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Seriously. Where Has All The Romance Gone?



Men.... What happened to the excitement of the chase; the thrill of the chase, getting to know someone (better), creating a form of relationship with a chic, becoming friends first.... What's happened to all of that. What happened to the romance? 

You know how we women are... We meet a man and five minutes later we've already planned our wedding, named our kids and picked out their schools, and planned our 25th wedding anniversary. While the guy doesn't see beyond the next date where he takes you to bed and shags you senseless and probably loses your number afterwards.....

So I met *Tosan sometime back and he made the right moves and had the right lines and although he didn't really "move" me, *G was already planning our wedding, she was so excited and admittedly I caught a bit of the fever and started to anticipate. 

Well on Friday he invited me to Le Meridian and while I thought it was for drinks and food, I didn't know that he'd gotten a room where I was supposed to spend the night. Hian! Anyways, after expressing my annoyance, I went up to the room (since I went with G). First off, he was so disappointed and at a point asked if we could "put her in a cab" and send her home. I said we couldn't and then suggested that we go down to the pool side (beside which the buffet was taking place). He grudgingly agreed. While there, I went to the 'Ladies' and this guy started to beg G to convince me to spend the night with him. He told her that if she succeeds in convincing me and I have sex with him he'll transfer 500k to her account first thing Monday morning. (Long story short G and I left after eating abeg. The guy, who we know for a fact is single, turned out to be a huge disappointment and as we left Eko Hotel G asked "Where's the romance? What happened to the excitement? How can he want to 'do' you just like that?".

Guys, what happened to getting to know a woman? To 'chasing' her, wooing her? Where's the excitement in taking a woman to bed just after meeting her when you barely even know her?
      He said the problem is that women like being lied to. That all the candle lit dinners and romantic evenings are all a smokescreen, with sleeping with you as the end point. 

Maybe so... Yet, we want the romance. We need the romance. We deserve the romance!
.........

As I said earlier, we went to a 24hr store and while I tried to decide on a brand of Vodka (the only alcohol that's worth consuming IMO), this cute guy with a toothy smile came to say hi, and guess what guys, this is how he introduced himself ;

"Hey! I'm *Steve, I'm an engineer, I work with Addax". 

No lies, G was there to encounter it. I then shook his hand and replied saying 

"Nwando"

Then he said

"Oando!!! For real! You work with Oando?!! Really? Nice!!!!"

People, this guy, who didn't even know yet what my name is, was so excited that I work with Oando that nothing else mattered at that point. I spent the next minute or so, explaining that my name is Nwando, and no, I don't work with Oando. His disappointment was so real that we can actually bottle it and sell it. 

Seriously! Now it's my turn to ask. WHERE'S THE FREAKING ROMANCE???

Nawa o! 

So we meet and the company I work with is how you weigh me, how you determine if I'm worth your company, your wit, your time? Nawa o!!!!


Is it just me or does it seem like romance is becoming extinct?




Have a lovely week ahead my darlings. MARIAM (when you get to read this) know that I miss you soooooooooooo much. I hope you're having fun in camp, I hope you're happy.
Have a blessed week everyone. 

Comments

  1. LOL @ the Nwando/ Oando mix up. Wahala dey for this my generation o.

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  2. The perks of living on the Island :) I see the romance everywhere, so...

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  3. Guys of nowadays want a woman that can help out with the bills and some would stop at nothing. scratch the "What is your name ?" replace with "What do you do?" followed closely by "how long have you been working?"..As women strive for equality we better get ready to give men their own share of the equality gains - right to expect financial support from a woman without bring judged.....To each his own.

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  4. That Steve guy got me rolling! But Thelma, have you tried being a Lil tolerant with some of these "not-the-type-but-cool" guys? Say give maybe two, some attention and subtle schooling. They could be it, you know *shrugs. Romance is sweet...so sweet it should be taught in schools! even if they didn't teach how to LOVE! It could suffice o! A lotta guys now substitute all that with money and profile...tsk tsk

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  5. loll u r soo right tho, no more romance and It just gives my spirit!

    I met this guy two weeks ago yeh and we had our first date two days later , would u believe after that first date, later on in the night, nigga sent a bb msg asking us to be official and how he wants to be exclusive...in my mind m like huhhhhhh I don't know u mayt! seriously this guy was soooo pushy and kept saying he wants a yes or no answer and how he wants to be my boyfriend n stuff...guys r totally clueless tho..I think frndship is key. ofcourse I don't even talk to the loser anymore. I just cant stand pushy needy guys.

    Nwando I pray u find the right one and the one that would make it worth ur while. its a tough world out there.

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  6. I meant ...''it just grieves my spirit****

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  7. Nwando, my first time on your blog and have had some fun reading through some of the posts and comments.
    My conclusion is that I can read you like a book!

    The romancs is still there but the girls have changed the rules of the game, trust me on this one..don't even know how to explain it. Relationships are like fast food these days, old and traditional ways thate are tried and tested no longer works.

    Jeez! I miss chasing girls, the romance was a key part for me; not having that is like leaving out locust bean in a pot of vegetable! I am married now but hope I can get involved in counseling the young people running around looking for s*x the fast food way.

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  8. I miss the days of having a guy wait on you like a princess,the days of long calls and romantic text messages. We need to bring "the chase" back. Gigi

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  9. Well I still got my long chase and d long calls keep getting longer. The right men are still there.

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  10. The romance is still there. you just need to look in the right places.

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  11. First that guy that's willing to pay 500k for sex must be completely gamblers.
    Don't bite me but I think women are more to blame for this than men.... For example I put up a friend's dp up some days ago and all the girls that pinged asked the same thing "he's cute, what does he do?" None asked if he was single, or a good person etc. Men have realized this and because of fear of losing the woman we feel that we have to flaunt our achievements to impress you. I met a girl once and I was trying to have a convo with her, the next thing she went to ask my friend was " is he rich, I hope it's not only English he knows how to speak".
    Another thing is the environment you meet the person in, search in the right places. People you meet in the club probably just want money or sex, nothing more. Romance is alive, very. You just can't get it from the wrong person.

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