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Just A Thought...

This is just a simple thought. I can't really point fingers because I've been guilty of the same thing in the past. Sometimes we look at people and before we even get to know them we've already summed them up. I remember when I used to work at my mum's restaurant. A number of times a very ordinary looking man will walk in, looking a tad unkempt. I'll walk over and gruffly take his orders and then relay them to some other staff because I cannot be bothered to walk to the kitchen and pick up a tray and serve this man. Who is he by the way? Does he know who I am? A law student, lawyer in the making? I who just flew into Lagos after a leisurely 5star weekend. And he thinks I'm going to stress myself? No sir, not me. 
      And then when he's done eating my mum will come and say have you greeted that man? That's the Comptroller General of so so and so. And then I will look and feel so stupid. In some cases I'll know I've goofed so badly that I won't be able to go back to talk to him. 

On one occasion, some guy came in. As usual I turned my face the other way and turned up my nose like everyone there stunk of rotten eggs. (Ehen na! I'm a lawyer, don't think because you're seeing me here serving beer that I'm just one of these local girls). He came to say hi and I snapped a reply at him. In my mind I was thinking who is this nwa-Aba feeling funky? When my mum was free to come out he gave her a parcel. Apparently nwa-Aba had just returned from the US and had bought my mum some really nice designer perfumes, clothes, a Cartier wrist watch and also, $500. Mummy said I should come and thank him for her. I was so humbled, even more so when he dashed me $100. 

Yesterday I went to one of these large departmental stores. I needed to check the prices for some makeup items. I called one of the store girls to show me around and when I was asking for the prices of different stuff she started to give me attitude. Then I asked her how much a set of MAC brushes cost. She told me they're 10,000 Naira and squeezed her face in a yimu kind of way, she was generally acting like I was disturbing her. I asked her to hand me the set so I could look at it and midway a lady walked in. That's how this staff just dropped the set back and went to meet the lady, leaving me standing there. "good evening ma what can I do for you?" She asked her. I couldn't believe it. She thought I was some penniless bum that came to window shop and so therefore I wasn't deserving of her time or attention. I pointed out to her that she was extremely rude, she outright ignored me and continued to attend to the lady. Her colleague came to apologize on her behalf and I left. 
      Remember I said I was going to see what was happening outside in the world earlier? Well all my people happen to be attending one wedding or the other in the East, so I decided to go to the store. I walked in and she avoided me, watching me from a safe distance. I called someone else to attend to me. I didn't pick the MAC set but instead went for a Bobbi Brown one which happens to be even more expensive. I then picked out some Mary Kay foundations and some Ardell lashes. When this girl saw that I, the time-wasting window shopper was spending almost 20k on makeup she now came and said "Ah, good evening ma. I'm very sorry about yesterday. You see, it was a mistake. Please forgive me ma". Then she begged to help carry the basket with my stuff and asked if there was anything else she could help me with (even though someone else was already attending to me). 

All I'm trying to say is this, sometimes sizing someone up and making snap judgements without knowing who they are could be to our own detriment. One reason I would advise against it is because you could lose FAVOUR when you do this. It will be difficult for me to freely offer assistance to someone who has looked down on me. Likewise (Comptroller General) who could have easily helped me with a job might find me arrogant and therefore undeserving. 
     I've learnt that being humble can bring unexpected and unmerited blessings. 

I just had to share a picture of the set, I'm so excited! Happy Easter my darlings!!!

 I finished Single Ladies earlier today and I'm about to begin Being Mary Jane *rubs palms frantically in anticipation*, (I hope this will be good). 


  1. Yea Thelma, you are very right. It's never good to underestimate someone. People end up loosing opportunities because of this at times.

  2. I pray u marry someone who appreciates ur talents,

  3. Ok, I'm feeling real blessed this morning and I'm going to comment based on Thelma's make-up kit. I've often, some years back, noticed the rate at which my sisters apply make up on themselves. These ladies are make up freaks, and their make up activities sometimes give me honest chills; thoughts of how often my wife would be applying all these *orishirishi* on a daily basis. I confronted my youngest sis on this, because the other two were giving me this "guy never know how far" attitude, and she told me firmly, "my own is small compared to what these celebs use. Better start learning now o, before you fall your hand outside". Gosh! She said "small", and ladies and gents, "small" is exactly the same as what you've just seen above!

    My former girlfriends have actually bought "small" make up kits at such prices and, even after my sister's warning, I was always grimacing whenever they made demands. Hehe. One of the reasons why I'm thinking of hitting the 8-figure before I get married, 'cos I can't bear to see my wife looking like nne-kwu (local hen). Happy EASTER people!

    1. Memphis you've cracked me up this Easter morning. Local Hen! LWTMB.
      BTW this isn't for me but for clients. I wouldn't spend so much money on my personal makeup, I only spent that much because it's an investment and I know I'll make my money back.
      BTW most women end up looking like 'local hen' because they don't know how to use makeup properly. It is an art! You see all these brushes, yeah? An art. But if it's one you haven't mastered then it's much better to keep the makeup light and simple. It's when people start dabbling in things like contouring and (professional) brows and all of that when they don't know how to, that they tend to get it all wrong.

  4. Single Ladies wldnt be worth it...she's just a confused black woman searching in all the wrong places! But her car...? Damn..that's a beast I wld love to own anytime

  5. Omo Thelma, being mary jane is gooooooDddddd. Gabby Union did justice to her part. I didn't get the complete season to buy, and don't know where to download. Ejo send me link to download at

    1. Yh,Gabrielle union is a great actress but her xter is just a confused black woman! The one thing I look forward to are the notes she writes herself...

  6. Humility is the way wise....but at 1 point or d other we all hav bin guilty of this!

  7. Humility does open doors. I agree.

  8. *humility is the way of the wise*

  9. Thelma are all those brushes for one face? I am ashamed I dont even own one makeup brush. Lol.
    As for those who treat people shabilly when they work in customer service, I always say you deserve whatever you get. And thats where Nigerians and black folks are msising the plot. In America the silent millionaire is always around in the non assuming form. You must be genuinely nice to people, it costs absolutely nothing. I feel more inclined to purchase things when the sales person is extremely knowledgeable and is friendly towards me. Its a lot easier to part with tons of money

  10. Its good to treat people kindly regardless of who they are, you just never know where your paths may cross again.
    You are right Thelma using make up isn't easy, its an art. It is also a costly affair. I have never bothered with make up apart from the cost I find it tedious.


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