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Wanderings Of a Plus Size Diva. (When you're only Good For Sex....)

Yesterday I read an article on why guys love to sleep with fat/plus size women but would never date them. A lot of guys (and girls too) gave similar answers. Haven't you ever wondered about this same thing yourself? A lot of guys turn up their noses at bigger women but they'll be the first to tell you that "doing" an orobo is very sweet. I guess I should have known the reasons for this but my naïveté never allowed me accept it.
       These are answers given by some men below. 

"All guys care about is having intercourse. There's nothing bad about having intercourse with a fat girl, all vaginas feel pretty much the same. Putting your penis in a vagina feels great, regardless
 of whether the girl is fat or beautiful. The reason guys don't want to date a fat girl is because its embarrassing. They want their girlfriend to be someone they can show off."

"How can I say this without being vulgar.. . . Sex is sex.Guys will not let the chance to have sex slip by. However, they want to have a girlfriend that everyone will find pleasing to the eyes. "
    "Most guys are too insecure to actually be seen with a thick chick, although they ALL secretly want one. It's a vanity thing. Boys are taught to find a beautiful, trophy woman to be seen with, it takes a while for them to realize that they might not actually want a Barbie doll on their arm. Some never figure it out. My advice would be to find one who's figured out what he really wants, not one who's worried about impressing his boys."

"guys would sleep with a fat girl in secret for his gratification but to walk the streets with her would be an embaressment."

While I've never, to my knowledge, slept with someone who didn't want to date me because of my size, I know people who have had those experiences; they actually slept with guys who would not date them because of their size or weight, guys who would be their Prince Charming in the bedroom but would never be caught dead in broad day light with them! (Which is one of the reasons some bigger women suffer from low self-confidence)

This brings me to the second part of this post. I'm all about self-confidence, self-love and self-acceptance, irrespective of your weight or size. That said, I read another article recently where a psychoanalyst said this "I have a lot of formerly overweight patients. Not one of them have ever said 'I wish I was still fat' ". My point is this, love yourself the way you are but do your best to be the best you can be. If being a size 22 is pleasing to you then enjoy it! BUT if you know that you would love to be fitter, trimmer,  maybe even healthier, then please do something about it. Yet, in all this, love yourself every step of way. You owe it to you!

Have any of you plus size divas ever experienced this? Brothers in the house, are you one of those who secretly want to sleep with a Toolz or even an Eniola Badmus but would only go out with an Agbani Darego?


  1. lol. this post reminds me of my friend who was having something with a fat girl. he really like her, he was sleeping with her. but he refused to date her because she was too big. he didn't want to be seen in public with her...

  2. nwando i see you February 11, 2014
    at 8:33 PM
    Create a new one. It's not

    1. Anonymous let's relate in private. *covers face*. Lol

    2. not to worry. Wat ever happens in vegas stays in vegas

    3. i.e u re safe

  3. I've never heard of this before. most guys dating women on the big side usually have no problems showing them off.

  4. I won't lie, orobos make more sense in bed. very hot and sexy.

  5. I have a male friend that can't stand skinny babes..all his Exes are fat.. Even his wife is on the big side.. Dude flaunts her wella.

  6. nah. skinny girls rock!

  7. Ah! If a guy can't flaunt me in public irrespective of my physique then why am I with him? In fact what are we doing together then? Onwero isi now

  8. But Nwando, Itz not so in Warri and Rivers State o. Guys flaunt orobos wella and even go ahead to date and marry them. Whatever rocks people's boat sha.

  9. hmmm interesting. I am kinda plus size...well I can wear a size 12 dress but I dare not try that for jeans....sumtyms I wear size 18/20 bottoms lol ...most guys I have met usually like me+my curves and are not ashamed to be seen with me in public...I think its just all about preference really... but any guy who is ashamed to be seen with a girl he's actually sleeping with, isn't a man....he's just a boy.


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