This is for the ladies, my invaluable men folk you're very welcome to weigh in too.
Everyone says men cheat, all men cheat, it's in their nature to cheat, it's in their DNA and they can't help theirselves. Men tell you that they are naturally polygamous or polyamorous, they refer you to the Bible, the Old Testament especially.
Thousands of articles have been written on why men cheat and thousands of answers have been given. In my opinion there's only one answer, and that's that men cheat because they can.
And the fact that we women have to come accept it as a given does not help matters.
Yet, although in theory All Men Cheat, do you just accept it and look the other way? (People often advise that women just ignore their hubbies and find other ways to engage theirselves, find love and comfort in their children.). Or do you fight it with whatever weapons you have in your arsenal?
I had this same conversation with two of my married friends (separately). We were talking about what they think happens when hubby is out of town, and here's what they said:
One said she puts a pack of condoms in his suitcase when he's traveling. (This is supposedly meant to guilt him into staying faithful, if that fails, then to ensure that he has safe sex) .
My other friend on the other hand says, when hubby is traveling she puts his Bible in his suitcase. (This is to bring him to his senses, to remind him that he is a married man with a wife at home to whom he ought to be faithful..... She says putting a pack of condoms in his suitcase actually encourages him to cheat (do you guys agree with this?) so she will never do that).
Both arguments seem valid. One has already accepted that all men cheat, therefore her husband will cheat and she might as well work with that. The other knows that although all men are said to cheat, she will fight to ensure that her hubby is the exception.
Which of these two approaches do you live by? Or do you put both the Bible and the pack of condoms? LOL.