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What You Don't Know CAN Hurt You! (How Snooping Around Saved My Life)

I've always belonged to the school of thought that what you don't know won't hurt you, and I sometimes take it farther to "ignorance is bliss". By nature I don't like any form of wahala. Not going through my man's phone has never been a problem for me. In fact I have dated several guys but I
have only ever gone through the phone of one. My friends think I'm crazy when I say I don't ever go through my man's phones. The truth is I'm just not that "curious". I never go looking for things without reason, and I always ask, when you find something you don't like, what will do you? And when you go snooping YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING.
       Seriously though, because you find out something and you scream and cry and go to blogs to whine about how he cheated and bla bla bla and yet you still go back to him, so what's the point? 

Errr, well there is a point. The few times I went through someone's phone I found something that was very VERY crucial to my life. I will list three occasions.

1. I was trying to get someone's pin from my friend's phone, with her permission, and then out of curiosity, I decided to read her chat with another of our friends. A couple of months back the Faculty asked that you come to register your name if you're eligible for NYSC for the next batch. I was in Kano (Law School) and I couldn't make it make it to Enugu, so I asked my friend in Enugu to help me, and she said she did. Well, two months later, in that chat she told our other friend that she wasn't able to help me register and that the list was out and my name wasn't on it, and she didn't know how to tell me. Damn! I was so pissed, she was one of my "sisters" ! I eventually had to go through hell and high water to ensure that I went for service with my batch. If I hadn't snooped I would never have known, never have gotten my call-up letter and had to wait for another batch. 

2. The next incident I had was when I went through my brother's phone and I saw a chat he had with someone who was supposed to be one of my closest friends. The things she told my brother about me are unprintable. As in.... How do you tell somebody's brother crap like that about the person? I really wish I could divulge the details of this chat but like I said they're very unprintable. If I had not read that chat my brother would still think, till today, that that is who I am, and that I'd done those unthinkable things.

3. I decided to give my Ex a second chance. Dude had been begging for months and had talked to everybody to beg me, in fact I started dating someone else and he called the guy to tell him that he wanted me back. He made the grandest gestures, put his life at risk, spent some major cash in order to get me back. Then he said he wanted us to get married and even tried to meet with my siblings. He went above and beyond, and when I finally agreed to take him back, I did it only on one condition, that he give me his passwords. He reluctantly agreed and he did this because he knew I never went through people's phones, but the night we made up, I went through his phone and I found out that the idiot was engaged. In fact the next month was his wedding. His bride to be was heavily pregnant, about 7 months and everything all was already in place. (All I can say about this is that some people bring some curses upon their own heads.)

So it's really not nice to snoop around and go through other people's phones and private stuff. But guess what, what you don't know could actually hurt you, and most likely will. 


  1. I totally agree with you Thelma, though I've never snooped or had to snoop but with these three examples you gave, I can only agree. Can't even emphasize the importance of the details you found out from each of the situations. God help us

  2. I won't lie, me I check my bf's phones at every given opportunity. I can't be sleeping on a bicycle biko.

  3. Ignorance is never bliss. Don't ever believe that, be wise. Get your FBI shades on and do what you need to do.

  4. I snoop @ my frnds and close ones phones @ any given opportunity o because, the sad thing about betrayal is that,it never comes from an enemy..

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    Because men cheat on women they love.
    Men break the hearts of women they really do LOVE every single day . . .

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  6. Good question you asked there. When you find out then what? Most women find out but they'll never leave a guy for cheating on them.

  7. My dear I snoop o! It's all part of due diligence.

    1. I love this! Due diligence! Can't stop laughing at this. ZIGGY

  8. Going thru my husband's phone is not snooping Cus sometimes he has my phone all day and I also use his to chat and check my favourite blogs lol I don't see it as a big deal. Although when I was in uni I somehow used my technology brain to get into my boyfriend's voicemail from my phone and found out he impregnated a girl and asked her to abort and he also had another white babe he was sleeping with to say I was broken is an understatement. I didn't even confront him I just blocked his number the relationship was at the brink of death anyways but mehn I loved that boy......

  9. Its an on/off thing for me. And I only go through his phone when I notice some strange happenings and need confirmation. I believe in keeping my heart and mind free from all kinds of negativity. So I ask, I confirm and ask again. Whatever it is, its settled and life continues. Most times, I just pray. #Enjay#

  10. VI don't snoop unless my partner gives me a reason to.e.g this dude was with me and his phone rings,he pressed the cut button and kept saying hello,then he put the phone on silent and turned it upside down.I noticed all that but kept talking like nothing happened but when his mind was not there I looked.....and kept looking and eventually saw enough to get out of the 4yrs relationship.

  11. The two most important things in a relationship are Trust and Confidence. Have the confidence to occasionally show resistance. Resistance reminds your partner that you are actually there and that you form an important part in the relationship. Again, don't over do it with resistance - find a healthy dose. After having read all 10 points above - don't try to introduce them all to the relationship at once. You don't want your partner to think: "Oh, whats wrong with him/her?" Introduce them slowly, one by one. As you work your way through the list you're confidence will start to grow automatically - because you will start to see signs of success and you will get the feeling that you have achieved something.

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