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The Morning After....

"We became more than just friends. Where do we go from here, after the morning after I let you in, what's the next move to make...the morning after?"


Unfortunately we women are emotional, sentimental beings. The morning after you first have sex with someone, (unless you're a prostitute or you've had so much sex with so many partners that
you've become so desensitized) is fraught with so many worries, thoughts, fears, hopes and dread. I must first point that SEX CHANGES EVERYTHING. Don't buy that crap that it doesn't, it most certainly does.
      So you wake up, and that's if at all you slept, wondering what this means for you two, wondering if he still likes/loves you, wondering if now that he's had the goodies he'll still be interested in you, wondering if things would become awkward or if the sex would rather create a bond between you two. 
       Well it's for this reason that I recently said to someone that (premarital) sex isn't worth the stress. It just has so much unnecessary wahala attached to it sometimes. 
      
I just had a chat with someone who's having "the morning after" jitters. "Would he still love me tomorrow?" fears. Unfortunately I'm not in his head so I cannot tell. But to her and anyone else who cares to know, please DEFINE what kind of relationship you have with this person before you guys
get intimate. Do this to avoid stories that touch. Nothing is guaranteed even after defining things, but at least it's much safer, and if things go awry the morning after you have a right to be pissed, to feel cheated and to demand for better, as opposed to if you were just a random piece of booty.

It could be a very uncomfortable conversation to have but for your own good please, talk about it. And be as honest and as straightforward as possible. If the both of you aren't on the same page then advice yourself accordingly. 

To the worried lady, he may wake up in the morning and look at you and ask where you've been all his life, or he may wake up and look at you and wonder who you are and what you're doing in his
bed, but whatever happens, life goes on. You live and you learn.


Men, do you have "the morning after" jitters too?

Comments

  1. Lol.the morning after is a devil and the deep blur sea situation usually its pretty bad if there is no commitment

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  2. Exactly sex changes everything...my point exactly to some niggaz,they believe sex makes d world go round n i don't understand dt part atall... No doubt sex is good but when a woman doesn't feel like doing it pls respect her wish cos u don't know what happens in our heads when it goes down..

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  3. To avoid that feeling of being unsure wait until you are married to have sex

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  4. That's one situation I never look forward to.

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  5. Best way to.overcome is to leave before he wakea up if there is no.commitment and if it's at your house, get up shower and look tantalising before he sets eyes on you, disappear from that room Cus it's just embarrassing!!! If there is commitment u can just go for the early morning round and bask in your fornication abi?! Anything worth doing is worth doing well!! On the other hand I'm team #Nosexbeforemarraige. GOD HELP US ALL

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    1. Lols...best advice. There's nothing that good looks cant handle!

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  6. Hmmm.... This reaction varies a lot, there are too many factors that come into play. Honestly I think the only reason you'd have jitters the morning after is if the sex was crappy. When the sex was great both of you will know and you won't be able to keep hands of each other when ur awake. The feelings you had for the person before sex could change depending on how good or bad the sex was. Ive ended up dating someone that started out as casual cos the sex was so crazy that we started falling for each other. Then again there are the ones I thot I really liked but after the first night I couldn't wait to see them leave (just like the pic says) . Sex really does change everything, I'm all for no sex before marriage but I'll like to know what my fiance is like in bed before we get married, I really don't like surprises.

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    1. And he's back.....! Welcome.#Enjay#

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  7. For me if i really like a guy, i would want to ve sex with him to determine if he likes me or just wants d sex, for me d best way to handle it is not to chat or call him, i usually start forming busy for d guy, dats how i know who really wants to stay, cos he ll keep calling and wanting to see you.

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