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Mistresses' Letters To Wives. (Let's Talk About It).

It seems mistresses are constantly writing letters to their men's wives. Last year I posted one HERE and just today I've found another one. I've read several letters from mistresses to wives and there seems to be some recurring points. 

Dear .....
#1) I got your text today….I was so amused at the questions you asked???
How Could i sleep with a married man??? Do you really think i awoke one morning and said today I will ruin a marriage? Because if you did your dumber then your husband said you were…Does your ignorance allow you to think I approached him?
For the record I approach no man and never have.
#2) You asked…How could I disrespect your wedding Vows?
Ummm For the record I wasn’t the one saying them with you….
I wasn’t the one professing my love for you in front of 100 guest, family and friends.
I believe this question is for the man who broke those vows not me.
Let’s be honest
What do i care about YOUR vows?
#3) You asked how could I live with myself for wrecking your happy home?
Now this will be my pleasure to respond too…Do u think i was the only one?
Do you think I am the first? If you do… don’t read any further then this…
If you want the truth continue reading…

When he took me out to dinner the waiter knew his name…
When the flowers were delivered to my job the delivery guy said he always sends the prettiest ones.
When we went to the hotel his secret CC was on file.
So much for your happy home
#4) You questioned how do i live with myself??? Where is my self respect? Now hold on to your seat belt you’re about to get an earful….How do u do it? How do u look in the mirror every morning comb your hair and brush your teeth and care for his children? cook him his breakfast possibly even pack him his lunch,,,When you know in heart he is loving someone else…
How do you function in life selling yourself short? why do u stay??????? For the kids???? That’s a lie…You stay because you feel so inadequate to leave!!!! OMG!!!! begin again Ohhh Geez might have to get a job….O NOOOO for the love of God I might have to like me again.
Where is YOUR self respect how can lay next to man who desired the flesh of another women…How do u lay next to man who told another i love u…How do look in your child’s eye and let them see you settled as second best????(THAT’S RIGHT YOU’RE SECOND BEST BECAUSE IF YOU WERE HIS ONE LOVE HE WOULDN’T HAVE SEEKED ANOTHER)
Where is YOUR self respect??? Don’t blame me cause you kept him…THAT WAS YOUR CHOICE…He thought you respected your self more and was hoping you were going to be the one to walk away but instead you stayed. Now take what you get and don’t judge me…Look at the man you kept.

No doubt good is good. And bad is bad. But if you're to read this letter objectively would you agree with any of the points the mistress made?
#1. The husband did approach her. (I cannot blame her for this) which leads me to 
#2. It's the husband who broke the vows. I have said and will always say that the Mistress owes the wife no apology. It's not the mistress who cheated on you, it's your husband. It's your husband who broke the vows HE made to YOU, not some random woman who most likely doesn't know you from Adam. 
I'm not going to do a full analysis of this. I sympathize with wives who have philandering husbands. But I find issues with them taking their frustrations out on the mistresses/side chics/random-hook-ups.
Yet, maybe when I get married my views will change. In fact I'm almost sure they will because just thinking about it, if my sister's hubby or my bestie's hubby should cheat, I would want to strangle the Jezebel that dares threaten my sister/bestie's peace and happiness. 
Ok enough about me. What say you?


  1. Its a two-way thing...he broke his vows to his wife but madam mistress aided him. If she didn't know he was married,its different but if she did and still went along,she shares in the blame. Women shld know the kind of values their intended husbands have cos its one thing that also helps when the storms of marriages sets in (cos they always do)

  2. We complicate issues for ourselves by dating married men. Then wen we get married, we expect a fairy tale ending forgeting Karma is chillin arnd d corner waitin patiently. Its jst simple logic: u must pay d price for making another woman go through heartache. Dating married men is a mistake we realise 2 late.

    1. Don't blame everything on karma. The women who married as virgins but still share a similar fate nko?

  3. HmMmm....karma 4 rEal, but in most cases u find out that it is either the good ma marrynn d bad woman or d bad man hookd 2 d good woman

  4. I agree with some of the points she raised but its funny how they(the side chicks) try to exculpate themselves. let me use this example. For one to have a valid contract there must be an offer then acceptance and a consideration. Any of these concepts alone cannot result in a contract. Back to the mistress, the married men approaches you and makes an offer( an affair) is it mandatory you will accept?

    If a mistress says no to such offer(s) we won't be having this conversation. I think any girl having an affair with a married man should be ashamed. The fact they try to defend it makes them more pathetic. Its just like bribery, both the giver and the taker are equally guilty.

  5. 'A husband-stealer is not guilty, it is your husband you should admonish' so says a good old saying (same goes for wife-stealer too). There is also a saying that "it is whatever you leave around carelessly that a goat's mouth reaches/eats'. In a lot of affected marriages, it is either the husband just believes he should assess anything in skirt that catches his fancy; believing that it is his birth-right as a man to cheat (the first saying) or the women are not doing enough to keep their homes (the second saying). I have seen men who cheat just for the fun of it. I also have male friends who confided in me that they cheat because their wives become sexually-lazy unlike when they were still courting. Whatever the case may be, I will NEVER fight my husband's concubine (except of course such is my relation or bestie)

    1. A wife who cheats is guilty by society cos the Q is,why can't u close ur legs? Why did u encourage his advances? Bla bla shit...The morals of people matter. The lady screwing someone's husband is prolly the usher or chorister in ur place of worship

  6. As someone who's been on the other side, I agree with this letter. The husbands are the ones who cannot stop looking outside. And if they have money to spend the why not? Mistresses are not to blame.

  7. No man would be faithful because he loves his wife, or because she is a magician in bed, or because she does everythin a wife should do. People cheat because dey choose to. It's nt the wives fault n dia is hardly anytin she can do abt it. Men cheat becos they WANT to even wen dey love dia wives. D only man dat won't cheat is d man that has promised his creator dat he wnt, not d man dat promised u he won't. As 4 d mistress just knw dat he doesn't love you mre, you are just new n exciting, soon u wud bkom an old cargo 2. Just enjoy it yl it lasts. A man dat can cheat on his wife wil cheat on u! #HardTruth. Wit ur frnds 4 dat mata!


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