Today was quite hectic for me. The last few days have been pretty uneventful, I've spent most of the time at home, in bed. But today Ada celebrated her birthday and I had to be there. Adaeze is one of those friends you don't see or talk to often but she is a FRIEND in all ramifications of the word, so not going wasn't an option. So at 2pm I headed for Ikeja, lunch was at La Mango restaurant in GRA. I have never driven myself to Ikeja before. I neither know the Third Mainland route or the Ikorodu road route. It's either someone else drives or I take a cab. I should be ashamed seeing as I was born and bred in Lagos and I've been to Ikeja a gazillion times. The traffic leaving the island (thanks to the Carnival) wasn't so bad, but it was discouraging. I made it out and kept driving straight down as Adaeze asked me to do. When I should have turned right I didn't, just kept driving down till I had no idea where I was. At this point I was sure I was lost. I immediately put my ipad on the floor of the car (no discrimination but the parole in that part of town isn't the same). It was the sort of area that looked like anyone you asked for direction would either spit at you or drag your neck and yank off your jewelry. I kept driving and then saw a sign that said I was in Shagamu! Shagamu ke? I almost peed my pants. I drove and drove and found myself in somewhere vaguely familiar. I was in Ikorodu town! Mehn I turned back and tried to find my way back home, I'd already planned calling Ada to say; Sorry, I tried but I failed. Long story short, two hours after leaving home I finally found my way to Ikeja.
The three course meal at La Mango restaurant is relatively inexpensive (#3,500) and it was really good. My starter was shrimp and marinara, it was oh so nice! My main course was mashed potatoes and mixed grill (steak, jumbo prawn, fish, chicken etc). Also really nice. But I found myself wishing I'd ordered 'swallow'. It looked so rich and good and the portions were very very generous. And yes! Bukky was there!
Shout out to my girl and former QC classmate who's now a Manager in one of the first generation banks. Whoop whoop! Well girlie sabi book sha, somehow graduated and started working before everyone (with a very high GP of course) and made a distinction in her Masters. Bukky is another person I don't see often but love wholeheartedly. She's sort of like a Reverand father. LOL. Right from QC she's the one person that the minute I see I start to tell everything to; the good, the bad and the naughty! And today was no exception, however because of time we couldn't have our "confessional" so we made a date for next Saturday. (I'm super excited). Yeah I had to forfeit my desert (which to be honest I did not need as this girl could really lose some pounds).
As I got into the island *Wole called. I stopped over briefly at Pataya and we chatted for a bit. Wole is my friend's Ex. They broke up a couple of years back but neither is married now. She's dating someone at the moment but occasionally mentions him. Well.... we sort of had a 'moment' this evening, a 'connection' if you will. Hmmm, to be honest I've caught myself thinking about him several times since I got home. I've never dated a friend's Ex, neither have I ever been tempted to. I've always lived strongly by the girl code ; Boos and Exs are off limits. But now I find myself wondering, the chances of this two ever getting back together are zero to none. So is it such a terrible thing if he and I get together? He didn't mention her at all tonight and he and I became friendly only after they broke up. Will it make me a bad person if I date this guy? Errm we just had a drink and I'm already talking about dating him, pathetic I know. But I can't help but think about the possibilities as he hinted at a few things like us being more than just friends. It's quite weird because when they were dating I was never attracted to him and he never paid me any attention either.
If I do decide to date him I'll first ask my girl for her consent, but that's something I don't see her giving freely.
Have you ever dated a friend's Ex? Has your friend dated your Ex, how did you feel? Is it me or does the Ex part of the girl code feel sort of High School-ish? (Ok, Maybe not.) Do the rules change if the friend is married now?