Thelma, what if the guy had proposed and a year after, no wedding yet? See, this is my story. I met this guy when we were finishing our PG program in 2012 and i made him understand am not ready to date until i start working cuz i was enjoying my single status. We were both full time students and he swept me off my feet so i started dating him, barely two months into the relationship the guy proposed o, we had just finished school and trying to get jobs, i had reservations about the proposal but i accepted and didnt even really announce the proposal to friends cuz i know we both were not financially capable for the wedding. The proposal was december 2012, i got a job in 2013 and have been supporting him with what am earning as he is still job hunting, as i type this am so confused cuz i remember giving him an ultimatum in december 2013 that by the 1st quarter of 2014, if i dont see any commitment from him, then am leaving. I stopped wearing his ring last year, and we really fought about me not wearing the ring. I am tired of waiting and hoping... how long do i have to wait?
This reminds me of a joke I've never really found funny; The Lord of The Rings joke. You know, the one where he proposes to you and several months or years later is still yet to show further commitment.
I'm weary of giving an opinion in personal matters where I don't know the parties personally. You've given an ultimatum, you've made a demand and set a standard and if he doesn't do the needful then it may be the time to evaluate your relationship and move on. I didn't see anywhere you mentioned you love him and want to be his wife, your only issue seems to be time.
Do you love him? Besides the wait, the unemployment and poor finances is he someone you want to spend your life with? How intense is his job search; is he making visible and serious efforts to better his situation and begin a new life with you? (I'm asking this because I want you to be certain you're not just his meal-ticket. Proposing barely after two months raises my brows.) If YES to all of these then I'll say give it more time, the first quarter of 2014 only just ended. Continue to support, pray for and encourage him. Help may just be around the corner.
Otherwise my sister please do the needful.
I wish you good luck.
Blog readers what would you advice in this situation?