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Dear Thelma... Blog Reader Is In Pain.

Dear nwando.I just lost my boyfriend to a car accident two nights ago.6yrs and its jst too long to try to forget. My life is literally in pieces. How do I get over this?do people ever have this same experience?

When I got this mail my heart literally broke. I really don't know the words to say, I don't think there's anything I can say. A friend of mine had a similar experience a couple of years back and it was not easy at all so I can only imagine what this blog reader is going through. Have you had a similar experience? How do you deal with the pain? 

May his beautiful soul rest in peace. 


  1. Oh my! This is so painful! I really hope its not what i'm thinking..May ur soul rest in peace

  2. I would neva understand how you feel. I pray God gives you d fortitude 2 bear dis great loss. So sorry dear!! I pray he is in a beta place. His smiling @ you. Take heart dear!! Hugs*

  3. May God strengthen you to stand strong, He is God and never fails, He will comfort you and do much more..

  4. Dear Poster, God will give you the fortitude to bear this.
    The pain will feel heart-achingly raw- let it.
    Feel it.
    Bawl if you need to.
    Let someone who loves you (family) be there for you now- you need all the support.
    Encourage yourself in the Lord too.
    It will take some time, but it will pass.
    I, Sincerely, feel your pain and my heart goes out to you.
    Accept my deepest sympathies... #lotsofwarmbearhugs

  5. I'll keep U in My Prayers dear poster!!!

    Oh No, Don't try to be strong, what U are experiencing is a shattering experience.

    Cry if U want, Starve if U like, Mourn him for as long as Ur Heart can take.
    But do all the above in moderation! As a Christian who knows death is not the end. John 5:28/29 mentions a Resurrection!!!

    Let God's Hope Glue the pieces of ur heart dearie.

  6. I'm so sorry's a terrible terrible thing that has happened to u and u may never be able to forget the pain but u will smile again I promise u.

  7. I'm speechless right now. I can only imagine the pain you're going through. Take it easy and take heart, dear Poster. The LORD is your strength. May his gentle soul Rest in Perfect Peace. Amen

  8. Honey,may God give u d grace to bear dis and see beyond it...pls take heart,may God forgive him and may his soul rest in peace.pls takie n take heart.we love u very much on this blog,I know thelma does,I do,ruthy does,enjay does,memphis does,steele does,aniella does.wale does...inshort we all so sorry abt ur lose dear...

    1. Yes dear. We all do love you. It is well with you honey..

  9. Dear poster, may God give you the fortitude to bear this. Sorry about the loss, really sorry.

  10. Some people say 'all is well' but if you've ever lost someone you'd know it really isn't at that time. I pray that God gives you all the strength you need and comfort you immensely. And at those times when your pillows are soaked in tears and its hard to understand why it happened to you, I pray you feel God wrap His arms around you. We would never understand why death, pain and sorrow occurs, but we should always know that ALL things work together for our good. God bless you and he will make your heart joyful once more. #Enjay#

  11. Dearie,I pray God comforts you and give u more grace to bear this loss..Lulu

  12. May God comfort you dear poster in a way that Only Him can. Am so so so sorry. May his soul Rest in Peace.

  13. I don't know how you will even begin to get over this, but like the commenter above said, you will smile again. Trust me.
    My eldest sister lost her husband barely a week after he paid her dowry to assassins' bulletsssss and the worst part of it all is that it happened in her very before. Where she got the strength to carry his lifeless body to the hospital and on being pronounced dead, depositing the same body she had laid on not up to an hour before in the mortuary, I can't explain. My sister is an angel, things like this don't happen to angels but it did. It could have only been God that pulled her through it because we (her siblings) were to grieved to even begin to know how to console her. Four months later, she found her now husband and they are happily married with three adorable kids. So like Ruthy said, cry for as long as you want, starve if it helps too but please do it in moderation and promise all of us that you won't use this one tragedy as an excuse to shut love out. I believe in my little mind that you lost boo will have a hand in picking out that one man that will love you twice as much as he loved you. Take heart dearie.

  14. I know its not easy to lose a dear one.but time heals all wounds, pain and aches.God wuld give u d strength to carry o d comment above, u will smile again.

  15. God will give u the fortitude to bear the loss. I can imagine d pain ur going thru, but please try and be strong. May his soul rest in peace.

  16. My dear take heart. I remember wen I lost my bf, he was an angel that's y God took him, he was too good to remain here on earth. I cried like no man business but there's always hope my darlyn just take heart. God will heal ur broken heart.Mrs m

  17. All i can offer is prayers that God gives u a reason to smile when u feel there's none and shoulders 2 lean and cry on in times when hope seems lost. May he rest in the Lord's peace.

  18. Take heart dear, and keep hope alive. May his soul rest in peace.


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