were scared to lose them, because we wanted to make them happy?
And so many of us are still doing this. Some of us, though not virgins would like to abstain till marriage but because we're scared of losing our men, because we want to keep them hooked to us we compromise ourselves, our spirituality, our decisions and resolves.
Recently I watched a video, which is why I'm actually doing this post, of a girl having anal sex with a guy. It was obviously her first time. I believe the guy is her boyfriend because there's no other reason to endure that kind of pain otherwise. And the guy was too young (and broke-looking) to be an aristo that would pay for it. As the guy tried to force it in the girl was busy crying and saying "Ye, is paining me o! Hmmm, small small" or something like that. But one thing I noticed was that even though this chic was in so much pain she didn't try to stop him. When the pain got too much and she instinctively moved her ass away the guy grabbed her back and told her to bend down so that her waist would come higher, making the a.hole more easily accessible to him. The girl continued to sob while the guy was obviously in cloud 9. Is that love? (Allow me to add that the girl was obviously not comfortable with him filming it and while he kept of making sure he caught her face on camera, he never showed his).
Recently while discussing infidelity (in marriage) with a guy, he told me that if you don't like to give blowjobs then don't be angry when your man goes outside to get it. So it follows to say that if you don't want your man to stray, you better get on your two knees and do the do, abi?
I have a friend who hates giving oral sex so much that everytime she finishes she rushes to the toilet to puke. Yet, she still does it for her boyfriend to keep him happy. I wonder if the fact that she finds it so unpleasant she has to throw up afterwards doesn't bother this boyfriend. I wonder if someone who really loves you would put you through that.
Some of us have had to come down from our high horses, cook his food, do laundry, cook for his friends, do his shopping just to keep him happy. Personally I think you should only do these when you have become the Mrs..... (Doing one or some or all of these domestic works guarantees you nothing.)
Believe me people, you haven't heard it all. Some women have gone as far as cooking and cleaning for the mistresses to keep hubby happy. Some have allowed hubby to sleep with the maid just to keep him smiling.
The one that did my head in some years ago is when my friend's boo demanded she allow him sleep with some of her friends. And well, believing it was something she had to do to keep her man, she let him! Some of you would never imagine what goes on behind some closed doors; threesomes, orgies, voyeurism.....all in the name of "keeping him happy". Hia!
Makes me wonder when men became gods....
So ladies, how far have you gone to keep your man?