So I got yet another call from my friend's boo this morning. He complained that she slapped him, again! This is probably the fifth or sixth slap this year. Apparently when my friend's boo annoys her these days she doesn't argue, she gets physical.
The first two times he was quiet about it but now, he's worried that very soon he will lose his
temper/control and retaliate, (and who knows what damage he will cause?). Unfortunately he's deeply in love with my friend and cannot leave her (in his own words) but he's getting tired of being hit.
This got me thinking, we don't take this so seriously because it's the woman doing the hitting this time, but this IS still domestic violence. I understand that many men are victims of domestic violence but naturally they cannot speak out about it because it's very shameful to tell people that you're getting beat by a woman. I did some research some months back and I learnt that in Kenya, many men are victims of domestic violence and often get beaten by their wives, the picture above is one of
I also read about an incident that occurred in Warri of a man who was brutally assaulted, and eventually murdered by his wife.
See excerpt below:
"Nothing could be more cruel than a splash of pepper sauce on the face, but the ensuing drama was even more gruesome than his worst nightmares.
He tried running out of the house while crying for help but his beastly wife descended heavily on him with a knife, stabbing him with all the current power she could muster. He managed to shove her off and ran out of his house screaming for help.
As if that was not enough, she defied all entreaties by on-lookers, ran back into the house and returned with a bowl of petrol. Bystanders ran for their dear lives paving the way for her heinous act. She poured the contents on him and set him ablaze. On the throes of death, Johnson staggered to a nearby gutter to put out the fire on his body, but that made no difference. She came after him yet again to complete the act with a knife. Even after Johnson was rescued from his murderer and rushed to the hospital, he could not live to tell the story of what transpired. That was the fate of Johnson for having a vampire as a wife."
Another woman, Mary Anozie of Ago Palace way, Lagos, also killed her husband when she struck him on the head with a stone and watched him bleed to death. Apparently, she did not mean to kill him, she meant to injure him but not cause his death.
Men could be victims of domestic violence too. For some, it may not be a brutal as being hit with hard objects, it could be the occasional slaps on the head and punches. Let's not even talk about those who are victims of verbal and emotional abuse. (Topic for another day).
Do you think these men also deserve redress against their violent wives/girlfriends?
Ladies, have you ever had cause to get physically violent with your man?
How do you suggest a man deal with a physically abusive spouse?
My heart goes out to all victims of domestic violence. DV is obviously a world wide epidemic. All you have to do is google images of domestic violence and your heart will surely break. Please if you're a victim of spousal abuse, either female or male, try, try and try again to leave that relationship. God did not create you to be somebody's punching bag, borrow some legs and leave.