This is just a simple thought. I can't really point fingers because I've been guilty of the same thing in the past. Sometimes we look at people and before we even get to know them we've already summed them up. I remember when I used to work at my mum's restaurant. A number of times a very ordinary looking man will walk in, looking a tad unkempt. I'll walk over and gruffly take his orders and then relay them to some other staff because I cannot be bothered to walk to the kitchen and pick up a tray and serve this man. Who is he by the way? Does he know who I am? A law student, lawyer in the making? I who just flew into Lagos after a leisurely 5star weekend. And he thinks I'm going to stress myself? No sir, not me.
And then when he's done eating my mum will come and say have you greeted that man? That's the Comptroller General of so so and so. And then I will look and feel so stupid. In some cases I'll know I've goofed so badly that I won't be able to go back to talk to him.
On one occasion, some guy came in. As usual I turned my face the other way and turned up my nose like everyone there stunk of rotten eggs. (Ehen na! I'm a lawyer, don't think because you're seeing me here serving beer that I'm just one of these local girls). He came to say hi and I snapped a reply at him. In my mind I was thinking who is this nwa-Aba feeling funky? When my mum was free to come out he gave her a parcel. Apparently nwa-Aba had just returned from the US and had bought my mum some really nice designer perfumes, clothes, a Cartier wrist watch and also, $500. Mummy said I should come and thank him for her. I was so humbled, even more so when he dashed me $100.
Yesterday I went to one of these large departmental stores. I needed to check the prices for some makeup items. I called one of the store girls to show me around and when I was asking for the prices of different stuff she started to give me attitude. Then I asked her how much a set of MAC brushes cost. She told me they're 10,000 Naira and squeezed her face in a yimu kind of way, she was generally acting like I was disturbing her. I asked her to hand me the set so I could look at it and midway a lady walked in. That's how this staff just dropped the set back and went to meet the lady, leaving me standing there. "good evening ma what can I do for you?" She asked her. I couldn't believe it. She thought I was some penniless bum that came to window shop and so therefore I wasn't deserving of her time or attention. I pointed out to her that she was extremely rude, she outright ignored me and continued to attend to the lady. Her colleague came to apologize on her behalf and I left.
Remember I said I was going to see what was happening outside in the world earlier? Well all my people happen to be attending one wedding or the other in the East, so I decided to go to the store. I walked in and she avoided me, watching me from a safe distance. I called someone else to attend to me. I didn't pick the MAC set but instead went for a Bobbi Brown one which happens to be even more expensive. I then picked out some Mary Kay foundations and some Ardell lashes. When this girl saw that I, the time-wasting window shopper was spending almost 20k on makeup she now came and said "Ah, good evening ma. I'm very sorry about yesterday. You see, it was a mistake. Please forgive me ma". Then she begged to help carry the basket with my stuff and asked if there was anything else she could help me with (even though someone else was already attending to me).
All I'm trying to say is this, sometimes sizing someone up and making snap judgements without knowing who they are could be to our own detriment. One reason I would advise against it is because you could lose FAVOUR when you do this. It will be difficult for me to freely offer assistance to someone who has looked down on me. Likewise (Comptroller General) who could have easily helped me with a job might find me arrogant and therefore undeserving.
I've learnt that being humble can bring unexpected and unmerited blessings.
I just had to share a picture of the set, I'm so excited! Happy Easter my darlings!!!
I finished Single Ladies earlier today and I'm about to begin Being Mary Jane *rubs palms frantically in anticipation*, (I hope this will be good).