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The Truth Shall NOT Set You Free. (Reader's Mail)

From the very first time I heard "the truth shall set you free" I simply doubted it. I limit my understanding of this quote to the truth that Jesus spoke about in John 8: 32, and not much else. 

But hey, that's just me. Sometimes the truth is such a burden and ignorance/oblivion/not-knowing is ultimate bliss. 

I like to believe that I'm a very honest and open person but there are times that I wonder, is the truth really worth telling, is it worth knowing? Because sometimes knowing the truth causes more harm than good and it does nobody any good. 

Sometimes we're moved to tell the truth because the guilt that we carry is too much and the only way to unload is by spilling. This mail below is one of those "truths" that raise both my brows and the hairs at the back of my neck:

"While I was in school, I was 22 when I dated a 52 year old very rich man because I needed his money. He made sure we were as discreet as possible and I never got to know anything about him or his family, I only knew his name.
Fast-forward to seven years later, I met this gorgeous gentleman who has shown interest in taking me as his wife. Now he took me home to his mum and I discovered his late dad was my former sugar lover.
Do I tell him the truth as regards my relationship with his dad since love has no secrets or forget about it since the man is dead?"

In her shoes I will back out of the relationship. Most people will advice that she keep her mouth shut and go on with her relationship and her life. Honestly, that's the same advice I will give. 
      But I know I don't have the 'mind' to do something like that, then again I can hardly open my mouth and say "hey back then I was screwing your daddy". So I will simply walk away. 

And if you think she should come clean and tell him everything, do you really think this guy can look past this fact? And please don't give me that "if he really loves you he'll stay" crap. What man can look past the fact that his father was his wife's sugar daddy. First off, it raises the issue of her being a prostitute. 

Ok, I shan't say more. 

Should she, should she not? 
Does the truth always set us free or are some things best left unsaid?

The above mail was culled from Linda Ikeji's blog. 


  1. She has only two options,1.back out and keep her mouth shut 2.continue and keep her mouth shut.....did you guys notice in all options I have "keep your damn mouth shut"

  2. why should she back out ? she loves him and she should not say anything and just move on with life. He's dead now so she has nothing to lose. I will keep my mouth shut too. that was the past lets move on shall we ? :)

  3. I think I will back out o! Because I can never come clean on that kind of thing, but the guilt will nearly kill me. Hmmm. I will break up with him

  4. Na wa o! She's on her own. Me no get dat kain mind.

  5. Tell him the truth and back out...Easier said than done, right? Well, that seems to be the best option with less burden.


  7. the truth has long died with the old man in the grave naa. abeg let's be real. if she loves her future and the guy, she should shut up and move on with her life. life goes on...

  8. She should break up with the guy, she will meet someone else and the truth usually comes out no matter how hard we try to hide it.

  9. Yes the truth would definitely come out one day.
    I would advise she tells him the truth, if he wants to go on fine, if not let her move on and see that as a price she has to pay for dating a married man.

  10. I think she should not go ahead with the relationship. If she stays without telling, the guilt might eat her up. What if he finds out on his own by coincidence? 'Nothing is hidden under the sun'. If she stays and eventually confesses, I can only hope that he doesn't use it against her in the future. That'll be a whole lot of emotional baggage.#Enjay#

    1. Nne kedu, udo o di kwa? You've been MIA.

    2. I'm doing well. I'm sure u are too. My phone went for repairs since sunday. But its back now and so am I. :)

  11. I have noticed u usually steal stuff from others ppls blogs and then come and post on here without atleast referencing where u got it from. aren't u a lawyer? u shud atleast say something like ''I was reading stella's blog the other day and came across this.......etc etc etc '' instead of just saying ''the mail below etc etc''. its really uncool and very unprofessional. just my two cents. whether u approve comment or not, atleast I know u have read it. cheers.

    1. The above mail was culled from Linda Ikeji's blog.
      Don't be in such a hurry to talk smack that you won't allow yourself open your eyes and read. I ALWAYS credit my sources if what I post is not my own intellectual property, and speaking of intellectual property, I have way too much of that to keep "stealing" from other blogs and not credit them. Please look through my posts properly and you will see that I do. Thanks for dropping by, looking forward to more comments from you.

    2. 'The above mail was culled from Linda Ikeji's blog.' Did u get to read that? I always wonder what motives lie in the heart of men. Thelma, u r about to be prosecuted ooo. Dear Anonymous, are you the head of the investigation team? Thelma gives credit on all culled features. Please temper justice with mercy. #Enjay#

    3. Aawwww. You must be really pained that she's a lawyer. Please go and get your own law degree, but first, kindly fuck off this blog. And allow me to point out that Thelma always credits her sources. Always. Bitter soul.

    4. Does reading take that much effort these days? I meannnnn....I bet you're among those people that scream "NEXT" when they see really long posts...Please don't bring all those street behavior here o @anon....we're very civil people that criticize constructively and try to learn from one another here. Thanks for stopping by!

  12. Pls who Is this blind cow? You're in such a hurry to cast aspersions that you cannot open your eyes to see that she stated the Source. You are obviously just here to talk nonsense and cause trouble because if you follow this blog you will know that Thelma always credits her sources. Even when she doesn't have to. Pls unlike T said we are not looking forward to more of your stupid comments. We don't need bitter people like you on this blog. Lastly, please get a life Mrs/Miss/Mr Anonymous

  13. Some people sha...always in a hurry to jump to conclusion... Read,understand before using ya gaddam brain n typing fummi said we don't need such negativity on this blog.. #caseclosed....back to the matter the geh should keep her mouth shut n move on or just simply walk away..

  14. Anon ndo o! Next time you will think before you type. Because it's very obvious that Thelma always credits sources. And how many bloggers do that, bloggers get everything from other blogs but you don't see them give credit. So why attack someone who does. You're obviously bitter about something.

  15. The mob pack aka rat pack aka 'thelma can do no wrong'. This is a blog and some folks will come and say all kinds of shit, no matter it's rightness or not.

    Respond once and move on. All these praise singers and 'sister/broda' 'goody two shoes' "we will defend our thelma" crap doesn't cut it. She's a big girl, and can still read and respond on her own


    Why is there such a large truth deficiency among those who search the Scripture for God's message to mankind? Why the disparity between what the Bible says and what men teach?

    1. The Bible says: Acts 4:10-12 ....that by the name of Jesus Christ.....12 "Nor is there salvation in any other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved."(NKJV)

    Men say: "Jesus is one way, however, there are many names and various religions by which men can be saved."

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    Matthew 15:9 And in vain they worship Me, Teaching as doctrines the commandments of men."(NKJV)

    2. The Bible says: Titus 2:11 For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men,(NKJV)

    Men say: "The grace of God has only appeared to a select few who have been preselected by God for salvation and that all others will burn in hell."

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    Mark 7:13 "making the word of God of no effect through your traditions which you have handed down, And many such things you do."(NKJV)

    3. The Bible says: Act 2:38 Then Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.(NKJV)

    Men say: "Water baptism is not essential to the forgiveness of sins."

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    Mark 7:9 And He said to them, "All to well you reject the commandments of God, that you may keep your tradition.(NKJV)

    4. The Bible says: Mark 16:16 "He who believes and is baptized will be saved; but he who does not believe will be condemned.(NKJV)

    Men say: "He who believes is saved the minute he believes and then is baptized because he is already saved."

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    Matthew 15:3 But He answered and said to them, "Why do you also transgress the commandment of God because of your tradition?(NKJV)

    5. The Bible says: 1 Peter 3:20-21...were saved through water. 21 There is also an antitype which now saves us, namely baptism... Acts 8:27-38 ......38...And both Philip and the eunuch went down into the water, and he baptized him. John 3:5 Jesus answered, "Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.(NKJV)

    Men say: "Water baptism is not essential for salvation. There is only spiritual baptism under the New Covenant, water baptism will not be administered here."

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    2 Timothy 4:3-4 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine, but according to their own desires, because they have itching ears, they will heap up for themselves teachers; 4 and they will turn their ears away from the truth, and be turned aside to fables. (NKJV)

    Why do men have a truth deficit?
    2 Timothy 4:3-4 For there is going to come a time when people won't listen to the truth, but will go around looking for teachers who will tell them just what they want to hear. 4 They won't listen to what the Bible says but will blithely follow their own misguided ideas. (The Living Bible--Paraphrased)

    The truth is found in the Bible.
    Men's opinions are found in man-made creed books and other extra-Biblical writings.



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