A blog visitor asked me this question. We just had a very indepth conversation and it occurred to me that I've never though about this.
Blog visitor is male and in his early 30s. We were discussing marriage and why he isn't married and at some point he said to me "Thelma let me be honest, I meet a lot of girls but one of the main problems is that they all say they cannot marry a catholic". He said his Ex once wanted to introduce him to her father but on the condition that he doesn't mention that he's catholic because her father hates Catholics.
He said, you would think that there are a lot of catholic girls in Lagos but when you start searching you'll find that there are actually very few, at best most girl used to be catholic but now they've left the Church for other churches. And, they all say they cannot marry a Catholic. (He's not adamant about marrying a Catholic girl but would like to wed in the Catholic Church and would like his children to be raised catholic. But the problem seems to be that most girls would rather not marry from the Catholic Church at all).
This also reminded me of my darling friend who is a "strong" member of Christ Embassy. She had been dating her boo for a while and these two people were so fantastic together, it even hurts me to use the word "were" instead of "are". Eventually he proposed, as we all expected but my darling sister said "Catholic? Mba nu!". She said she doesn't have to marry from Christ Embassy, but will never marry from the Catholic Church. I think she had hoped to bring him to Christ Embassy but he himself is a staunch catholic. So that's how it ended o! He's married to someone else now, and she's engaged to another guy. Both of them never stopped loving each other but my friend could not take that step, not even for love.
Besides marriage and relationships, some people in general turn their noses away when they here you're catholic. I remember during an interdenominational prayer and fasting session last year one of the counselors asked what church I attend. When I told her I'm catholic she did a doubletake and looked at me as if I told her it was me who killed Jesus!
Is it the belief that Catholics worship Mary, or that the Rosary is a form of idol worship or the orthodox beliefs and mannerisms that make non-Catholics very intolerant of Catholics?
But back to the matter at hand, are Catholics that bad that a young woman of marriageable age, who's single and searching would rather stay single and searching than marry a good, decent, hardworking young Catholic man?
And while we're on the topic, when a couple is from two different denominations, do you think they should remain in their respective churches after marriage? And if not, who should make the move, the husband or the wife? (In all the marriages I know of it's the wives that made the move).
Are Catholics really that bad?