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Right Before My Eyes, My Boo And My Bestie Are Falling In Love....


"I know they're not having anything but when we're all together there's one serious electricity in the room. And it's not between him and me, it's between him and her". This is an excerpt of a chat I had 
with someone yesterday. "Him" is her boyfriend. "Her" is a close friend of hers. 

Have you ever been in that situation where you introduce your partner (boo, wife, husband, lover etc) to your friend and suddenly you become the third wheel, the outsider?

         The picture above describes something that happened to me last year. I was with a dear friend when a guy I was sort of dating called me up for drinks. My friend and I weren't too far from the bar he was at and it didn't make sense to go drop her off (about 30 minutes away) and come back to meet him. So we both went. 

         We got there and I did the introductions, I had told her about him and some things he had done in the past that upset me. My friend, on meeting him took it upon herself to raise these issues in an "how dare you do that to my friend" kind of way. The guy tried to explain and a big argument erupted. But taking a closer look, these two weren't just arguing, it had become a witty banter and lively exchange of words. They both kept this up, looking each other in the eyes, talking, shouting, laughing and sighing. For those minutes they forgot I was there, and to them I wasn't. I could see it right before me. Suddenly I was on the outside looking in. I could see what was going on but I didn't know how to stop it, it felt beyond my control. Right before me these two people were falling for each other. I tried to cut into their argument/conversation but neither of them as much as looked at me. I had never seen the guy so animated or excited. I had never seen that sparkle in his eyes, I'd never heard him talk that way; he was irritated, happy, annoyed, amused, intrigued all at once. I saw emotions in him that I'd never seen before. My friend was bringing out sides of him that I'd never known in the months we had been together and it took her just a few minutes. My friend also had this happy glint in her eyes. At some point I had to pee, neither of them noticed when I stood up or when I got back. I actually felt helpless. Abeg, I had to cut short the outing, I lied that something just came up and I needed to leave immediately. Both of them looked disappointed but I did what I had to do. 



How do you deal with it when you know your partner and your friend have the hots for each other?
(My friend said to ask you guys what you think)

Have you ever found yourself falling for your friend's boo even though you never planned to? 

           

Comments

  1. You make sure you keep them apart noni. It's never wise to introduce your bf to your friends.

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  2. hmmm...to say the truth tee...It happens atyms to me...I have hots for my husband's friend oh...buh guess what immediately I take it outta my mind and I stay clear from him...its kinda funny u know.lolade pinky

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  3. Simple. keep them apart!
    I used to have dis a lot as a single girl. Buh I'd stay away from my friend and her bf to avoid wahala.

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  4. @ Lolade I know what you mean. We can't always help who we're attracted to. I used to be in love with my friend's boyfriend. She's my very close friend and I knew I would never act on it but even till now, they're now married, when I'm around him I can't talk, when he greets me I can't even look at his face, I have goose pimples when I see him. I know by God's grace I won't do anything stupid but it's been over six years and he started dating my friend but till now I'm still so attracted to him.

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  5. Some men are always attracted to their wive's friends. Eg my husband. Smh.

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  6. Good thing you grabbed your friend and left. Nonsense!

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  7. some people though... that's why I never introduce my friends to who I'm dating

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  8. There are many funny aspects to this article" the first one is the incredulous look the girlfriend in the pic had on her face. The second is that most of the commenters are anonymous, lol. The 3rd I'll keep to myself.
    I've been on both sides of this kind of situation but mostly on the side of my gf's getting attracted to my friends. You see the thing is that almost all my friends are what you'd call hunks, fine boys etc but I'm just ok. So it's only natural that girls feel something in their loins when they meet. But one of my friends stands out, he's got this thing about him that only women can explain, once they see him they want to sleep with him. And he doesn't refuse once they make it obvious, he's had quarrels with friends cos of this. At first I used to test any girl I liked by introducing her to him but he'd end up chopping her so I decided to avoid him every time I met a new girl that I liked.
    The other side is that some of my friend's gf's have told me thAt they wished they met me first, for some reason I am the go to guy for advise when they are having issues and I'm great at giving relationship advise to others, except myself. They fail to ask themselves that if I was so good at it, why am I single? They think I'm sensitive and start to see me in a new light, scam. Lol
    My advise is if you're dating someone u like so much don't let them spend so much time with an attractive friend, male or female.

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