Is it ok to give your boo an ultimatum for marriage?
Relationship experts advise that when you've dated someone for a while, a reasonable period of time (I know "reasonable" period could be relative though), you both are adults and everything is fine both in your finances and in your relationship, but this person has not said anything about taking your relationship to the next level then it's time to have the "Where is this going?" talk.
All very true and sensible actually. But what happens when you've had the talk and he assures you that he wants to be with you, have a future with you, spend the rest of his life with you etc yet he is yet to make any concrete moves towards this, does it become ok for the lady to say "if you've not put a ring on it by this time next year our relationship is over." ?
I squirm at the thought of having to give such an ultimatum but I can understand why this could become imperative. Some men (even when they have the best of intentions) are time wasters. I personally know two of such guys. One dated his chic for nine years, broke up with her and got married to someone else that same year. Of course his Ex was and still is devastated. I'm sure if she had given him an ultimatum and stuck to it she will not have wasted all those good years on him for nothing.
The other one's story is similar too.
Likewise as at last year my friend had been dating her boo for about a year when she told him "Look, if you don't propose and start making plans for our marriage in 2014 I'm ending this relationship". Home boy proposed early this year and they've done their Court wedding (currently planning the traditional and white weddings).
What do you think about Ultimatums? Did you give your spouse an ultimatum? Will you give your SO an ultimatum if push comes to shove?
Men if your girlfriend gives you an ultimatum will this spur you to action or have the adverse effect?