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First Dates Anyone?

The only reason I'm writing this is because I'm stalling. I absolutely hate first dates! I've been putting this off for about a week and everyday I come up with excuses why I can't make it. I've given excuses from I have a late meeting, to I'm working late, to I had to go somewhere with my boss and some other hopefully plausible lies. Now the weekend is here and we're meant to meet at 6pm and it's 6.10 and I'm still cowering on the sofa while my friend is berating me, telling me that I'm going to lose this guy just the same way I lost others; constantly posting them till they get tired and fashi me. I'm worried as well... He called at 4pm and I told him the mechanic has my car and it should be here by 6. So now I'm wondering if I should tell him the mechanic disappointed me, or if I should just go get dressed and brave it. 

I just really really hate first dates. I worry about what to say, when to say it, would we hit it off? Would I hate him? What if we just don't connect? What if he asks questions I can't answer? What do I do if I find him boring? What if he's a poor conversationalist? Is it ok to leave thirty minutes after I get there?

Actually I already have a plan for that. If I go, the minute I get there I'll say I can only stay briefly because it's my friend's birthday. If it sucks then I'm out in thirty minutes. If it doesn't then I'll sit back and relax and tell him I can get to my friend's much later. 

So I really should make up my mind and stop stalling. We've met just once but from talking to him over the phone he sounds like he's got a great personality and would be serious fun. He's good looking with an enviable job/career.... Ok, im'ma go get dressed and quit stalling. 

Enjoy the rest of your weekend sweeties!


  1. Aww. Just relax and have fun. It can't be that bad.

  2. Thelma da bebe!! LOL! Now you've given us intro hope you'd complete this gist sha.
    Your concerns about first dates are valid.

  3. Thelma da bebe!! LOL! Now you've given us intro hope you'd complete this gist sha.
    Your concerns about first dates are valid.

  4. Your concerns are valid my dear. I feel d same about first dates, but I've learnt that it's easier to just be urself.

  5. Wow!!! Ur my exact opposite T. I Love 1st dates! I love the suspense and mystery! I love all the questions cos it's my way of travelling down my memory lane! Above all, it's a neutral ground to like or hate the dude! LOL. Have fun

  6. NNE biko bia u musttttu finish this gist later

  7. are not a secondary school kid...abeg get dressed and go!!!!!!!!!! YOU BE SMALL PIKIN????

  8. Girl...aren't we on the same boat or what? I met this naija dude online on a dating site last week and already we've set up a date for Tuesday. We've spoken a few times already on the fone. Wondering if it's too soon to meet him. Not really feeling on the fone but wondering if the feelings would change once we meet up. Wish me luck and I wish you the same with yours. Let's know how your go. Btw, my first time on I our blog, looks fun.

  9. Except he's a very confident guy he's probably as nervous as you are, so just try to relax and have fun with it.
    I agree first dates can be daunting but they can also be epic, don't make him solely responsible for making it memorable, do your part too. Listen, ask questions and share. But do not reveal to much too quick, that's the fastest way to kill attraction. Nothing is as exciting as a little myself. Leave him wanting more.


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