Men.... What happened to the excitement of the chase; the thrill of the chase, getting to know someone (better), creating a form of relationship with a chic, becoming friends first.... What's happened to all of that. What happened to the romance?
You know how we women are... We meet a man and five minutes later we've already planned our wedding, named our kids and picked out their schools, and planned our 25th wedding anniversary. While the guy doesn't see beyond the next date where he takes you to bed and shags you senseless and probably loses your number afterwards.....
So I met *Tosan sometime back and he made the right moves and had the right lines and although he didn't really "move" me, *G was already planning our wedding, she was so excited and admittedly I caught a bit of the fever and started to anticipate.
Well on Friday he invited me to Le Meridian and while I thought it was for drinks and food, I didn't know that he'd gotten a room where I was supposed to spend the night. Hian! Anyways, after expressing my annoyance, I went up to the room (since I went with G). First off, he was so disappointed and at a point asked if we could "put her in a cab" and send her home. I said we couldn't and then suggested that we go down to the pool side (beside which the buffet was taking place). He grudgingly agreed. While there, I went to the 'Ladies' and this guy started to beg G to convince me to spend the night with him. He told her that if she succeeds in convincing me and I have sex with him he'll transfer 500k to her account first thing Monday morning. (Long story short G and I left after eating abeg. The guy, who we know for a fact is single, turned out to be a huge disappointment and as we left Eko Hotel G asked "Where's the romance? What happened to the excitement? How can he want to 'do' you just like that?".
Guys, what happened to getting to know a woman? To 'chasing' her, wooing her? Where's the excitement in taking a woman to bed just after meeting her when you barely even know her?
He said the problem is that women like being lied to. That all the candle lit dinners and romantic evenings are all a smokescreen, with sleeping with you as the end point.
Maybe so... Yet, we want the romance. We need the romance. We deserve the romance!
As I said earlier, we went to a 24hr store and while I tried to decide on a brand of Vodka (the only alcohol that's worth consuming IMO), this cute guy with a toothy smile came to say hi, and guess what guys, this is how he introduced himself ;
"Hey! I'm *Steve, I'm an engineer, I work with Addax".
No lies, G was there to encounter it. I then shook his hand and replied saying
Then he said
"Oando!!! For real! You work with Oando?!! Really? Nice!!!!"
People, this guy, who didn't even know yet what my name is, was so excited that I work with Oando that nothing else mattered at that point. I spent the next minute or so, explaining that my name is Nwando, and no, I don't work with Oando. His disappointment was so real that we can actually bottle it and sell it.
Seriously! Now it's my turn to ask. WHERE'S THE FREAKING ROMANCE???
So we meet and the company I work with is how you weigh me, how you determine if I'm worth your company, your wit, your time? Nawa o!!!!
Is it just me or does it seem like romance is becoming extinct?
Have a lovely week ahead my darlings. MARIAM (when you get to read this) know that I miss you soooooooooooo much. I hope you're having fun in camp, I hope you're happy.
Have a blessed week everyone.