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The Best Man Holiday (it's got me in a zone......)

Yes, yes I know I'm stale. You don't have to say it. I'm even surprised it's still showing at the cinemas. I've been tempted to see it since it was released. I go to the movies every week but I seem to be cursed with ridin' solo when it comes to going to the movies. But I've been determined (under advisement from a friend) not to go see that movie alone, so I've stayed away. Finally, my darling friend and I went tonight and I just have to say, it's an AWESOME movie.
The themes are so beautiful but unlike so many, I don't think the most important themes were love and marriage, I think it was friendship.

       There's nothing like having friends who have been there over the years, who have stuck with you, seen you slip, seen you grow, laughed with you, cried with you, cursed with you, ate with you, fed
you. Trust me, there's absolutely nothing like it. 

       This isn't for those who say "I don't keep friends" or "I don't have friends" (I always believe that people who say this are not good people because that is just a reflection of who you are. EVERYONE cannot be that bad, YOU have to be so bad that you've pushed EVERYONE away). This is for those who have friends and value friendship. 

        To my friends, I raise a glass to you. I could be difficult, impatient, moody, yet you love me still. I'm sending hugs and a million kisses to my friends from Queen's College and University. And yes, my bestie, you've been my shelter right from when I was thrown out of my dorm in secondary school, you took me in and gave up your bed for me, while sleeping on the ground for weeks, you split your already tiny meals with me in the dining hall, you gave me your "house wear". In university, once again you sheltered me and gave up your bed for me. You've seen me at my worst and my best. You've laughed with me, cried with me, comforted me, pissed me off, upset me, loved me, and I love you too! And to my other besties, I love you guys so much.

Ok, enough of the emotional stuff, I need a man that would love me the way those men in that movie love their women. Damn! That's some hardcore unconditional ride or die unshakable love. Lord have Mercy! In fact I prophesy such love into my life (from the right man). AMEN.

In Other News please where is Mariam? Girly are we fighting? Oya no vex. I miss you. Please come back! 


  1. T it got you in a zone no be small! ndo.

  2. Thelma you are so right. Anyone who keeps talking about "no friendship" needs soul searching. It makes you inhuman. Think about it. I lost my bestie last month. A true hommie from childhood. His Soul Rest in Peace.

    1. Memphis I'm so sorry about your friend. May he continue to rest in peace. Amen.

  3. Thelma, u can never tell...... about having friends, I mean. Some 'friends' have 'shown' some people. Maybe u should do something on that. :) Yes, I used to have a bestie who was my sister and only sibling until she passed away 2 yrs ago. She justified the word - bestie! Always 'there' 24/7. God bless her soul. I guess to be a bestie, u should share history together. I'm hoping I'll find one, regardless of that. To my wonderful friends, its such a great priviledge to share my world with u(even though sometimes we're really busy in it). I'm grateful to God for u. *kisses* #Enjay#

    1. Enjay I know exactly what you mean. That's why it's important to surround oneself with friends and not "friends". By the way have I said thanks for your comments? Thanks dearie, there's always something to real about them.

  4. Mariam where are you,you actually made me start commenting on this blog and since then its bin fun with you guys,what's up,I miss your simple and precise comments

  5. I Claim it wit u in Jesus name.

  6. Thelma you don put me for reflective mode this morning. I've had friends and I have friends. I have those who would immediately say, ''how are we going to do it?''already making me feel like they are part of the problem and that I'm not alone.Then again, there are those who would say ''nawa for you o, God will see you through''. I know my true friends and I love them. God bless my girls and you Thelma. :)

  7. I can't stop thinking of that movie and what it taught me. We all need friends,life can never be complete without friends. I love you Nwando and Osayi,I love you guys like my sisters I may not be too vocal but I do. Xxx Gigi

    1. Aawww. Don't worry, I know you do even when you don't say it.

    2. you too boo...still waiting for you to come and visit bobo will soon enter secondary school....

  8. that's my favorite movie of 2013. very emotional. if you haven't watched it then you really should.

  9. yeah. that movie made me cry so hard.

  10. Am here o,na my phone get lil prob...I need to see that movie as una dey talk am!@anon 7 24 tnks..I apreciate you!

  11. Oh my....I did all that? seeing as you've done more for me then I guess it doesn't count...always having my back and standing up for me....I tell people of how I am closer to you than I am to my sister...thanks for being so know I've got nothing but love for you....and I won't trade you for Al the tea in China (and don't go saying the tea in China is worthless because if I have it all I can triple the price and sell it on the black market)


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