have only ever gone through the phone of one. My friends think I'm crazy when I say I don't ever go through my man's phones. The truth is I'm just not that "curious". I never go looking for things without reason, and I always ask, when you find something you don't like, what will do you? And when you go snooping YOU WILL ALWAYS FIND SOMETHING.
Seriously though, because you find out something and you scream and cry and go to blogs to whine about how he cheated and bla bla bla and yet you still go back to him, so what's the point?
Errr, well there is a point. The few times I went through someone's phone I found something that was very VERY crucial to my life. I will list three occasions.
1. I was trying to get someone's pin from my friend's phone, with her permission, and then out of curiosity, I decided to read her chat with another of our friends. A couple of months back the Faculty asked that you come to register your name if you're eligible for NYSC for the next batch. I was in Kano (Law School) and I couldn't make it make it to Enugu, so I asked my friend in Enugu to help me, and she said she did. Well, two months later, in that chat she told our other friend that she wasn't able to help me register and that the list was out and my name wasn't on it, and she didn't know how to tell me. Damn! I was so pissed, she was one of my "sisters" ! I eventually had to go through hell and high water to ensure that I went for service with my batch. If I hadn't snooped I would never have known, never have gotten my call-up letter and had to wait for another batch.
2. The next incident I had was when I went through my brother's phone and I saw a chat he had with someone who was supposed to be one of my closest friends. The things she told my brother about me are unprintable. As in.... How do you tell somebody's brother crap like that about the person? I really wish I could divulge the details of this chat but like I said they're very unprintable. If I had not read that chat my brother would still think, till today, that that is who I am, and that I'd done those unthinkable things.
3. I decided to give my Ex a second chance. Dude had been begging for months and had talked to everybody to beg me, in fact I started dating someone else and he called the guy to tell him that he wanted me back. He made the grandest gestures, put his life at risk, spent some major cash in order to get me back. Then he said he wanted us to get married and even tried to meet with my siblings. He went above and beyond, and when I finally agreed to take him back, I did it only on one condition, that he give me his passwords. He reluctantly agreed and he did this because he knew I never went through people's phones, but the night we made up, I went through his phone and I found out that the idiot was engaged. In fact the next month was his wedding. His bride to be was heavily pregnant, about 7 months and everything all was already in place. (All I can say about this is that some people bring some curses upon their own heads.)
So it's really not nice to snoop around and go through other people's phones and private stuff. But guess what, what you don't know could actually hurt you, and most likely will.