Necessary Evils is the best way to describe house helps/house girls/domestic staff (for the socially correct). Last night I listened to Wana Wana on the radio (isn't she simply amazing?) and the topic was house helps that sleep with madam's husbands... Or husbands that sleep with the maids. I listened to the callers and these are some of the really interesting calls I heard :
Caller 1. (Husband). I have a neighbour who was sleeping with their house girl. Wana, if you see this house girl ehn! My God! She is too beautiful, TOOOOOOOOOO beautiful. She is like a queen. Wana she is about 18 but if you see her, very yellow, very very yellow, with big busts and big bum bum and she is just too beautiful. Wana I will not lie I cannot blame my neighbour. But how can his wife bring that type of girl to be a house girl in her home? Women stop bringing beauty (queens) into your house as house helps. Stop it, we men are easily tempted. Don't tempt us deliberately.
Caller 2. (husband). What puts men in trouble is over estimating theirselves. Even the most responsible men call fall prey to house helps. You may be a man that doesn't cheat outside but when you have one in your home, seducing you everyday....we are men, we have blood running through our veins. Don't think you are too responsible and can never fall victim. Once you have a maid that is seducing you immediately report her to madam to put her in order.
Caller 3. (Wife). When we were growing up my father slept with all our maids so now I have decided that I will only have house boys.
Caller 4. (Wife). I know of a married man who refuses to pay the house maids' salary if she does not sleep with him.
Caller 5. (Huband). No man has an excuse for sleeping with your maid. We once had a maid who I noticed was being very funny. When madam and the children are not home, after taking her bath she will tie one very short wrapper and be walking around the house. She will tie that wrapper for almost an hour before deciding to wear her clothes. I wasn't comfortable with it but I tried to ignore her. This house girl is very light skinned and very developed although she's about 20yrs. One day I was calling her name and she didn't answer so I went to her room and saw her on the bed, practically naked. She was lying and facing the door so that once I enter I will see her.
I warned her never to do that again and told her I never want to see her wrapper, once she baths she must immediately get dressed. When my wife came back I instantly reported her. Men you have no excuse, stand your grounds against it.
Caller 6. (Husband). Wana let me not lie....I'm a bad boy. As in, I am a very bad boy and I know myself. When we used to have two house girls. Wana if you see one ehn! She is not supposed to be a house girl. She is too tush, and she is tooooo hot o! When I saw her I said to myself hmmmm, me and this one cannot stay in this house o! It will be too hot. And it's as if she felt it too. After some time she left by herself because the house was too hot for both of us. The one that came after that was not that tush or fine but she had potential and she was giving me green light. Even though I was tempted, a man has to have some principles. For instance if you start sleeping with your maid you lose respect in your own house and I cannot afford to lose my respect. So because of that I have decided not to sleep with her.
Caller 7. (A male Chef). Wana where I was working before in a five star restaurant (abroad?) a couple came in, a white man and a very beautiful young woman, the woman demanded to know if there was any Nigerian working in the restaurant and they called me. I went to meet her and we later got talking. I asked her how long she had been married to her husband and other questions like that. She told me that hmmm, she was a house girl in their house. But since madam does not know how to take care of her husband she decided to show her how, and she took madam's husband. Now they are married. Wana I was shocked!
Caller 8. (A husband). Some women will maltreat their maids because they don't want them to be fine like them. They will not allow their maids to fix weave on because the maid and madam cannot be fixing weave on. Some will even go as far as asking them to cut their hair. Just so that they will be ugly. Your maid is supposed to be like your child. Don't maltreat her because you don't want her to look beautiful.
These are some of the stories I remember from Wana Udobang's show on 92.3 Inspiration fm. Of course I had to paraphrase as there's no recorder in my head... And because I was in and out of the car, I seemed to have missed most of the Wives' calls. I got mostly the husbands' calls.
Some maids don't only sleep with husbands but the teenage sons as well. Some seduce the men, sometimes it's the men that put pressure on the maids.
I once heard of a woman whose maid was sleeping with her husband. She knew about it but refused to send the maid away because apparently the maid was very good and took care of the house and kids very well. So she turned a blind eye and let the affair persist right under her nose.
Have you ever had any negative experiences with your house helps?