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Would You Rather...? (Still On The Island-Mainland Issue)

So like I said in the previous post, two topics grabbed my attention and this is the second one. One of our friends who's visiting Lagos said she's noticed some Mainland-Island pseudo war on Twitter usually instigated by some particular people, she listed some familiar twitter-handles but since I'm not really a fan of twitter and social networks in general, the names didn't mean much to me. She then said something I've heard before myself that was said by Noble Igwe of when someone invited him over to the mainland; that he never crosses the bridge (from the island to the mainland) for anything, except when he has to go to the airport. Quite frankly I've heard this a number of times, once from the person to whom it was supposedly said. (I wasn't there so I cannot confirm the veracity of the statement). 

She then asked us what the whole shtick is about. Well, some argument ensued afterwards about living on the Island versus living on the Mainland, which I cannot write about right now (I should be studying *wails*). But after all this I asked my friend "would you rather live in a rented apartment in Parkview than in your own house in Ajangbadi". (Please o! No disrespect to Ajangbadi residents). And this chic immediate said "Ha! Rented flat in Parkview please. What is Ajangbadi, where is Ajangbadi?"  

And then another argument erupted. The conclusion of this was that one would rather live in a rented flat on the Island than in their own home in Ajangbadi/Alagbado/Okokomaiko and certain other places. In fairness, most of us haven't actually been to most of the areas mentioned but there's just a basic presumption of what it's like. It may not be as bad as one actually presumes it to be, (just like I grew up in Surulere and someone once said to me "Surulere, Ajegunle; no difference" so....).  I went to Ajangbadi in search of something last year though, and honestly, I don't think I'll be consciously making another visit very soon. 

Yet, can I really say I would rather rent in a very upscale part of town than own my own home in a very-not-upscale part? 
Would you rather...?

Ok... my break is over. I really feel like crying. I'm looking forward to reading your thoughts when I come back here. 

I hope you're all enjoying your weekend. I hope you're planning something special for your mothers and mothers-in-law against tomorrow. 


  1. Pls I would live in my own house o! But the examples you used are very extreme. Ajangbadi? Hmmm. My own house all the same.

  2. Good luck in your exams.
    I'd rather stay in my own house down part of town, than in a rented upscale location. Though the part of town has to be considered too.

  3. I live in Ogudu on the mainland, and I'll rather own a house in ogudu than rent a flat on the island. Considering than I can get to the island in less than 20 mins

  4. Goodluck in your exams

  5. Ok Thelms, i build my own house in d remote area, rent it out and use the proceeds to rent a cool place on d island, life is too short to be living in a slum wen u can afford better!!, the reason for building is just incase things go really bad, u ll always ve a place to rest ur head.

    1. 1,000 likes! I know a family of 4 ( the man, his wife and 2 kids) in Abuja that have a massive duplex in gwagwalada. They let out the duplex and use d rent to pay for a 3 bedroom serviced apartment in Asokoro. I think that's a good arrangement. I am and will always be of the school of thought that life should be enjoyed as long as you can afford it. Life is short!

    2. LOL. Anon that's exactly what my friend said after saying she'll rather rent in Parkview. She said she'll rent out the one in the remote area and use the proceeds to get a better place on the island.

  6. Thank you Sharon, thank you cccc. I really appreciate it. God bless you.

  7. I'll willing stay on the mainland. Apart from cost effectiveness, people on the mainland are more friendly. There are a lot of places on the mainland that are much more expensive than some places on the island. Mainland for me all the way, esp Ikeja GRA.
    I wish you success in your exams Thelma. God bless

  8. My own house on the mainland over rented apartment, but house owner discretion is advised though! Hehehehe....Good success in your exams darl.

  9. The comments on dis post just gave me an idea. .... #phew#
    Good luck in ur exams thelma dear!


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