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Is It Really That Big A Deal?



I think I may have raised this before (I really can't remember) but if I did then I obviously didn't get answers. 

Please ARE BLOW JOBS SUCH A BIG DEAL? I really need to know. Everytime a guy talks about breaking up, or divorcing or cheating on his significant other it always seems to have something to do with blow jobs, or (more appropriately) the lack thereof. In one of the episodes of Being Mary Jane this guy tells his wife who he's cheating on that he's moving out as he no longer loves her, they get into an argument and then he gives a list of reasons for moving out/leaving her for the other woman, and one of them is "you don't give me head anymore!". Seriously!

Earlier today I chatted with *Laura. She thinks dear husband might be cheating on her and says she's almost sure of it. Without confirming she says she's sure it's because she's slacking in bed and asked me how to give a good blow job (RME), I immediately referred her to google. Laura said she wants a "real" person to explain it to her, and she wants to know if it smells. It's really obvious she's dreading doing it but she feels she doesn't do that for hubby, so if he's cheating then that must be the reason. 


 I've had many guys here in Lagos tell me that if wifey doesn't give 'head' then nobody can blame him for cheating and she should expect him to cheat. I just have to ask, what is it about 'head'? Isn't sex enough? What if she finds other ways to pleasure you but finds putting your penis in her mouth too repulsive... It's still ok to cheat on her?

And why do most guys say they can never go down on a woman yet expect her to do same for him with a smile on her face? I just don't get it o! I know someone who literally pukes every time she gives her boo head, and he still makes her do it! Isn't that plain cruelty? (I know you'll read this, yes I think it's cruelty!). And of course she does it, all in the name of "keeping my man (happy)". 

Ladies, have you ever had issues with your man because you refused to go down on him? 
Guys why do you feel not getting a blow job justifies infidelity? 
Ladies, why do you thinks it's ok to stop giving your man quality sex once he puts the ring on your finger? (At least I hear most women do). 

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Please can this public holiday continue till Friday? Doooooooon't end please!

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  1. One of my friends is a chronic polygamist like his father, and he believes that, since men are "born polygamists" they are entitled to have affairs, but women are "bound by tradition". One day I asked him how he would feel if his wife damned tradition and started having affairs. He wasn't sure of what to say because he never thought something like that could ever happen.

    I'm quite surprised that any right thinking man could cheat on his wife for flimsy excuses like inadequate blow-jobs. Maybe he knows he'll sound very foolish saying he can't help curbing his sexual urge each time he sees young sexy women order than his wife, like my friend would say. So the "I'm not getting adequate head" excuse comes up. Most guys I know cheat on their wives because they "don't want to be eating only gbanga soup". If head de hungry you, buy porn movies or visit porn sites and watch with your wife, and learn. Because if you're the type that doesn't give your wife head and feel only you should get one, don't hang yourself when you return home one day and see Jeremiah bare chested on your matrimonial bed.

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    1. you are one of the funniest and smartest commenters on this blog!!!!

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  2. Lool I really dont see wats wrong in giving head and receiving lol. Shouldn't be a big deal.men love it no matter how holy they seem. BUT if I give I must recieve it's only fair. To ur friend , no it does not smell and if it does get him in the shower and wash it your self. It's all in the mind, trust me. But still not a reason to cheat. Why is it that women dont cheat when they r not getting any eh. Anyways it's not all men and women shouldn't blame themselves when the sinner of a husband is cheating. He might br getting it ten times aday and still cheat.

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  3. hmmm It all goes down to communication. men should tell their wives / gf and also teach them too..wives should learn to pleasure their hubbies and men who demand for blow jobs from wives or girl friends should show their partners how pleasurable it is by giving it to them! YES! because some nigerian men won't eat a woman up but they all want blow jobs. brother why ?? that does not work in my world. I personally don't have a problem giving my bf or future hubby a blow job.. as long as he goes down on me then we are good.
    My ex wasn't too keen on going down on me because he didn't like it.until i stopped giving him bj. Also after giving him a bj he never liked kissing me because he felt that was gay.. he feels he's kissing his own penis lol.. so much restrictions smh...oh get this but he loved whenever he kisses me after eating me up because that means I like how I taste and it's a turn on for him..SUCH DOUBLE STANDARDS with that man.
    Point is men should start eating their partners up then maybe gf or wifey can know how good it feels and learn how to satisfy their men.. Communication guys..

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  4. Nothing can ever justify cheating, so we should separate that from the discourse.

    But the bj thing na die! How and why should you not get it?? Returning the favor should never be a big deal especially if you are married and sure that both of you are not cheating.

    For the singles, it is very risky with the kind of balling going around and the extensive network of people every individual is dealing with. HIV/AIDS is real and people must be careful who they "service".

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    1. Lmao @ na die! Lol. It's that serious, yeah? Hahahahaha.

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  5. geegee is right.. these things should be reciprocated.. men want to receive but cannot give. As long as you guys are safe it's all good.. and wale yea..HIV is real not just to single people also the married one's that sleep around should be aware of it as well..BE SAFE y'all.

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  6. 1st,I did say Being MaryJane is just full of confused people/ characters.
    2ndly,I wanna know,is there a diff feeling to lips over a guys dick than the kitty? Like what's the diff feelings between a hand job (which most men do for themselves) to blow job to sex itself? (And I refused to include anal)

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  7. If you have received good head before as a lady, I think you will know what the big deal is. Men loves head, the ones that don't have not received before. @sasha bone, there's a difference, its like asking what's the difference between having a finger in your pussy to a dick or a hand on your clit to a tongue

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    1. So the lips is diff to the kitty? Yet its the same hole just in different locations of the body..hmm. If a guys finger is the same size as his dick,I doubt if I shld notice any diff. Btw,blow job isn't African. It was brought to us through western porn...#runsaway

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    2. Sasha the "Amazing"! I always love your take on things.... Western porn. Interesting.

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  8. LooooL....
    I get blank these days! Once again, NO comment T

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  9. I preach reciprocate the act Mr! Test your microphone? Lick my plate, will u?

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    1. Its also called Southern cuisine ma'am. Keep it classy...*winks*

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  10. Ladies, why do you thinks it's ok to stop giving your man quality sex once he puts the ring on your finger? (At least I hear most women do).

    Thelma that's the core of most issues of men straying.
    Ask these your married friends well. You will discover this;
    1. African men do not suck pussy as a rule but out of passion and lust. They are not in the majority and it depends on your level of 'display' on him that turns him that wild. Your hygiene level and smell must be great. If the ladies are sincere who ask for reciprocal treat, the neatness state of a dick and pussy can't be compared.

    2. Why do single ladies suck dick well and are wild or very much fun in bed during the days pre wedding but begin to form conservative after marriage or begin to rationalize equal treat from hubby. You were giving him head and treats that drove him to marry you seeing he will enjoy his marital bed with you. YOU did not rationalize or demand head from him during courtship. It wasn't a problem. Now you are married, you deny him because of what you read from such activists from blog forgetting that he didn't do it then meant he doesn't do it. Even if you want it from him you should use style to let him learn. No man will decide to do it if he realised that is your attitude-giving him a tit for tat attitude. Why now? Why not then? A lot of women read blogs and begin to imbibe what kill their relationships forgetting the man you deal with is different. You try it and it backfires.

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    1. Pls just stop! Pls! U choose what part of sex is African nd what part isn't? Are u kidding me? First it was Black Magic now u? SMH at this generation of men looking forward to be husbands!

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