Last week and this week there has been arguments on different platforms, blogs and forai both locally and internationally on the Working Mother vs House Wife (stay at home mum). Though I took a keen interest to it I didn't think I was going to do a post on it until I saw a comment -F made on the HERE post.
I briefly listened in on Wana Udobang's show (on 92.3 Inspiration fm) where she discussed this topic some days ago. As usual several people called in, both Working Mums and Housewives. This is what I gathered from the calls:
Men these days want a woman who can contribute to the family. (Even if she stays at home, she can learn a trade, add value to herself, work from home etc)
Housewives are usually judged by Working Mums (and other people) who see them as lazy, some go as far as calling them gold diggers, unambitious etc
Housewives are also judged by in-laws who accuse them of sitting at home and chopping their son's money while contributing nothing.
Some Housewives feel inferior to Working Mums: When they meet up with old friends who are working mums they find that they no longer have much in common with them as Working Mums are discussing work, their bosses, recent policies, politics, the corporate world, while all a Housewife has to talk about is baby formula, school runs etc. The caller said this also leads to the end of some friendships as there's no longer common ground.
Housewives want people to know that it is a CHOICE. Most Housewives are qualified professionals who have chosen to stay at home and bring up their children themselves, not leaving them to the hands of nannies and house helps (which working mothers wish they didn't have to do). They CHOOSE to stay home and train the kids.
Being a Housewife is NOT indefinite. When the kids are old enough they intend to return work or start a trade.
Most Housewives find themselves constantly having to explain their decision to people.
Do not be a Housewife if your husband's income alone is not sufficient to take care of the family.
Most Working Mums would prefer to be Housewives and bring up their children by themselves but cannot because of the economic or financial implication.
It's been days but this is what I recall. Basically the divide between Housewives and Working Mums is real and one usually feels judged by the other.
Do you agree that most Working Mums would rather stay at home and look after the kids?
I think they would, if there was enough money and they didn't need to work. The decision to leave ones children in the hands of nannies and maids who are basically strangers is frightening, a necessary evil at best. But then there women who are not cut out to sit at home, women whose careers (either working from home or in an office) are their lifeline, their raison d'être. To these one the thought of being Housewives would be tantamount to a death sentence.
Do you think one is more honorable than the other?
Note: Wives who work from home and have an income are not Housewives.