"I know they're not having anything but when we're all together there's one serious electricity in the room. And it's not between him and me, it's between him and her". This is an excerpt of a chat I had
with someone yesterday. "Him" is her boyfriend. "Her" is a close friend of hers.
Have you ever been in that situation where you introduce your partner (boo, wife, husband, lover etc) to your friend and suddenly you become the third wheel, the outsider?
The picture above describes something that happened to me last year. I was with a dear friend when a guy I was sort of dating called me up for drinks. My friend and I weren't too far from the bar he was at and it didn't make sense to go drop her off (about 30 minutes away) and come back to meet him. So we both went.
We got there and I did the introductions, I had told her about him and some things he had done in the past that upset me. My friend, on meeting him took it upon herself to raise these issues in an "how dare you do that to my friend" kind of way. The guy tried to explain and a big argument erupted. But taking a closer look, these two weren't just arguing, it had become a witty banter and lively exchange of words. They both kept this up, looking each other in the eyes, talking, shouting, laughing and sighing. For those minutes they forgot I was there, and to them I wasn't. I could see it right before me. Suddenly I was on the outside looking in. I could see what was going on but I didn't know how to stop it, it felt beyond my control. Right before me these two people were falling for each other. I tried to cut into their argument/conversation but neither of them as much as looked at me. I had never seen the guy so animated or excited. I had never seen that sparkle in his eyes, I'd never heard him talk that way; he was irritated, happy, annoyed, amused, intrigued all at once. I saw emotions in him that I'd never seen before. My friend was bringing out sides of him that I'd never known in the months we had been together and it took her just a few minutes. My friend also had this happy glint in her eyes. At some point I had to pee, neither of them noticed when I stood up or when I got back. I actually felt helpless. Abeg, I had to cut short the outing, I lied that something just came up and I needed to leave immediately. Both of them looked disappointed but I did what I had to do.
How do you deal with it when you know your partner and your friend have the hots for each other?
(My friend said to ask you guys what you think)
Have you ever found yourself falling for your friend's boo even though you never planned to?