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A Testimony & My Apology To My Friends; Nwamaka & Obie.

No, nobody proposed to me. Don't let the picture confuse you. LOL. 

Hey guys! I'm sorry if it seems I've been slacking off, I've been under some stress. I've not been feeling too well, I'm joining a law firm on Monday so I've sort of been preparing for that, (I worked there in the past but I left for some reasons), and things have just been a bit topsy turvy.

So on to the testimony part, like I said I wasn't feeling too well. Things got bad on Friday and much worse at night. I had no idea what was wrong but I'd been suffering from loss of appetite, fatigue, throwing up a few times and mild fever. Plus my joints hurt once in a while. It freaked me out because I had a job on Saturday morning. One bride, four brides maids. And the worst thing you can do is to disappoint a bride on her wedding day. The wedding took place at Ikeja and I had to be there before 7am. By 5 I was up and the minute I woke up I panicked, I felt even worse than I did on Friday night, add stomach upset to everything else. My temperature was higher as well. I quickly took my bath and got dressed. I had no drugs to take so I did the only thing I knew to do. I reached for a bottle of anointing oil, went on my knees and prayed. Basically just said Psalm 23, anointed my upset belly and my head. Then I got up and left. Like I miracle I immediately felt better. 
         Got to the car and it wouldn't start. (MURPHY'S LAW!!!). Made a quick call, my brother came to lend me his car but said I would have to return it before 1pm as he had things to do. Eventually I got to the hotel at Ikeja at 7.20am and did my job. The bride and her family were pleased with the job. I'll post pictures soon, hopefully. But get this, after all the running around, the minute I was done with the job the fever returned, the tummy growled and fatigue hit again. I may have to see a doctor but I'm so grateful that for those hours I needed to work I was 100% strong and capable. 

Now to my apology. This is for my friends NWAMAKA AND OBIORA EGWUONWU. 
let me begin by wishing them a very happy married life. After I did the job, like I said I had to go return the car and then I took a cab back for their wedding in Ikeja. By this time the traffic everywhere was crazy. I made it back to the church where I thought the reception would be holding at about 4pm (the message I got said the reception will be holding in the church's hall) only to be told that the reception wasn't holding there. I kept calling the groom's friend who's also my friend ; Ugo. I called Ugo severally and he didn't pick. My only alternative would be to call the couple and I didn't think it was right thing to do, so after trying Ugo a few more times without any success I asked the  cab driver to take me back home. I know this sounds like a poor excuse but with the way I was feeling I really just wanted to be in bed. I feel especially bad because I was unable to make their traditional marriage last year where I was supposed to tie Nwamaka's three ichafu (gele) for the marriage. I got a mail a couple of days before to attend an interview. (Only to stay back for the interview and attend it and be told by the principal that No, the job isn't for a lawyer, it's for a Personal Assistant that has worked in a Law firm. Aaaaaaaaargh! Dude, you didn't open my CV before inviting me for an interview??? Apparently he didn't as the two other people who showed up to the interview were lawyers too). 

Anyways I don't know how to apologize to the couple. I'm just hoping that if Nwamaka visits this blog again she will read this and forgive me. I feel so horrible because on their way to the church for the wedding she actually called me and said they were expecting me o! And I was like "babe, if I dont't come for your wedding who will come?". SMH @ myself. 


  1. How do you feel today? Sorry about the ill health, you should see a doctor. Thank God you became strong enough to do your job.
    I understand you were feeling ill, and as such couldn't make it to the wedding but if I were your friend I'd be sad or should I say angry with you! And I don't see why you couldn't call either of their phones since you even made it out to the church.
    Hopefully she accepts your apology soon. Pay them a visit soon...and buy a gift! :D
    Take of you o! You'll be fine.

    1. ^*Take care of you.

    2. cccc I agree with you. If I was that intent then I should have called their phones but to be honest I just needed to lie down so I went home.

    3. Eiyah, ok, pele. Of course you'd want to lie down when you feel ill.
      And you didn't answer my question - how do you feel today?

  2. and for the fact the she called you on d d-day, u being present wld ve meant a lot to her. But wait, cldnt u ask the people at the church where the venue of the reception? or nobody was there at all? Just asking, i'm in no way doubting ur claims

    1. Ahn ahn Anon, I asked! I asked the security at both the entrance and exit gates. I asked a few people in the church if they knew where the people that had a wedding there that morning were. In truth, there's no excuse. Because of my health I didn't make as much effort as I should have but I should have been there, I was wrong and I will understand if the couple doesn't understand.

  3. I'm sure she'll understand. I know I would. Just buy her a gift and apologize to her my dear. Hope u are feeling a lot better. Take melicine Oo°˚˚˚°! Lol.
    @ ccc do couples take thier calls on their wedding day? I know I mine was off truout my wedding day .

    1. I doubt that they'd take their calls themselves, but would kinda assign a friend to taking calls and replying messages, especially for directions. I've done that assignment a couple of times.

  4. Thelms, please see a doctor.When u r finally feeling fine, pay the couple a visit, explain yourself and go witha gift,

  5. @ favourite I will certainly visit with a gift. Tokoni I will take melicine. Haha!

  6. Awwww, Kpele Love... feel better soon.
    Visit ur friend with gifts, apologies & tears!


  7. @ruth, lol..z. You re rit. It would really be nice to add tears to her apology. But thelma, wat kind of job do u do for brides ? Is it make up ?

    1. Ya. She's a make up artiste.

  8. First of all I must say you did a great Job.I was sad you did not show up cos I thought it was just a job to you so you came and did your thing and left.Now I know you were sick it's ok,I even thank God for giving you that momentary relief to do the makeup.Btw,the reception was at the church hall upstairs as written in my invite.I hold no gudges whatsoever and I'll love the gift but please keep the tears lol.

  9. Nwamaka please don't think it was just a job to me, you and Obie are more than just friends to me. Hearing that it was right there upstairs makes me want to rewind to Saturday. It wasn't easy at all driving all the way back to return the car and take a cab to come back only to be told it wasn't there. Presently I'm not even speaking to Amasike because I called and called and called and he didn't pick, although he said he was very busy. I just saw your DP and I wanted to ping but fear nor gree me. I can't even ping Obiora. I told Ugo to find out when you're moving so that I can come and apologise in person, I didn't want to do it over the phone. And I'm glad you liked the job. Pls extend my apology to your hubby, my brova!

  10. Thelma, Just make sure you visit her at her house armed with your gift and a bottle of wine so she can gist you all about the highs and lows of the planning. if she is like me, a pair of shoes will be great. ( I sey sell shoe, just ping me LOL) . Health first darling. This visit should be done soonest to give it more meaning. XoXo.

  11. * highs and lows of the wedding jare.


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