One of the reasons I'm thankful for the blog is because I've gotten to meet some really amazing people. Earlier today I chatted with one of our blog readers *Fope and she shared a problem with me. We decided to put it up on the blog and get your thoughts and opinions, and possibly your advice.
Fope has been married for a little over a year and has a baby. Two months back after a minor argument her husband moved all his things out of their room to the guest room. They've since made up and everything has gone back to normal but he has refused to move back to the bedroom saying that it's better this way and he prefers having his own space. He insists there's no harm in sleeping in separate bedrooms but Fope isn't comfortable with this arrangement. She thinks it's too soon in their marriage to sleep in separate bedrooms and also she says it has affected their bond and their sex life a little. But no matter how much she talks hubby won't move (his things) back in or let her stay in his new room. She wonders if she's overreacting and if it's normal for couples to sleep in separate rooms.
All my life my parents stayed in different bedrooms and this is how they've lived for over thirty years so I thought it was normal, and I thought it was a decision they both made (actually I thought it was my mum's idea as she's more practical than emotional). But just last week I was talking to my mum about something and she says she will never forget the day my dad moved her out of the bedroom, she said it was one of the most painful days of her marriage. But after fighting it and failing her mother asked her to pick her battles wisely and move on. I don't know if it affected their marriage (they're still happily married), I know now as an old couple they're probably better off in separate rooms but when my mum talked about it, even after thirty years the hurt was still visible. Well, like I told the blog reader, I'm not equipped to give advice on marital issues so I'm throwing it to the house.
Statistics show that sleeping in separate rooms has it's perks. I read up on it and I found that some older couples who've been married for several years attribute part of their marriage's success to sleeping in separate rooms and doing their own individual things. (Dinner apart ke? Hell no! But I'm in support of taking separate vacations once in a while)
What are your thoughts on a married couple staying in separate bedrooms? Is it something you're currently doing or are likely to adopt? Does it really matter?