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In Defense Of Women Who Marry For Money.



I mentioned that some of my friends came into town for my birthday right? After we cleaned up we retired to the bed room but sleep didn't come immediately. We had to talk about everything, one of which included the wedding of Adaora Ufondu to Chief Emeka Offor. Some cast aspersions and called names, "gold digger" was thrown around often carefreely. Everyone was an accuser, judge and jury. I listened to various diverse opinions. The pros and cons of marrying an older man , marrying a wealthy man, marrying  for money. For some reason everyone was of the opinion that she married for money. I've on a couple of occasions asked "what if she actually loves him?" But before I get all the words out they shut me up. 


24 hours later the pictures of the Okoyas surfaced and the topic was revisited. Here there were no divergent views, everyone opined that Sade married the Chief for money and how she's a very "sharp" babe. Another debate followed and "alleged" intimate details of their lives were spoken of.   
       Fingers are often pointed at the younger woman who marries the older man for money and a lot of name-calling usually follows. 

But why do we always always call out the beautiful young women who marry wealthy old men? Why don't we call out the men who marry women younger than their last daughters? Why do we judge women for marrying for money when the men don't marry for love either but for their youth, beauty and sex. If you ask me I think it's a fair trade. 

Besides I've not seen where it's been written that one must marry for love. People marry for different reasons, some because time is running out, some because they want to have children, some marry for papers, some marry because they got pregnant, some marry to please their families, some men marry to look like respectable members of the society, some men marry because they want a live-in maid. So what makes marrying for money so wrong?

In my opinion as long as there's mutual respect, chemistry and friendship, it does not matter much the reasons two people get married, provided no one's getting hurt. 

Comments

  1. Ok Thelms, I really have to ask 'What's with the defense thing this evening?

    That said, I think anyone should marry for whatever reasons works for them.You are going to live with the consequences anyway,good or bad so pls make sure you are behind the steering!

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  2. I don't mind a young girl marrying an older wealthy man so long she is his first wife,or the first is late. But when a young girl Is a 3rd wife to some man,don't blame me when I judge her or say she married for money and not love.

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  3. Its better to marry a rich older man dat ll adore and spoil u silly instead of marrying a young, poor idiot that ll eventually cheat on u with younger girls when he gets rich, men are really not worth the trouble, at least 80% of men cheat, so why marry a poor cheat and be sweating away wen u can be comfortable tired old man and stop all the hustling.

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  4. Lol @ Favourite, I had the same thoughts - the defense thing. Just to add, some people marry because they want to have sex (e.g the chaste christian brothers n sometimes sisters too) and also, some marry for free sex, knowing fully well that there'll always be someone in the bed at night. #Enjay#

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    1. What happens when the lust fades, cos it does sometimes

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    2. What happens when the lust fades, cos it does sometimes

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    3. Most times, that's when the extra-marital affairs begin. #Enjay#

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    4. Or the love begins (on the positive side). I hope this truly happens in this life#Enjay#

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  5. Ok,if the lady married for money,what excuse does the guy have for proposing?
    As far as lm concerned,marriage is a mutual union (with or w/o love). And still on the topic,a woman marring a broke guy isnt based on her love for him either...

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  6. Now i'm not saying being an 'out and outright gold-digging hussy' is the way to go, but i won't be quick to castigate a girl cos she decided financial security is top of her wanted list for a man. As long as you r not breaking a home and each side knows what they are getting into, why not! People marry for different reason; men marry for looks, some for sex, others cos dey r actually in love, so if 'm to be objective about this, why not for money? After all it is widely known that love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship. Even in relationships where the guy may not be financially secure @ the time, u stick ard because u see THERE ARE PROSPECTS OF THAT in the future so why people give others crap cos they know what they need and decided to go for it and the person they are with doesn't seem to have make a bad trade either, i don't get. Its an adult decision made by adults, whats the big deal! And people attract others in different ways too! So what looks to 1 like a pervy ol man and a gold digging babe may actually be 2 people who despite vast differences actually have something in common n actually enjoy each others company! And we all know men are attracted by what they see, bt women are attracted by what they HEAR! And like it or not a guy with some years on him would have a lot to say. Also sometimes that is his second chance at getting love and romance right and you think he won't give it his best shot?! my thots tho...Ziggy

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  7. It's wrong is when you break a home or when you siphon the husband's money to the account of your broke boyfriend who you're still having sex with.

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