I mentioned that some of my friends came into town for my birthday right? After we cleaned up we retired to the bed room but sleep didn't come immediately. We had to talk about everything, one of which included the wedding of Adaora Ufondu to Chief Emeka Offor. Some cast aspersions and called names, "gold digger" was thrown around often carefreely. Everyone was an accuser, judge and jury. I listened to various diverse opinions. The pros and cons of marrying an older man , marrying a wealthy man, marrying for money. For some reason everyone was of the opinion that she married for money. I've on a couple of occasions asked "what if she actually loves him?" But before I get all the words out they shut me up.
24 hours later the pictures of the Okoyas surfaced and the topic was revisited. Here there were no divergent views, everyone opined that Sade married the Chief for money and how she's a very "sharp" babe. Another debate followed and "alleged" intimate details of their lives were spoken of.
Fingers are often pointed at the younger woman who marries the older man for money and a lot of name-calling usually follows.
But why do we always always call out the beautiful young women who marry wealthy old men? Why don't we call out the men who marry women younger than their last daughters? Why do we judge women for marrying for money when the men don't marry for love either but for their youth, beauty and sex. If you ask me I think it's a fair trade.
Besides I've not seen where it's been written that one must marry for love. People marry for different reasons, some because time is running out, some because they want to have children, some marry for papers, some marry because they got pregnant, some marry to please their families, some men marry to look like respectable members of the society, some men marry because they want a live-in maid. So what makes marrying for money so wrong?
In my opinion as long as there's mutual respect, chemistry and friendship, it does not matter much the reasons two people get married, provided no one's getting hurt.