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Marriage; The Love Killer ?


Have you ever wondered why that passionate starry-eyed couple of last year got married and suddenly look.....dead? 

There are some things on my mind about marriage, some things I find both troubling and baffling:


1. A couple cohabits for about five or six years and have a happy relationship. Then they get married and suddenly it all crumbles. Why does this happen? What is the difference between what they've been doing before and what they're doing now? And I don't think it's always about babies because some of these couples started having kids before they wed. So what 
changes?


I just heard that Kourtney Kardashian has finally agreed to Marry Scott Dissick and I went cold on her behalf. They've been together for seven years and have two kids and seem to have had an ok relationship, and been able to weather the storms that came. So why do I fear that once they say I DO, a few months later OK Magazine would inform us that they're getting a divorce?


2. How does a couple date for eight years and have a near perfect relationship, but get married and get divorced six months later?

3. How does a couple who had so much passion, love and affection for each other, become unable to stand each other after marriage?

What changes between a couple once they officially become husband and wife? Does marriage kill love?


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*I'm in no way generalizing, or suggesting that this happens in/to every marriage.
I'm also well aware that cohabiting before marriage is a sin, so there's really no point in pointing fingers and pointing that out as that's besides the point, you get my point? (LOL I'm embarrassed but I just had to do that.)*

Comments

  1. 'See finish' syndrome. #Enjay#

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    1. Why didn't you see finish before getting married? Afterall u cohabited for sometime. As for me I think there's something wrong with the institution called marriage. Let dem change d v.c

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    2. In another note, outside changing the v.c of d institution, I think perception changes once a union is formalised. U go raise bar, restrictions, do's and do's, don'ts and don'ts and many many thing dat I can't fit type as my fone no be qwerty.

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    3. Dear Anonymous 4:12, I wasn't referring to those who co-habited before the marriage. I meant marriage as I don't believe in co-habitation. My opinion, though.#Enjay#

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  2. Everyone relaxes on things they did to make the relationship work....forgetting marriage is more important than the relationship.

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  3. (Not also generalizing) After marriage, especially after the babies come (while married), men tend to believe that the woman has nowhere else to go, so she'd take all manners of shit. The woman on the other hand, believes she is the madam of the house, the owner, thus overlooks some important ingredients required for the union to work out. This just gives credence to Annieella's comment above. There is something about 'legal ownership' (permit this phrase, please) which makes couple relax.
    Also, you can never completely analyze a man or a woman while still dating/unmarried. I guess a lot of us have learned the act of presenting ourselves as near-perfect or blameless while outside; then we show our true colours when the prize is won.
    Just a few points. - F

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    1. Anon u cld not ve said it any better, d major point is that women/men feel thr spouse is entrapped and would never leave so they dole out a lot of crap!!

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