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The Good Wife.

I often find myself thinking about this. 

Some years back someone told me about a couple who had just broken up. During the relationship the guy passed through so many problems and was having difficulties in his businesses and career. Nothing was going well, his business wasn't growing, money became very scarce and there was general stagnation in his life. Not long after the break up, things suddenly started going well for him, his business started flourishing and soon he was hit left, right and centre by opportunities and money that he couldn't even explain. Everyone said his Ex girlfriend was the reason behind his failure and bad fortune. 

Not long after that my friend *Mayowa was passing through terrible difficulty in his life, everywhere he "put head" there was no luck. It was a time of constant disappointments and difficulty. Mayowa met, and soon started dating *Oge and immediately, he experienced a 180 turn around in his business and career. He believes till today that Oge, who is now his wife, is the reason behind his success, and every favour that comes his way, he says it is Oge that brings it. So much so that before the wedding he and Oge split and Mayowa did EVERYTHING within his power to win her back, because to him, Oge was the reason his life began to make sense and things were going well for him, so naturally if Oge left, his life, career, finances and business will go back to shambles. 

Last year, my good friend and blog visitor wed, and a couple of weeks to the wedding, her fiancé received a big promotion at work. I remember telling her "hmmm, babe, you've brought favour to your husband". She smiled and said that he said the same thing too. And so I asked myself; Nwando, what kind of wife will you be? 

There are some AMAZING people in this world, they're few and rare to find. I'm so blessed of have one of such people as a friend. She's engaged but things aren't too rosy for her fiancé at the moment. Last night we spoke over the phone and without even thinking, I said to her "he has you, with you by his side he has everything he needs." . I didn't say this carelessly, it wasn't exactly thought through but this girl is someone I believe will bring good things to her husband. 

I spent last night thinking about this. Because my friend seemed very reassured by what I said, I suddenly held myself accountable and asked, is this mere myth or superstition? Do some people really bring favour to their partners? Could it be purely coincidence or simply timing?

I have always believed that there are people who bring good luck to others, there are those "good" wives that some husbands don't gamble with because they know that their good fortune is strongly attached to them. But really, are these wives the reason behind their husbands' breakthrough and success?

I don't know the answers, (I'm hoping those who do will shed some light on this) but I strongly hope that I will be a wife that brings favour to her man. 


  1. Yes, there are people that bring luck to their spouses. A few people.

  2. I've heard that these things happen and even seen cases but whatever it is, whether myth or legend, my prayer is that I bring good luck to my husband and all I come across...Amen!

  3. Dear Lord, I am saying this with Thelma and co as witnesses. Bless David for me, at least, bless him cos I've decided to stick with him.....I see his pains everyday and I don't want to keep consoling him....I don't want to suffer later as well.....I know I bring luck sha...Nihinlolawa saiz it all.

    1. Amen. May God hear us and grant us our hearts' desires.

  4. Hi,

    He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord - Proverbs 18:22

    My issue with the post pertaining to the "Good Wife" is when does the balance come in, is it the wife bringing the favour or is it God? Does the wife then become the lucky charm which is idolatry?

    While I want to add value to my husband and our marriage as a wife, I do not want to be a lucky charm, I don't want him staying with me primarily because he believes all blessing come his way because he is married to me.

    I strongly believe as a Christian, I am automatically blessed because I have Christ in me, I have the heart and mind of Christ so it is my entitlement which I accept in faith (irrespective of my environment).

    Do these men think blessings are only material things? What about peace, patience, long suffering, what about the support the wife/fiancée brings to the table whilst going through hard times? I consider those favour and blessings, to be able to have peace and reassurance in faith when going through hardship is certainly favour from God.

    I do hope my future husband does not have to wait in anticipation of my arrival before he realises that he is blessed beyond comprehension and has every right to good things falling in pleasant places for him.


    1. Keke you're so right. But no, it's not idolatry. It's a known fact that God uses people to bless people. In that same vain God could use a wife to bless her husband. That doesn't mean that said husband wasn't blessed in the first place, it just means that the husband could receive UNUSUAL favour through his wife from the blessings she brings him, which ultimately comes from God.

    2. "He believes till today that Oge, who is now his wife, is the reason behind his success, and every favour that comes his way, he says it is Oge that brings it. So much so that before the wedding he and Oge split and Mayowa did EVERYTHING within his power to win her back, because to him, Oge was the reason his life began to make sense and things were going well for him, so naturally if Oge left, his life, career, finances and business will go back to shambles."

      The above is why I made reference to idolatry.

      I do agree with you, we can be blessed through people, I have been blessed through people. I pray I bless people. Yes, we receive UNUSUAL favour from God through people, in fact this is my testimony.


    3. Hmmm, Keke, that's sort of an isolated case o! *Mayowa and *Oge's case is a "special" one. But I said it exactly as it is in reality. Your phrase "good luck charm" actually does apply here as he in fact sees her as his good luck charm.... I never really thought of it as idolatry but now I see what you mean.


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