I seem to have the weirdest conversations after midnight. And this one, I just have to throw open.
So I just had a chat with *Mase and quite frankly I had no business having that kind of conversation with him, but well... It happened.
Going straight to the point; he's seriously considering cheating on the Mrs and in his opinion he is justified.
According to Mase, when they were dating they weren't sexually active and now that they're married, madam isn't too keen on the sex. But the greatest problem is that she's not even willing to try to do those things he really wants her to do in bed, specifically and most especially, oral sex. Initially he took to masturbation and sex toys (like the one above). On the one hand, she nags about it (still not trying to compromise), on the other hand, he isn't even satisfied with that anymore.
He said he wants what he wants. He has needs, and if his wife, who's duty it is to meet those needs is not willing to take care of them, if and when he finds solutions outside she has no right to complain.
He says he does everything she wants in bed but when it comes to his needs she's selfish.
My question is; is sexual dissatisfaction enough justification for cheating?
If your partner can't meet your needs no matter how much you've tried, are you justified in getting that satisfaction elsewhere or do you just suffer in silence? What do you do when your sexual needs are not being met by your partner?
Let's go one step further. What do you do when your emotional needs are not being met by your partner/spouse? Is finding that emotional fulfillment outside your relationship/marriage tantamount to cheating?
(To paint a scenerio, you're a married woman but you have that male friend you tell everything to, you spend hours with him on the phone, you share all your secrets, thoughts, plans, achievements, disappointments, regrets, feelings, time, emotions, conversations etc with him. He's the first thing on your mind when you wake up in the morning and the last thing on your mind before you sleep. You tell him things you can never tell your spouse, and if your spouse was to see your chat-history with him it could result in serious trouble. Is this still cheating even though you both aren't having sex or any form of physical intimacy? (This applies to men also.)
When is cheating cheating?