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Friends With The Ex; Maturity, Self-Deceit or....?

So earlier today Linda Ikeji put up a post about Swizz Beatz and wife, Alicia Keys on vacation with his ex wife (pictures above). The pictures show Swizz making out with wifey while his ex sat there (trying to look) unconcerned. As an aside, Alicia Keys says Swizz and his wife were already separated before they got together but I remember watching an episode of one of these reality TV shows (honestly can't remember which one right now) where his ex wife expressly stated that she and her husband where still very married and together when she heard that he was getting married to Alicia Keys, and shortly after he moved out.

But that's not what this post is about. Can you imagine yourself chillin/loungin'/hanging out with your Ex's present partner? Have you ever been in that situation? Are you/Can you be friends with your Ex's boo? 

Personally I don't think so, I feel there's always some unresolved stuff with Exs and although we may be friends or civil to each other, I have no desire to be so close with him and the new chic. Or maybe I'm just not mature enough.... ALSO my boo has ABSOLUTELY NO BUSINESS with his Ex(s). We will be civil and polite to her/them but there will be no such friendly hang outs. Nah, I'm not taking that risk.


  1. LOL! i have never been in this situation, and I know that I cannot have that kind of closeness to an ex's current girlfriend.

  2. Which kind of maturity? Hell no! The ex wife doesn't even look happy, she looks like they forced her.

  3. The only thing that can explain such a situation is if she had amnesia and forgot all wat happened before. There's no way in hell a human with everything intact be ok with this. That can never be me. I'm too emotional for that bullshit.

  4. Something is very very seriously wrong with these 3 people. What?! I wont be surprised if ther's some menage-a-trois involved. Tufiakwa!
    Eheh, Nwando, nwanne m, if this is immaturity or not being mature enough, then i dont want maturity. I'm with you on this one.

  5. NO, if its immaturity then am way way too immature.Have had ex-es inviting me for their weddings and actually expecting me to turn up,how now?wetin I dey find?Who am I?well-wisher?friend of the groom or friends of the couple?Am I saying after having a seriously hectic week with my kind of job,there's nothing else I can do with my saturday?

  6. I can be friends with my ex but there must be boundaries. Hanging out, chilling is a big no for me, the past has to stay in the past.

  7. Heck no! I've tried to be friends with my ex but it is so hard being around him and his family considering I thought I was going to be wifed up. My last boyfriend asked if we could be friends after we broke up and I told him in tired of being friends with exes. Ah ahn wetin? You want to rub salt on an already raw wound? Abeg no time for that o.

  8. I am highly immature! I DONT even talk to the Ex! All I do is Greet... "hi", "hello". walkapass... what kindda family reunion is this? #LongHiss

  9. I don't have a problem with being friends with an ex but there definitely has to be boundaries. If not things just get messy and there nothing as annoying as an amicable break-up from a relationship with a friendship split dat has more drama than ur break-up! Vacations with the ex would fall into that boundaries category. Vacations with the ex and his new nu! I no craze reach dat level!

  10. Its a. NO for me....I don't have such heart,aint a bad person but when its over,its over,we can be distance friend but no FAMILIARITY to that extent


  12. NO I can't deal,I don't need that kind of maturity either.


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